Page 7 | Friend took the last jacket potato ...would you be annoyed ?

mirandabaileyy · 2025-01-06T11:41:31+00:00

We went to a cafe yesterday We got there at 2pm and as we walked in they said all they had left was jacket potato or prawn sandwiches /ham and egg pie I said to my friend I will get the jacket potato as I don't like any of the other choices. My friend she was getting the ham and egg pie. She was stood in front Then she said actually il get a potato instead We got to the front and I said "can we get two jacket potatoes please" The lady said they only had 1 left and my friend pipe up "oh il take that please with Tuna" what you going to get ? I double check what they have and say again I don't like anything else so il just get a tea. Then she sat there and smirked "oh can't believe they only had 1 left " Wouldn't you have just had something else ? She liked pie I would of just to be kind

AyeYCan · 06/01/2025 13:53

User860131 · 06/01/2025 13:47

I'm not sure it's that clear whether either of them knew but they could both clearly see that there was only one potato in the oven. If I was the friend and my friend made a point of saying she didn't want to eat because I just took the last decent option then I would 100% offer to share the potato or go elsewhere but it doesn't sound as if OP was willing to do that either hence they're both as bad as each other. It's very self-serving behaviour and it's quite worrying that it's being so normalised.

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What oven?! I can't work out whether you were there, or you're just assuming you know exactly what cafe they were in and how the food is displayed? I would imagine, since they attempted to order two jacket potatoes, that the potatoes were in fact in the kitchen and not visible to the people in the queue.

I'm also missing the bit where OP said she wasn't willing to share or go elsewhere?

User860131 · 06/01/2025 13:56

Choccyscofffy · 06/01/2025 13:49

they could both clearly see that there was only ome potato in the oven.

Again, you’ve made this up. At no point has OP said they could see the remaining food.

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Oh FFS I will simplify my posts so that the tiny details can't be nitpicked at.

At some point both friends realised that there was very limited food on offer. On realising this neither friend was willing to make the offer of sharing the last decent food on offer. I find this very odd and selfish of both friends and think that this doesn't sound like a very respectful or mature friendship.

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Choccyscofffy · 06/01/2025 14:01

User860131 · 06/01/2025 13:56

Oh FFS I will simplify my posts so that the tiny details can't be nitpicked at.

At some point both friends realised that there was very limited food on offer. On realising this neither friend was willing to make the offer of sharing the last decent food on offer. I find this very odd and selfish of both friends and think that this doesn't sound like a very respectful or mature friendship.

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Basically you lied and are now trying to be aggressive to get out of it.

The fact is that the friend chose the jacket potato. So there was no opportunity for OP to be kind and be willing to split the jacket potato.

Simple enough for you?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 06/01/2025 14:01

That is so mean!

Are you 100% sure she paid attention and heard you? I would be hoping she didn't take it all in and it was a genuine error

daisydaughter · 06/01/2025 14:02

Are you a very fussy eater?
Could she be annoyed with always hearing you say you don’t like this that and the other, and perhaps feels you’re being awkward? This might be her way of being awkward back and encouraging you to try more things.

This is the only explanation I can come up with, other than her being a) selfish and b) having the maturity of a 5 year old.

Breadcat24 · 06/01/2025 14:07

When they told you there was limited food why did you not just go somewhere else?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 06/01/2025 14:09

Ooh this post reminded me of another jacket potato related friendship issue!!

I was hosting a bbq in my early 20s, I cleared it first with my flatmates and asked them if they wanted to invite people but they said no do your own thing. I realised I had a shortage of jacket potatoes so I asked everyone as they arrived if they wanted one, back up plan was to run to the shop if necessary. This sparked a discussion about jacket potatoes and 2 friends said they would split one. I only had 4 and that seemed go be enough. As they were finished cooking and I was serving the food I could only find 3. Then my BF said he saw my flatmate in the sitting room eating one. She had walked out to garden, taken it (seeing there was only 4) and left without word. I was raging, BF took a really strong dislike to her after that.

You got to be careful with those jacket potatoes, they are troublesome!

Moonshine5 · 06/01/2025 14:10

Why didn't you just ask her?
Also if you can only eat a jacket potato (?) surely you expect there will be times when this is not going to be available.
Your friend sounds odd too - so you probably make a good couple.

ThatsNotMyTeen · 06/01/2025 14:12

I have now seen the words jacket potato so much that it looks all wrong

WoolySnail · 06/01/2025 14:14

ueberlin2030 · 06/01/2025 13:13

I'm confused as to why you thought you automatically had a right to the potato? What if the person in front had selected it?

It would just be one of those things.
A stranger wouldn't know or care that OP only liked potato, which is totally different to a friend who knows doing it (seemingly) purposefully! What was the point of having dinner with OP, only to deprive her of her one meal option rather than stick with your original choice of pie or to suggest going elsewhere?

ThatsNotMyTeen · 06/01/2025 14:15

The whole cafe sounds weird

how can those be the only food choices?

if they had tuna presumably they had other fillings for the spud as well?

couldn’t they make up a sandwich or a salad or something?

did the pie/spud literally come on their own with no side salad or anything?

not even a wee cake or biscuit you could have had with your brew?

why did you go to such a shite cafe OP?

AnonymousBleep · 06/01/2025 14:16

Dontlletmedownbruce · 06/01/2025 14:09

Ooh this post reminded me of another jacket potato related friendship issue!!

I was hosting a bbq in my early 20s, I cleared it first with my flatmates and asked them if they wanted to invite people but they said no do your own thing. I realised I had a shortage of jacket potatoes so I asked everyone as they arrived if they wanted one, back up plan was to run to the shop if necessary. This sparked a discussion about jacket potatoes and 2 friends said they would split one. I only had 4 and that seemed go be enough. As they were finished cooking and I was serving the food I could only find 3. Then my BF said he saw my flatmate in the sitting room eating one. She had walked out to garden, taken it (seeing there was only 4) and left without word. I was raging, BF took a really strong dislike to her after that.

You got to be careful with those jacket potatoes, they are troublesome!

I'm sure Brian Harvey would concur!

AyeYCan · 06/01/2025 14:16

Moonshine5 · 06/01/2025 14:10

Why didn't you just ask her?
Also if you can only eat a jacket potato (?) surely you expect there will be times when this is not going to be available.
Your friend sounds odd too - so you probably make a good couple.

Its not that she can only eat jacket potato ffs! Its that of the very limited menu of just three things on offer in this particular cafe, the jacket potato was the only thing the OP liked, whereas the friend like the jacket potato and one of the other two options.

ueberlin2030 · 06/01/2025 14:18

WoolySnail · 06/01/2025 14:14

It would just be one of those things.
A stranger wouldn't know or care that OP only liked potato, which is totally different to a friend who knows doing it (seemingly) purposefully! What was the point of having dinner with OP, only to deprive her of her one meal option rather than stick with your original choice of pie or to suggest going elsewhere?

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Why is OP more entitled to the potato though?

pestowithwalnuts · 06/01/2025 14:20

I would have said ' ok I'll see you later , im off to get some lunch.'
and left her to it.

pumpkinpillow · 06/01/2025 14:21

ueberlin2030 · 06/01/2025 14:18

Why is OP more entitled to the potato though?

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It's not about entitlement, it's about how friends treat each other. If I knew my friend only liked one thing on the menu then it wouldn't be very kind to take the last one of it. In our interactions with people we like we don't tend to add up points (like you might do with colleagues), it's give and take and hopefully an easy relationship.

Cornflakes123 · 06/01/2025 14:22

That’s super annoying. I’d have said straight after she ordered sorry I am going to have to go somewhere else to eat as I don’t like anything on the menu and I’m hungry.

ueberlin2030 · 06/01/2025 14:22

pumpkinpillow · 06/01/2025 14:21

It's not about entitlement, it's about how friends treat each other. If I knew my friend only liked one thing on the menu then it wouldn't be very kind to take the last one of it. In our interactions with people we like we don't tend to add up points (like you might do with colleagues), it's give and take and hopefully an easy relationship.

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OP clearly feels like she's more entitled to the potato.

pumpkinpillow · 06/01/2025 14:23

ThatsNotMyTeen · 06/01/2025 14:15

The whole cafe sounds weird

how can those be the only food choices?

if they had tuna presumably they had other fillings for the spud as well?

couldn’t they make up a sandwich or a salad or something?

did the pie/spud literally come on their own with no side salad or anything?

not even a wee cake or biscuit you could have had with your brew?

why did you go to such a shite cafe OP?

It was 2pm on a Sunday, maybe they were closing soon.

sonjadog · 06/01/2025 14:27

User860131 · 06/01/2025 13:56

Oh FFS I will simplify my posts so that the tiny details can't be nitpicked at.

At some point both friends realised that there was very limited food on offer. On realising this neither friend was willing to make the offer of sharing the last decent food on offer. I find this very odd and selfish of both friends and think that this doesn't sound like a very respectful or mature friendship.

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It isn't "At some point". It was when the friend ordered the potato at the front of the queue and was told by the person serving that there was only one potato left. It is all there in the opening post. You don't have to make stuff up.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 06/01/2025 14:27

AnonymousBleep · 06/01/2025 14:16

I'm sure Brian Harvey would concur!

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I never heard that story, I just googled Brian Harvey jacket potatoes. As I said above, beware all of the jacket potato!

AyeYCan · 06/01/2025 14:27

ueberlin2030 · 06/01/2025 14:22

OP clearly feels like she's more entitled to the potato.

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Well, since the alternative is her going hungry, I'd say she is more entitled to it than her friend who had other options to eat on the menu.

MarkWithaC · 06/01/2025 14:29

Gabitule · 06/01/2025 12:00

Perhaps she also didn’t like anything else except for the jacket potato, and she thought you were a bit selfish when you were the FIRST to announce that you’d have the jacket potato, leaving her no option but to choose from the rest.
Or, it’s possible that she didn’t pay attention to what you said.

Why didn’t you say ‘’I don’t like anything except for the potato, are you ok with a sandwich? If not, let’s go somewhere else or let’s both share the potato’’ or something along those lines.

Once she changed her mind and said she was also going to have the potato you could have reminded her that only 1 potato was available; instead, you got to the front of the queue and asked for 2 potatoes, knowing only 1 was available. Bizarre! Sorry but you’re both as poor at communicating as eachother

But to answer your question, if a friend announced that they wanted the potato I would have absolutely let them have it out of kindness .

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They didn't know there was only one at the point when they reached the front of the queue though.

Cornflakes123 · 06/01/2025 14:30

ueberlin2030 · 06/01/2025 14:22

OP clearly feels like she's more entitled to the potato.

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It makes sense that the person who doesn’t like anything else on the menu would have the potato, especially after stating it and the other person stating they were having ham and egg pie.