Paid over £150 for daughters hair and she hates it!

[Brainfogmcfogface]

What do I do?
my daughter (10yo) has been pleading for months to have her hair in long braids, 7 hours at the salon, lots of tears, and we’ve come home and she’s broken down saying she hates it, I’ve scrimped and saved for this, (single mum very low paying wage just about make ends meet) it’ll take hours to remove too, I just don’t know! What would others do? Tell her to keep it for a bit, whilst she cries her heart out, start taking it out? She’s got added hair, and they’re super long and I’ve no experience removing so god knows how long it’ll take, we’ve spent the whole day at the salon and I’ve had to put away every spare penny! I’m so sad she’s so upset, I wanted her first proper salon experience to be a good one, now I don’t think she’ll ever want to come to one again, I think she looks stunning btw! And was so excited to get it done, it’s been an exhausting day, but rather then a “it’ll be worth it in the end” experience it’s now a complete waste of time and money!

Jeez

So glad she’s happier now OP.

Hair sounds stunning! I bet she looks really cool!

The hardness may soften as it grows out a bit?

She’s really young and done a pretty adult thing so it’s normal to have a wobble but sounds like she’s coming through it now. Well done for supporting her and loving her in all ways.

You sound like a brilliant mum 🥰❤️

What a totally cunty comment.

Exactly. No wonder there are some mean kids at school. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree…

I think I was in my 20s before I came home from the hairdresser and did not cry. Ask her to live with them for a few days and see how she feels then.

Hopefully she will get used to them.
I remember having them done years ago, it took a few nights before I could sleep with them.

Can you arrange a play date with a couple of friends and prime the parents to get the kids say how cool it is

India Arie's I am not my hair - 20 years old and still relevant!

Me I'd be telling her how much.money you spent and how long it took you to save to get something she really wanted

Yes i agree, who the hell are you to judge this amazing sounding mother like this?

Could you be any more condescending? Plenty of people on low incomes save up to give their children treats and nice things. Why do you think you have the right to comment like that to OP?

This! What a ridiculous waste of money that you clearly could have spent a million times better. This should be a lesson for you AND your child!

I can imagine it feels sooo different to what she is used to, It will take time, hardest part will be convincing her of that while she is feeling uncomfortable. Good Luck.

Disgusting comments on here ‘can’t believe you paid that when you’re broke’ ie steroetype mum is on low income therefore on benefits, daughter is black so ‘ooh must be on benefits, black people are poor’ 🙄🙄🙄😡

Really? When I was at school pretty much every girl who went abroad came back with their hair in braids.

When did things get so mental?

I would assume it has to do with health care - when it's successfully being provided - is simply tailored better for white women in white country's/black women in black country's, a white European country probably isn't necessarily going to be the best place for a black African women to give birth depending on their needs & complications in general.

Im not fully sold on the racist aspect of it your implying (because I genuinely think there are faults in the system itself that enables certain people to rise to the top career wise & under performers to hide out)

@Brainfogmcfogface you've had some very frustrating responses on here. You sound like an awesome mum and it's lovely that you've saved for your daughter to do this. I really hope she grows to love her braids.

Is this her first ever time having braids? Or just her first time having extensions? Your post wasn’t clear but it makes a difference and I think she will struggle a lot more not liking it if she’s never had braids full stop.

She said she is 'only just making ends meet'.
£150 on a hairstyle is a stupid decision in that circumstance, I stand by what I said. Especially for a 10yr old kid!!

Ends would meet a whole lot easier with an extra £150 this month towards food, bills and much healthier treats like a trip to the swimming pool or similar at a fraction of the cost.

£150 on a one time hairstyle for a kid. Don't be bloody ridiculous suggesting that's sensible spending 🙄

For how long?

Where has anyone said that about black people??

Why is it culturally inappropriate? Vikings had their hair in tight braids, as did many people, men and women, in Europe throughout the Middle Ages. Plaits are plaits and very European.
And before you tell me it's those tight braids, I know. It's still not cuturally inappropriate.
To OP, you sound awesome. I hope DD will feel better in a while and things will be ok.

Research shows it is down to a few reasons, one of which is racial bias.

I was admittedly very frustrated by the ‘why can’t white women wear there hair how they want, if it was the other way there’d be a riot’ comment.

Comments like this perpetuate the angry black woman stereotype. It is so frustrating as a black woman to be faced with these microagressions on the daily.

@Brainfogmcfogface more fool you! spending 150 quid on a 10 yr old's hair is crazy!

Sounds like a drastic change OP to her normal style, but I’m sure once she has got used to it, and receives compliments from friends, she will be fine.

And to all those with their faux outrage over ‘cultural appropriation’, get a grip. It matters not a jot what race someone is, if someone wants their hair a particular way, then it’s up to them. No-one else’s business.