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I am a narcissist

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ohyesido · 23/02/2025 16:04

I am. But I'm not a horrible person.

I lack empathy but I've learned that it isn't nice to manipulate people.

Yet I still do, only in such a way that no one can ever really accuse me of it. Because I twist my words to indicate that I have everyone's best interests at heart.

Everything I do is calculated to ensure I get my own way while maintaining a facade of good intentions

Can anyone relate?

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youve987456 · 23/02/2025 18:07

We all have some narcissism in us in some ways and it is a good thing at times. I am very empathetic to some things but literally give no fucks about other things.

Wonderi · 23/02/2025 18:07

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:00

@Matronic6 my DH knows and seems unaffected by it. He will tell me to put a sock in it when I'm lamenting how difficult life is when one is so utterly flawless.

"Did she really say that, or are you just mad that she didn't acknowledge your existence?"is a typical remark. And it's water off a duck's back to me because he gets it

OP I think you might be a bit confused.

The more you post the less you seem to have a NPD.

It’s almost like you’re saying things you think a narcissist would say but only from movies and not true NPD.

What age were you diagnosed and how did this diagnosis come about?

Was this before you had your son?

Was your son always a dick or has that happened as he got older?

TwinklyOrca · 23/02/2025 18:08

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 17:19

Even now I'm smirking that some PPs think they can make veiled digs about my self perception. You're just normal, bro you ain't special!

I kind of am tho

Never heard a grown woman say bro, are you sure you’re just not a young boy bored on a Sunday evening ?

username299 · 23/02/2025 18:08

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 17:40

It piques my interest that a few PPs are keen to insult me.

They're jealous.

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ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:10

@Wonderi why so vicious? No need to call my DS names given that you don't know him

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Hoppinggreen · 23/02/2025 18:11

Anonforthisofcourse · 23/02/2025 18:07

I understand. I am .. something. It is challenging at times to hide it but I understand how to perform in the socially acceptable ways and my spouse, children, wider family and friends have no idea that I don't care about any of them. I have created the person I present to the world in order to have my needs met but other people are of no importance to me.

I pretend to care when my children hurt themselves or a family member or friend is hurt or upset but I don't care.

I've lost family members and have performed grief but I don't actually care.

It's not something you can admit to because it wold make things impossible for you from that point on.

The only difference I feel from this is that I actually DO care about my DC but as an extension of myself - I joke its the Cersei Lannsiter parenting style. If anyone wrongs or hurts them my rage is incredible. I take it very personally.
I love my DC and my DH (to an extent) but I literally do not give a shit about anyone else. The other people in my life have no idea though.

DoYouReally · 23/02/2025 18:11

How does this impact you in a negative way?

What are you hoping to get by posting?

Without clarity on the above, you are unlikely to get any useful posts.

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ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:11

@TwinklyOrca you probably haven't heard of irony either

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wizzywig · 23/02/2025 18:11

I'd love to know what kind of job you're in

ChateauWhistler · 23/02/2025 18:11

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:05

@ChateauWhistler thanks for the solemn sermon, reverend

The truth seems to jar a bit?

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ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:12

@ChateauWhistler or perhaps you're just a little too earnest

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Praying4Peace · 23/02/2025 18:13

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 16:30

I haven't been diagnosed. I don't see how that would make any difference to my life. I will still continue to justify my behaviour when questioned. I don't see anything wrong in getting the outcome that suits me best.

I hope you aren't in a relationship( for your partner's sake)

Wonderi · 23/02/2025 18:13

Mirabai · 23/02/2025 17:56

Where does this misapprehension come from?

You can be a narcissist without having a PD. PDs are serious mental health conditions impacting relationships, work and general functioning.

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No you cannot.
Why do you think this.

A narcissist is a person who has a narcissistic personality disorder.

Narcissism is a diagnosed personality disorder and you cannot be a narcissist without having a PD, as that’s literally what it is.

You can have narcissistic traits, which we all have in varying degrees.
Just like we all have autistic traits in varying degrees, but we are not all autistic.

Narcissistic traits are not a narcissist.
Usually the person is just a bit of a dick but it can be a mixture of MH issues, ND or trauma so is seen from a childhood.

Kittkats · 23/02/2025 18:14

Are you sure? It’s less fashionable as a diagnosis, but this sounds more like psychopathy.

Elsvieta · 23/02/2025 18:14

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 17:29

See I came here for objective advice and people saying mean things designed to hurt me is just water off a duck's back.

I do think I'm special and deserve extra attention and recognition just because I want it. No other justification. I don't like being told what to do and I sneer at anyone who remonstrates with me and tries telling me I'm not as special as I think I am.

Yet I don't go to town and ruin the self esteem of others because I'm self aware enough to realise that that is not nice and it will affect my perception of myself as perfect.

I enjoy it when others try to put me down because I don't sink to that level (because I'm pretty perfect, see)

Advice about what? You haven't given any indication that you want to change. You just asked if anyone can relate - there was no question relating to advice. What are you looking for?

SassK · 23/02/2025 18:14

DoYouReally · 23/02/2025 18:11

How does this impact you in a negative way?

What are you hoping to get by posting?

Without clarity on the above, you are unlikely to get any useful posts.

I suspect he's posting for the humiliation. The new process for posting pics etc equals finding other ways of getting sick kicks.

Brusselsproutsarethebest · 23/02/2025 18:14

wizzywig · 23/02/2025 18:11

I'd love to know what kind of job you're in

Mental health field probably, most fucked up sorts usually self select into this.

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ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:15

Never fails to amaze me how bitchy some people can be.

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Wonderi · 23/02/2025 18:16

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:10

@Wonderi why so vicious? No need to call my DS names given that you don't know him

How am I being vicious?

You have described him as being a dick and not a nice person.
So why would I then say he’s an angel? Or call him any nice names when you’ve not been nice about him yourself?

I’ve been nicer about him than you have.

I actually said I feel sorry for him as he was raised this way so it’s not totally his fault but as a grown adult it doesn’t take away the fact that he’s a dick.

Anonforthisofcourse · 23/02/2025 18:17

Hoppinggreen · 23/02/2025 18:11

The only difference I feel from this is that I actually DO care about my DC but as an extension of myself - I joke its the Cersei Lannsiter parenting style. If anyone wrongs or hurts them my rage is incredible. I take it very personally.
I love my DC and my DH (to an extent) but I literally do not give a shit about anyone else. The other people in my life have no idea though.

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Since I am completely anonymous I can admit that I wouldn't care if they died as long as it didn't make my life difficult.
I do have extreme internal rages and wish death on people.
Beyond some low level personal entertainment I don't act on anything so I don't think it really matters to anyone.
My spouse and children 100% believe I love them deeply.

ChateauWhistler · 23/02/2025 18:17

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:12

@ChateauWhistler or perhaps you're just a little too earnest

It really isn't funny. Particularly the bit about your son. It's tragic,

Dideon · 23/02/2025 18:17

If you have eaten your roast dinner then you’ve rushed it just to get back on this chat . I don’t think you’re a narcissist.

FoolishHips · 23/02/2025 18:17

Wonderi · 23/02/2025 18:13

No you cannot.
Why do you think this.

A narcissist is a person who has a narcissistic personality disorder.

Narcissism is a diagnosed personality disorder and you cannot be a narcissist without having a PD, as that’s literally what it is.

You can have narcissistic traits, which we all have in varying degrees.
Just like we all have autistic traits in varying degrees, but we are not all autistic.

Narcissistic traits are not a narcissist.
Usually the person is just a bit of a dick but it can be a mixture of MH issues, ND or trauma so is seen from a childhood.

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Oh Dr Ramani would strongly disagree with you and she seems to be fairly well qualified....

The OP sounds like a 'mid-range' narcissist...like my ex husband.

TwinklyOrca · 23/02/2025 18:18

ohyesido · 23/02/2025 18:11

@TwinklyOrca you probably haven't heard of irony either

Are you using AI as well to help with responses 😂 what irony is there in calling someone bro. I think you’ve reached your screen time limit today sweetheart. Enjoy playing make believe on forums.

StormingNorman · 23/02/2025 18:18

Do you need to be recognised as a good person?