Would the police do anything?

[DontKnowWhatToSay25]

I wrote to someone telling them if they attempted to contact me or my family I'd contact the police. I've blocked them and their partner from all sm etc.

I then contacted their partner with a separate message.

They've written to me together.

Can I call the police?

"back where he was loved"

I'm sorry but he's a cheating husband, not a pet dog that was stolen and returned to you.

Please stop contacting them as it is just going to make you look batshit infront of them, your friends and everyone else. You are going to loose any sympathy that you might of had and people are going to start thinking, no wonder he had an affair if that's who he has to live with.

You have no legal right to stop him from seeing your mutual friends. Your mutual friends will make their own decisions.

You also have no legal grounds to threaten them with the police - there's nothing reportable here. You do not have sufficient grounds to get any type of order against them.

You made an empty, groundless threat. They have responded. It's extremely unlikely that the police will be at all interested in any of this; but if they are, you are more likely to be warned than they are - you've "threatened" them with the police, they seem to have been calm and reasonable.

I am sorry that your husband had an affair, but it is him that you have to deal with. You cannot do anything about anyone elses' behaviour, you have to be able to trust his. If you can't do that, you've got no future. If you feel you can, but you're unable to heal with these people around, you need to relocate your family, not expect them to do it. Your husband is just as complicit, and you have no grounds to ask them to move. You do have some grounds with your husband, at least, if he wants to remain your husband.

Oh OP, your husband is to blame for your pain (he owes loyalty to you - she only owes loyalty to her own DH).

Your DH is therefore the only person you can make demands of (if he wants to stay married). You can't make demands of her, and you definitely can't make demands of her husband who can have had no possible responsibility for your pain, whatever you say about 'complicit'.

Honestly, if you go to the police they will think you're nuts and it could all rebound on you.

Wait, so your DH shagged another woman but it wasn’t his fault (not sure how that could work. Was he doing the hoovering in the nude and accidentally fell into her?) and now he’s back home where he is loved, and hopefully you’ve given him a good scrub down with a wire brush and Dettol).

The recipient of your husband’s affections has fessed up to her DH and they have decided to stay together. They have responded to a letter you wrote to them telling them to back off with a ‘we’re moving on and don’t tell us where we can or can’t go’, and now you want to call the police on them? You need to look closer to home. Your DH needs to win back your trust and make sure he can keep his penis in his undergarments. You’ve ‘won’ a pretty low grade specimen of a man. It’s only 50% the OW’s fault. The other 50% is his.

LOL!

Embarrassing

No. You might be charged for wasting police time.

This is absolute loony toons behaviour. You cannot dictate who this couple can and cannot see and where this couple can and cannot go because your husband cannot keep his dick in his pants.

Your blaming the wrong people - your husband had the affair - you can't dictate what other people do or who they see or speak to - you need to get a grip. You planning on calling the police and telling them what - the woman who had an affair with my husband and her husband won't do what I say? They barely have time to deal with crimes.

This is ridiculous.

Ring the non emergency line. Tell us what they say when they've finished laughing

I’m embarrassed for you!

Lol, this is the most ridiculous thing I've read on here in a long time. The fault is with your husband, she owes you fuck all, and you cannot dictate who they see or socialise with!

You don’t get to dictate who they speak to, where they go, or what they do - as long as it is within the law. They have not been threatening, so there is no law (and there shouldn’t be) that will help you.

it is not the “other woman” or her partner who has wronged you, it is your husband.

Act like a grown up and move on - with or without your husband. Leave this couple in peace.

It sounds like you are the one doing the harassing in this situation.

You contacted the woman with a nasty message, told her not to contact you, but then continued to harass her via her partner.

You do realise that you cannot actually tell people not to speak to mutual friends? It sounds like the tone of your messages was threatening.

Of course the police won't do anything. Other than think you're nuts.

What on earth would the police do? They barely respond to real crime, let alone nonsense.

@DontKnowWhatToSay25

The OW and her DH have written a measured response to you stating that they are sorry and wish to move on - they are behaving like adults and trying to rebuild their marriage. Advice to you is to put your big girl pants on and look closer to home for the issues that prompted your DH to have an affair in the first place. Not blaming you in any way at all but perhaps you both need to look and see what can be done to resolve the fact he had an affair in the first place. Maybe he doesn’t want to stay and be loved - you need to have an adult conversation about what happens next. He is not a pet or a toy and you can’t tell people where they can and cannot go.

JFC. You're delusional.

The Other Woman cannot force your husband to have sex with her- unless it was rape.

So the reality is he chose to have an affair.

If it hadn't been her it would surely be another woman.

You need to focus on him and what he chose to do.
Not try to force the other woman to keep clear of mutual friends.

You can't lock him up in the house- or them- to stop him being unfaithful.

Just because he's 'loved' by you doesn't mean he'll keep it in his trousers.

I dying to know how the OW's husband was 'complicit' in this. Was it a threesome?

She had an affair with my husband. I wrote to her telling her how she is to blame for it all and that my husband is now where he is loved.

Oh, you're one of those DESPERATE and pathetic wives who blame the woman who DID NOT MAKE VOWS TO YOU for him choosing to stick his dick in her, willingly.

She is not to blame. He, 100% is to blame. He made vows to you. She, did not.

The fact that you still love that pos after he fucked another woman shows how incredibly desperate you are, and so lacking in standards and self-respect. You're pitiful. You truly are. And I bet the OW sees how desperate and pathetic you are too, and is laughing.

PS Oh and once a cheater, always a cheater. You know by taking him back that you've given him permission to cheat again (and I PROMISE you he will cheat again), right? Because he knows you're so desperate to hang on to him that he can get away with it. If (er, no, WHEN) he cheats on you again, you'll have only yourself to blame for basically giving him permission by taking him back instead of throwing him in the gutter where he belongs. I bet the OW smells your desperation from where she is and is cacking herself laughing at you.

You're being absolutely ridiculous.

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Of course you can't waste police time with this nonsense.

Sorry your H cheated OP - but you are embarrassing yourself now. Write to your husband and tell HIM to stay away from his friendship group.

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You're that should be!

Do you honestly think you can tell grown adults who to be friends with???????

Bit of a rubbish one if that's the case, given that OP said he was complicit 'in the end'.

Not that I've ever tried one myself, but I'm given to understand that the best threesomes have all participants 'complicit' from start to finish...

Also you're the one that is harassing them (OW and her partner). They should call the police on you. I'd watch yourself if I were you. You don't get to dictate where people go or who they talk to. If you want to do that, dictate to your worthless pos 'husband'.