I am a narcissist

[ohyesido]

I am. But I'm not a horrible person.

I lack empathy but I've learned that it isn't nice to manipulate people.

Yet I still do, only in such a way that no one can ever really accuse me of it. Because I twist my words to indicate that I have everyone's best interests at heart.

Everything I do is calculated to ensure I get my own way while maintaining a facade of good intentions

Can anyone relate?

Has it occurred to you this person is getting a vile kick out of this? They're courting insults.

Interesting read OP. I've only met two proper narcissists in my life. What I witnessed with them were relationship and friendship problems due to their NPD. One of them managed to turn a whole village against her, and from reading between the lines it was clear that this was not the first time she had to up sticks. Do you find this too? Have you been able to hold down long-term friendships?

Huh?

You are the one who brought him up and then gave examples of his personality of how he acts like a dick.

You did not use the word ‘dick’ but you knew exactly how you were describing him and what opinion we would have on him.

How did you expect us to perceive him when you spoke so negatively about him?

You are the one who has implied that he’s a dick who has no respect for anyone, not even his own mother.
No one would admit that if it wasn’t true because they know that it makes him sound like a dick.

I don’t envy you having a son like that as it must be awful but I also don’t blame him totally because he’s been taught to be like this and so I feel sorry for him and anyone else on this thread who has a mother like you.

I’m not trying to be clever, I’m just trying to be honest which is what I thought this thread was about.
It’s a sad state of affairs all round that no one would be envious of and I think you’re brave to admit things that most would be ashamed of.

@SassK ignoring is not the same as courting them

People who are genuinely secure in their relationship really don't say things like this.

I think you have other issues than possible NPD OP. You sound a leeetle bit batshit.

Mother Superior - ooops missed the comma out! 🙈🤣

Bitchy remarks don't really register other than to make me feel proud that I don't need to sink to that level

Health care or psychiatry. Helping others is my guess.

The premise of the thread is to have people tell you how awful you are. You're all over the place, trying to keep it going.

Weirdest attention seeking ever. I do like where you claim to be so articulate and above others.. and then a few posts down you’re throwing the ‘bro’ about.

All I can say is ‘Yes Mother’

Norman Bates in the making.

I don't work in a caring or psychiatric profession. Quite the opposite actually.

Those of you who don't pay for your tv licence or have received a fine for not making your children go to school might have encountered me though

This is interesting and not sure why people are trying to make you feel bad.

You should post on AMA instead of here.

How do you feel about your DH? Do you genuinely love him? If he is going through a hard time, do you feel empathy towards him or do you fake it?

Is that you, cod?

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable response. I don’t think that makes you a Narcissist

You are not a narcissist. You may be an attention seeker, but you are not a narcissist.

You do sound as though you have some sort of mental health disorder OP, whether it's NPD or not, you'll never really know without a diagnosis.

Life does sound very hard for you and your family though

@roseymoira he knows I don't always know the right thing to say and as a very self sufficient man he needs little in the way of comfort

Most mental health professionals in my experience have mental health problems so it would be fitting if you were in that field by your description of yourself.

@MrsPinkSky why? We have a very pleasant comfortable lifestyle, I have no reason to complain

@Devianinc I don't help others. I take their cars into control

Op, do you like the way you currently are, or do you want to change yourself? I'm trying to figure out what you want to gain from the thread.

Would working in a helping role make you feel inferior?

@Apennyforapound why do I need to gain anything? It's a post in Chat, it's not that deep.

And yea I like myself, it's only recently that I had a realisation that perhaps I am a narcissist and I'm exploring it

I think you have too much self awareness to be a narcissist to be honest.

@back2lifeback2reality not inferior I don't think, but I lack patience and find it intrusive if the phone rings and someone wants me to help them with something