Would the police do anything?

[DontKnowWhatToSay25]

I wrote to someone telling them if they attempted to contact me or my family I'd contact the police. I've blocked them and their partner from all sm etc.

I then contacted their partner with a separate message.

They've written to me together.

Can I call the police?

You just have to ignore them now OP. They are right that you can’t dictate anything about contact with mutual friends. Even if they were actually harassing or stalking you, an injunction preventing them from contacting you wouldn’t include mutual friends or acquaintances. The Police won’t be interested in one civil reply to a letter asking them to not only cease contact with you but also with your mutual friends. I don’t suppose they will send you anything further as long as you stop contacting them too.

They haven't threatened or harassed you so it's highly unlikely that the police will do anything about them replying to your message. You can't dictate to them about them seeing mutual friends. If I were you, I'd ignore them and concentrate on keeping an eye on your cheating husband!

Which is an entirely different situation and has absolutely not a thing to do with the OP's scenario - which you know had you read the thread!!!! The only person harassing people is the OP!

Of course the OP contacted them. How else are you supposed to tell someone to leave you alone once and for all?

You contacted one of them after blocking them and telling them not to contact you. And now because they've replied together, you want to contact the police. The police won't do a thing because you instigated contact again.

If you make threats of police re contact, it's best not to initiate contact with the people you're threatening with police.

Wow. Just Wow. I feel like I slept all through March and have woken up on April 1st, with this the first attempt at a joke.

@DontKnowWhatToSay25 With all consideration, the only one to blame for your (D)H dipping his wick into a different wax pot than yours, is your (D)H. No one forced him, blackmailed him, threatened him or coerced him. It was HIS choice and his choice alone.
I hope you get some counselling so you can understand that and decide if your (D)H is truly worth your investment of love.

Sorry but YABVU. Please don't waste police time with this.

I’m kinda hoping that this one is a reverse but as it stands
Do NOT go to the police
IF you want to make a go of it with your husband, then I suggest couple counselling/ therapy, but I think you should also have counselling just for yourself as well.
The blame for the affair cannot be laid at her feet … at all, actually. She owed you nothing, but your husband did. You need to accept that, come to terms with it, and deal with the fact in whatever seems right to you. He was the one who ultimately betrayed your trust, not her.
As for telling them to stay away from mutual friends, it’s not going to work anyway. If anything, it’ll add fuel to the idea that your husband cheated because you were controlling/ unstable in whatever other narrative and justification they’ve created.
The police will not (indeed, cannot) do anything at all, unless they begin harassing you, and just to warn you, you contacting them could be seen as harassment on your part.
Im sorry that your husband cheated on you, it sucks, but you need to make some really major choices from here, and trying to blame her for everything isn’t going to help you get past this.

You obviously include it in the letter saying they mustn’t contact mutual friends either, maybe it got lost in all that?

You seriously think it is a police matter to enforce you telling her dh who he can and cannot be pals with?

Your dh chose to be unfaithful to you. This situation is entirely of your dh's making, he was the one who broke his vows to you, not the OW or her DH, if you can get over it and continue to see your dh, surely it will be easier to get over it and see them too, they never betrayed you anywhere near as much as he did.

If you cannot deal with seeing the OW and her DH at social events then you deal with it by keeping away. This is your problem with your dh not theirs.

I'm sorry your husband cheated on you @DontKnowWhatToSay25

The truth is, you have a husband problem - and potentially a problem with not holding him responsible with regards to your need to tell her that he is now where he is loved?! Was he not with you before he cheated? Was he not loved before and still chose to cheat?

You do not have OW problem. She didn't agree in sickness/health etc., towards you. That is only between her and her husband. She has said she is sorry and she is right, you can't dictate where she goes or who she speaks to. She can't lose her friends b/c your husband cheated on you. It just doesn't work that way. I think you are trying to punish her by calling the police. Her partner replied to your communication with his spouse. This is not where to put your energy.

I'd suggest some individual counselling to give you the support you need to both move on (together or separately) and understand what you do/don't have a right to which granted can be hard when you feel you've lost your world - people often hold onto trying to control things to protect themselves. No amount of control will stop your husband cheating again. That's the hard reality.

This could constitute harassment - definitely report it and include the fact that you told them not to contact you. You have nothing to lose from reporting it.

My ex kept calling me from a withheld number. I reported it, they arrested him and took his phone which they downloaded and proved it was him who made all the calls to me. They couldn’t charge him in the end due to CPS being a pain (not the police’s fault) but the fact that I went to the police and he got arrested was enough to stop him from contacting me again.

I'm sorry you're feeling hurt but you're angry with the wrong people. Your DH is the one who cheated on you and he is entirely responsible for that. You were daft to make an empty threat, they haven't acted illegally and, in fact, you seem to be the one harassing them. Let it go.

Absolutely not a police matter

And any affair was your husband's decision. Why aren't you blaming him?

Your letter to her husband telling him to stay away from friends is threatening, it's not against the law. If you made contact first how can you tell them not to contact you, how did you get their individual contact details, were they friends. What are you going to do about being married to a lying cheating scumbag.

Presumably his friends too?

Do you know how mad you sound?

this really.

No crime has been committed so of course it’s not a police matter. In addition you can’t dictate to others which mutual friends of yours they can or can’t see.

You really think this is the same thing?

And again - if you had read the thread you would know that the OP contacted them AFTER she told them to cease contact with her. She had a list of questions for the wife (which she sensibly refused to respond to in any form) and DEMANDED that the husband give up his friends. The harassment is coming from the OP. Not the other way around.

The police 😂get a fucking grip of yourself. They’ll laugh in your face

Your DH had an affair.....but it's all the other woman's fault, how did you come to that conclusion?

My bad - no, I only read the initial post and jumped to respond as I was triggered with memories of my ex and doubting whether to call the police at the time!

OP is harassing them, not the other way around way round. She made a set of incredibly unreasonable & completely legally unenforceable demands (e.g. that the DH of her husband’s affair partner break off contact with mutual friends). They responded calmly, telling her they would not comply with her unreasonable requests.

There is no history of them harassing her. She initiated contact with them. Police will not be at all interested.

You're mistaken. My DH told his mother if she ever contacted him again, he'd go to the police because he wanted NC.

The police were VERY INTERESTED and dealt with it. Under new harassment laws.

I can’t see that happening here, OP is completely wasting police time.

She can’t demand what she wants regarding mutual friends 😆.