Dislike my DC's name. I can't change it, can I?

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No, I know I can't!

I got use to it (I didn't want her with that name but gave in when she was born under dangerous circumstances and said she can have any name as long as she's okay)

But now a singer I don't really like the look of has become popular and they're a Lola too

So now my mind thinks of her.

Anyone else been through it and just forgotten about it all after a while? DD is 2.

Other daughter is Maria (who's 10) and I've always loved her name

Just start using a nickname .
I’m not sure you’re helping yourself though by saying ‘singer I don’t like the look of’

Oh and I thought MN users would appreciate a thread with someone not drip feeding or not ever revealing the name in question

I know. But since it's anonymous, sort of, I'm just being truthful

When I think of Lola, I think about the song by The Kinks.

I don't think you can really change her name at 2, no. Why did you allow (presumably) your DP to name her if you didn't like the name?

Is the singer Lola Young? You can never predict what celebrity is going to come along with your kid's name, and she seems reasonably inoffensive as far as I can tell. At least you don't have a Donald or an Elon! I think you're just looking for excuses to change her name tbh.

Nobody will compare her to a singer.

The name Lola is fine.
Singers (or actors, politicians, etc) come and go.
Your Lola is your Lola. Nothing to do with anyone who may or may not be famous.
I don't even know what singer you are referring too.
It's a lovely name 🙂

She's 2. Probably responsive to her name at this stage and your entire network/family and such know her by it. So no. Don't be bloody ridiculous silly, you can't change it because you don't like a singer with the same name 🙄

I think you could change it at the age of 2 if it bothers you that much.

But I don't think a singer having the same name matters at all.

Thank you. She doesn't actually answer to it yet (has a diagnosis of autism that she got 5 months ago, not long after her second birthday)

She does suit it, to be fair. I can't really see her with another name

Love Lola.

I haven't heard of a singer called Lola and it's unlikely that she will become a global household name I should think and will disappear into obscurity again soon. I would just start using a nickname for your daughter and she can do what she likes with her name when older.

You forget, I named my DD Jade, approximately 2weeks before Jade Goody went into the Big Brother House. Cultural references come and go, your DD is here for at least the next 80 years ( God willingl!)

I didn't want her with that name but gave in when she was born under dangerous circumstances and said she can have any name as long as she's okay

Who chose the name then? Seems potentially quite manipulative, were you were pushed into it? Maybe the name is associated with the traumatic birth for you?

It's a nice name, but it's not impossible to change it if it's really making you unhappy.

I think 2 is a bit old really to be changing. My just turned 2 year old knows her name and uses an abbreviation that she can say. If I used a different name, I think it would upset her.

"Don't like the look of" wtf??

Is this the Lola who sings Messy? It's an incredible song.

My DD so wishes I’d called her Lola, we had narrowed down to a choice of 2, I’d stick with it.

Lola is a nice name

I just think it's so unprofessional and not really a grown ups name

I wasn't manipulated into calling her it but I did just let it go when I said what I said about the dangerous arrival

DH was thrilled and still loves it. And, I did choose Maria!

Lola is a lovely pretty name. I think it suits adults as well as kids.

I think it's a lovely name! It belongs to her now and people really won't associate it with a singer.

I changed one of mine’s name at not too far off that age (a bit younger). Her name was lovely and I actually still like it, it was just totally wrong on her from the day she was born and I always regretted it - had many recurring conversations about it with exh and eventually decided to just change it. We and everyone else called her a nickname (completely unrelated to her actual given name) and she thought that was her real name, so I decided to change it while she still had no idea what her actual name was. No regrets, her new name IS her in a way the old one never was - has always suited her perfectly. Covid hit not long after we went for the name change so it actually took me years in the end to change it legally by deed poll but she’s always been known as the new name everywhere (school etc) anyway. Everyone thought I was super weird when I originally explained but they all got used to it quickly!

Oh I’ve just read your update - if it suits her I think stick with it!

It can be a grown-up name. Funnily enough there is that singer Lola Young but there is also Lola Young, Baroness Young of Hornsey who is 73.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lola_Young,_Baroness_Young_of_Hornsey

I do like the singer but I know what you mean about her look as I am not keen on mullets!

There could be someone you like even less called Maria by the time you DD grows up.