I am a narcissist

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I am. But I'm not a horrible person.

I lack empathy but I've learned that it isn't nice to manipulate people.

Yet I still do, only in such a way that no one can ever really accuse me of it. Because I twist my words to indicate that I have everyone's best interests at heart.

Everything I do is calculated to ensure I get my own way while maintaining a facade of good intentions

Can anyone relate?

This is just so deeply uninformed from start to finish.

Mental illness and neurological disorders according to internetland.

Do you think it's nature or nurture? And do you ever care for other people's wellbeing? Even if it's secondary to your agenda. Have you ever loved anyone genuinely. As far as you're able?

You are a nasty piece of work and proud of it that does make you a bad person

@HolyPeaches so what? That changes nothing as far as I'm concerned

Interesting OP. I don't think you're a narcissist at all. I actually think you have low self esteem hence having to tell everyone repeatedly how special you are. Those that think they are special never have to tell anyone... they just are and they radiate it.

I hope this thread has clarified any issues you have and you can move on

I have bpd diagnosed so probably have more narcissistic traits then the average person but I certainly don't have npd. It's like saying someone who is anxious has anxiety disorder it's not the same thing. Human beings are complex and will have all sorts of traits but that's a million miles away from a diagnosed disorder

Can you answer the question about whether you feel anything if you watch a news report about say, a child dying or starving people? Or animals being tortured? Do those sort of things trigger any feelings for you?

I'm pretty sure I said I know I'm not special on some level, but yet I continue to believe it and behave as though I am. Why should that bother anyone else

There’s nothing that makes some MNers more winky-eyed than a poster claiming to be special.

narcissism is a personality disorder and therefore, by definition, causes significant problems in your life. If it doesn’t you are not actually narcissist, just maybe self-centred which is very common!

Why don't you want to be diagnosed?

It bothers other posters because they’re insecure and at the same time think they’re more special than you are.

It doesn’t bother me a toot, I’m enjoying this thread.

That is the scientific/medical understanding!

Control what. You mean infotainment consoles.

🤣

Oh Lord.

I'm actually really interested in how you do this.

I work with narcissists amongst other PD.

You said that Dr Ramani disagrees.

So you listened to a podcast and think you know more than me and considering I attached an image of her discussing narcissism as a PD, then you didn’t even comprehend what she says very well.

What training and experience do you have that makes you think narcissism isn’t a PD?
(Even though every clinical psychologist and psychiatrist says it is).

I know two narcissists. They both think they’re greatly admired but really not a single person likes them. Not even their own dc. In fact, people have very strong feelings against them. Do you think it could be delusions of grandeur that you think your ds and dp like you?

I don't think I have a personality disorder.

Do those of you harping on about how I'm not special even know where the term comes from? It's got nothing to do with partners or gaslighting or fresh supply.

This!!

It sounds like you have a close relationship with your husband is that right? I got the sense from your post that he understands you and also calls out your bullshit (as my partner does with my bullshit!). I hope you believe that he thinks of you in his mind as special.
i had some issues growing up and always wanted to be thought of as special by strangers; people I didn’t know. I think that is because I had a really deeply held feeling that I wasn’t special (to my dad growing up).
Luckily some therapy and may years later and I feel more comfortable with being ordinary - and have a sense that my partner does think of me as lovable and unique in his mind. I hope you have some relationships in which you feel loved - and safe

So that means you're not a narcissist. Indeed, you come across as a pleasant and kind (and there's no need to fake that on an anonymous forum) person in previous posts. I'm asking if you feel physically unwell because there are lots of physiological ailments that can result in out of the ordinary behaviour.

@Addeline I'm very secure in the love of my family members. Delusions of grandeur because I think my DH might love me? That's...

No words

You’ve started an entire thread saying you have a PD and now you’ve changed your mind?

Why is that?

So what do you think you have now?

But Npd is a personality disorder which is what your trying to self diagnose your self with