Is pissing in the park a giant red flag?

[enkelt2]

So I just met a new friend, and we were having a chat in the park. He then stood up, saying 'I'm going to have to relieve myself soon'. We chatted for 3 more minutes, then he excused himself.

He came back, admitted to having relieved himself in a corner of the park.

I feel that it's not great to admit you just pissed in public. But how big of a deal is it really? And how do people feel about this? I have witnessed random men pissing in the park before...

I think the act itself not okay, but more than that, I find his totally being ok and telling me about it, a bit more disturbing than the fact of having done it.

Not looking to date this person. Just curious how you'd feel about this? Would you still hang out with them, etc.

I guess I'm just a bit shocked, since his demeanour is very calm and logical and it just doens't seem like something he'd do (and admit to doing!).

Revolting!

Disgusting

The expression ‘release myself’ would have been enough for me. Ugh.😱

Release or relieve? Either way grim to pee in a park, absolutely no need.

Hideous. I would’ve left immediately.

hahah sorry typo, I meant relieve

Urinating outdoors is only acceptable if its a child in desperate need. An adult should be able to wait , or look for a public toilet or coffee shop.

Not ideal no but questions:
How old is he?
Is there a loo anywhere near?
And how long had you been chatting in the park before he went for a wee?

It’s just vile, and always men. Women just don’t do this or piss on the side of the road. Why can’t they control themselves as women do
🤮

Prostate problems?

I’ve wee’d in a park at night before coming home from the pub!
If I was in company I’m not sure I’d mention where I had gone to the toilet but then I also don’t think I’d have done it in the day 🫠

It’s more the casual bravado of telling you, instead of glossing over it. No hand washing! Red flag for me innit

Yeah, it doesn't sound like a euphemism for peeing, does it!

Relieve himself, yes, release is a bit 😶

Ets - oh, it was a typo! Thank god, it was worse than the peeing! 😂

It's not big deal I do it all the time. I also sniff my mates bums.

I should mention that I am a dog.

It’s disgusting. Children play in the park - why should they have to avoid human waste? Also shows a complete lack of self control and entitlement. Women manage to hold it in until they are in the appropriate place - so can men. This would be a huge red flag for me.

Wouldn't bother me, not like it's on the street. Dogs piss and shit everywhere, that's what I really hate!

My 5 year old is better toilet trained than he is.

Depends, if there's absolutely no loos in or near the park and can't hold on then needs must, there's a park quite near me that only recently got loos and before then (mainly) kids used to disappear into the bushes for a quick wee if there all day. Nearest public loos were a couple of miles away.
Otherwise use a toilet if there is one!

I’m 50. I have been known to go for a wee in the woods on a dog walk. My pelvic floor is not what it used to be.

Not a park though. Surely there would be nearby loos.

He obviously didn't wash his hands. Piss-poor hygeine.

Yes, this is a man who is trying to push your boundaries by doing something uncivilised right at the start of the friendship. He's testing you with this one act to see how much you're willing to overlook.

Drop him.

Wouldn't bother me if it was discreet.

Did he actually 'just' have a wee?

'Relieving myself' could just as easily have been referring to either of two other bodily functions...

omg, I should think so!! It was pretty fast!

When you have to go you have to go. If there were (open) toilets he should have used then if not what do you do? Telling you, a bit of bravado maybe.