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Is pissing in the park a giant red flag?

132 replies

enkelt2 · 08/05/2025 20:45

So I just met a new friend, and we were having a chat in the park. He then stood up, saying 'I'm going to have to relieve myself soon'. We chatted for 3 more minutes, then he excused himself.

He came back, admitted to having relieved himself in a corner of the park.

I feel that it's not great to admit you just pissed in public. But how big of a deal is it really? And how do people feel about this? I have witnessed random men pissing in the park before...

I think the act itself not okay, but more than that, I find his totally being ok and telling me about it, a bit more disturbing than the fact of having done it.

Not looking to date this person. Just curious how you'd feel about this? Would you still hang out with them, etc.

I guess I'm just a bit shocked, since his demeanour is very calm and logical and it just doens't seem like something he'd do (and admit to doing!).

OP posts:
Joystir59 · 09/05/2025 00:11

I've wee'd in the bushes when walking my dog.

GreatTheCat · 09/05/2025 00:16

Luck you. You don't have MS or something like it.

KhakiOrca · 09/05/2025 00:35

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

CovidMemories · 09/05/2025 00:44

Amazing how many women who have had children still have bladders of steel. Or perhaps never walk further than a few minutes from a public toilet?

I've weed outside many, many times. Including in large parks (of the sort that have mix of open areas, woodland, the odd play park bit). If there's no loo what are you supposed to do?

I always carry hand sanitiser though - although as a woman I'm not actually touching anything.

TheHerboriste · 09/05/2025 00:49

Disgusting!! Bin!!!!

TheHerboriste · 09/05/2025 00:49

CovidMemories · 09/05/2025 00:44

Amazing how many women who have had children still have bladders of steel. Or perhaps never walk further than a few minutes from a public toilet?

I've weed outside many, many times. Including in large parks (of the sort that have mix of open areas, woodland, the odd play park bit). If there's no loo what are you supposed to do?

I always carry hand sanitiser though - although as a woman I'm not actually touching anything.

Jesus Christ.

It’s called planning ahead.

MrsKeats · 09/05/2025 00:53

Grim

TatteredAndTorn · 09/05/2025 00:56

This wouldn’t bother me at all. If you’ve got to go you’ve got to go and I assume that there were no toilets available. Harder for women but I’ve outdoor wee’d many a time when desperate (obviously somewhere discreet). Better that than having an accident in my clothes!

CovidMemories · 09/05/2025 01:01

TheHerboriste · 09/05/2025 00:49

Jesus Christ.

It’s called planning ahead.

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Well I always go in an actual loo if there's a chance to. But sometimes I need to go again before there's another loo. If I planned ahead to ensure I was never caught short, my life would be limited to being within a certain, short, distance of a loo at all times.

Does no one else walk in the countryside or in large parks without public loos? It's not even about leaving the park, you then have to actually find somewhere with a loo you can use or get home.

MelliC · 09/05/2025 01:15

I am sure he didn't want to pee in the park. I am sure he tried to plan ahead. But given that or wetting himself, the bushes probably seemed the best option. It might be a symptom of a medical problem. (My friend's husband had prostate cancer and urgent need to pee was the first sympton).

Pinkishcherryblossoms · 09/05/2025 01:30

Would you pearl clutchers rather your friends with a bursting bladder should rupture their internal structures or piss their pants in front of you. If it needs out, it needs to come out. I'm on water tablets and I'd drop me pants and let rip in a car park, if I absolutely had to, before I'd sit in wet clothes covered with a litre of piddle all day. Not everyone can hold it. Even a hernia will make a man wet himself if he tries to hold it in. Not even everyone who is healthy can hold it in.

It's only water and natural substances. Urine isn't toxic. Maybe all the wild animals need to be put in nappies if mammal urine is so nasty.

TheHerboriste · 09/05/2025 01:44

Pinkishcherryblossoms · 09/05/2025 01:30

Would you pearl clutchers rather your friends with a bursting bladder should rupture their internal structures or piss their pants in front of you. If it needs out, it needs to come out. I'm on water tablets and I'd drop me pants and let rip in a car park, if I absolutely had to, before I'd sit in wet clothes covered with a litre of piddle all day. Not everyone can hold it. Even a hernia will make a man wet himself if he tries to hold it in. Not even everyone who is healthy can hold it in.

It's only water and natural substances. Urine isn't toxic. Maybe all the wild animals need to be put in nappies if mammal urine is so nasty.

I’d rather they wear adult nappies than foul public spaces with unsanitary bodily fluids.

TheHerboriste · 09/05/2025 01:45

Arancia · 08/05/2025 23:56

It's a big deal to me. For several reasons:

  1. It's disgusting - not only won't the place stink of his urine, but his hands will be dirty after doing his business
  2. As an adult, he should be able to hold it in until he finds a toilet
  3. It's vulgar to piss anywhere else but in the toilet
  4. This gross habit will make me wonder what other gross habits he has

Exactly.

If he thinks that’s acceptable, imagine what else he does.

Hebrides181 · 09/05/2025 04:06

Having witnessed relatives trying to live with prostate, bladder and bowel problems which have severely impacted their lives then I’m firmly in the ‘not a red flag’ camp.

rwalker · 09/05/2025 04:57

marmitegirl01 · 08/05/2025 20:50

It’s just vile, and always men. Women just don’t do this or piss on the side of the road. Why can’t they control themselves as women do
🤮

Men are better equipped for an alfresco piss

Neemie · 09/05/2025 05:15

Mumsnet is really shocked by this kind of thing. It wouldn’t bother me at all. It is a wee and public toilet facilities are pretty bad in this country.

FigTreeInEurope · 09/05/2025 06:32

All the non park pisser's, are going to be fucked if the 'leccie ever goes down for longer than a day.

Civilization is great, but isn't it a bit entitled to be "grossed out" by someone doing what their ancestors did for millions of years?

JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen · 09/05/2025 06:35

I think it’s gross but OTOH some people have illnesses or disabilities which mean they can’t wait.

LaurelAvenue · 09/05/2025 06:42

JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen · 09/05/2025 06:35

I think it’s gross but OTOH some people have illnesses or disabilities which mean they can’t wait.

That's why there are Incopads, Tena Lady etc

Bjorkdidit · 09/05/2025 06:46

Eh? You think people should wear incontinence pads and then walk round with it full for hours instead of having a wee behind a bush? Give over.

And since when was urinating a few times a day an 'illness or disability' FFS? I know that MN likes to pretend otherwise, but it's a perfectly normal bodily function and unless you never go far from home/work etc, there's going to be times when you need to go and there isn't a toilet available.

helplesshopeless · 09/05/2025 06:54

My exh had a shit in the local woods once Confused we were only about ten mins away from home. truly disgusting. He found it amusing and no doubt cackled with his mates over it later

Wolfpa · 09/05/2025 06:57

Were there toilets near by? Did he go somewhere private?

I go on long walks and sometimes a wild wee is necessary.

heffalumpwoozle · 09/05/2025 07:02

It's disgusting if it's just something he does by default, rather than trying to wait or find a toilet.

It's pretty rare that neither of those options are possible, unless there's a health condition.

If it's a one off and he was absolutely desperate and there was no one around, I wouldn't think too much of it as long as it was discreet and far away from where any kids might be playing.

Delatron · 09/05/2025 07:12

I think it depends on a few things;

Were there toilets within a few minutes?
Was it a large country park with loads of trees or a small kids play park?

If it was a larger park with no toilets nearby and he was discreet behind a tree then I’d have no issue. I have often done a wild wee on a dog walk as my bladder is rubbish.

However, right by a kids playground with toilets nearby is slightly different.

Penis hands 😂

Natsku · 09/05/2025 07:31

If there weren't any toilets near enough and he couldn't be seen by anyone passing by then I don't see the issue.