Why do men post on mumsnet? Asking after another thread.

[Mrsredlipstick]

I'm posting after a few questions on other threads have been raised regarding male posters. (I'm not that bothered personally but I have been stalked and abused during my time on MN)
The frequency of posters being offended by males joining the debate is growing.
I only use three SM platforms so I know nothing of Reddit etc. The question is why do men want to post on mumsnet?
FWIW I wouldn't dream of posting on dadsnet. I also don't touch certain boards as they feel smutty.

Maybe they're here because there is a lot of information thats useful to mums, dads, carers, people with no kids etc.

Some will be here to entertain themselves or to wind people up.

I wish the men would just go away. Don’t they have enough? Always invading female spaces.

100%

Mumsnet is not a female space. MNHQ has made that very clear. It's a parenting forum, that was given a name that is now deceptive.

It is primarily a female space. It might not be designated as such, but in practice it very much is.

@MyUmberSeal "
Totally agree. Men are on the whole…viewed as total scum on this site."

This really isn't true. Men are cut sooooo much slack on here! All the infinite varieties of "Men just don't see dirt/understand about birthdays/relate to little children/care about social engagements/remember details/need lists/need reminding/can't cook.......

Well I've just had a look at dadsnet. I opened two threads, and each of them had a female poster on it telling the dad what to do.

So there we go.

Yes, I agree with this.

It's just quite a useful forum. I posted here before I had children, but I was planning to have them. That was back when it was meant to be more for parents. Now it's just a general site.

However, I don't know any man IRL who admits to using MN.

I also think that if it stopped being mainly women on here, I'd probably use it a lot less or not at all.

I don't care if men, child free people or whoever else posts on here as long as they don't behave like a twat.

Perfect post. I agree 💯

It's mumsnet, bugger off over to dadsnet.
The name thing is a weak argument. It's like complaining that you can't get granny Smiths from the Apple store or you can't Indian food from Curry's.

I’m sure it’s different depending on the board, but in general, if you look at the active thread titles most of them are about things that just don’t concern men so I find it hard to understand the appeal for them.

Buy then if you wanted a male perspective or to give a female perspective and you’d be on dadsnet would that not be the same as men being in mumsnet.

Why do you think the name is so irrelevant? Why does a man see dadsnet and think mumsnet is a better fit for him?

I came here because my DW asked me to post some specific advice (about cameras, as it happens). It turns out that I can also contribute usefully to some other topics, mainly on the Higher Ed board, and I've really valued being part of a couple of support threads for my DCs' cohorts. I have happily told my colleagues that I read MN, so I don't quite know where the "men don't mention it" comes from, personally.

99% seem to be men asking why they don’t get more sex. I wish they would fuck off.

I find it a shame when a thread about a relationship problem gets derailed by a man (sometimes a woman) saying "oh well if the sexes were reversed..." And not actually helping the OP.

I worry that a lot of OPs in need of help will stop reading their threads when this happens, as it gets too stressful.

And the logic is flawed anyway, it's not like we're starting from a level playing field. Even if it was equal now, the backdrop of millenia of male control would still have an influence.

@BIWI "(But what I hate even more are the handmaidens who fall over themselves to be sympathetic and completely fail to realise the real agenda behind the posts)"

This. ^

It does bother me. It wouldn’t bother me as much if male posters stated that they are male on every thread.

I just take posters as I find them.

I couldn't give a shite if they claim to be male or female as none of us can be sure anyway.

If they're being an arse they'll normally get short shrift from MNetters no matter what they've got between their legs.

I do sometimes roll my eyes when someone (either male or female) is clearly trolling and they start their thread with "Man here", just to get everyone riled up and so many posters fall for it 🙄

It's a sure way to wind MNetters up and the trolls know that as there's been 100s of threads like this over the years.

Eh?

Why would they do that? So other posters can have a go at them and ask why it's relevant?

It rarely is, given the amount of topics on MN.

And good/bad advice is just that, no matter who it comes from.

I prefer men stating their gender to the gender swap "gotcha" threads, which are very annoying indeed!

All "my dp", "my ex" and then waits for responses before saying "oh yes she's a woman and I'm a man...does it matter 😏 😏?"

It's not a female space and in any case we've absolutely no idea who anyone really is behind their username and online persona. HTH.

No problem with it as long as they are not lecturing me from "their perspective"

I actually get the rage with women who post things like "as a mother" TBH. There is no hierarchy amongst women surely. It really gets me.

I do think MN try to clarify gender from the email if there has been abuse.
My stalker was definitely a man.