This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

[itssnowinginhere]

In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

So she gave up her late 20s (maybe more, depending) to care for your mum alongside you... She's now got some freedom to live her life!

Buying a house isn't the be all and end all.

If I had the means that's exactly what I'd be spending my excess money on, life is for exploring.

@itssnowinginhere are you a similar age? Your sister was very young to have to care for someone for 10 years. That must have been a very restricted life. Were you both working as well?

What I’m struggling with here, OP, is what part of this is any of your business? 🧐

I agree, it is ridiculous. I travel all the time for work and my idea of bliss is not going anywhere (not even by bus). A special treat is when I spend 2, 4, etc. days without leaving the flat, once, at all, between jobs. My personal record is not leaving the flat for 5 days and it was pure bliss.

This.

So what? If she's happy and can afford to pay her bills then what's the issue with going away? She has no kids so no responsibilities. Not everyone wants a mortgage.

Your not paying for it i dont see the problem either.
Ive not long got back from Korea.
This year im going Bangkok spain Barcelona Japan India and bck to thailand at the end of the year.
I think your jealous of her.

We’ve spent our whole married life prioritising travel over owning stuff.

We live in a small house, but boy do we have some amazing memories. 27 years of them.

I’m glad we weren’t ‘sensible’ with our money.

4 holidays in a year doesn’t seem excessive to me. I wouldn’t count Newcastle and York as a “holiday” at all and the weekend breaks spread across 12 months aren’t much.

Exactly how I'm living my life. I went away 7 times last year.
Abroad for five of them! I brought up my children, paid my mortgage and am enjoying seeing different places. I've already booked to go away this month

Jealous much? It's what I'd be doing if I didn't have kids. We got abroad 3 times and about 3 UK weekends away last year, if I didn't have school trips to pay for it would be twice that amount!!

i did similar last year-think I had about 7/8 trips away (that includes a couple in the UK). I saved up damn hard to do them all and I’d be a bit pissed if someone was passing judgement on what I do with my hard earned money tbh.

All I see there is more reason for her to have fun now. She's been responsible for a ok g time. I think attitudes to renting will change. It's hard to get in the ladder without family help/inheriting. I live that I have my own house and it's paid for in full now but it doesn't have as many advantages as we are sometimes told. I'm responsible for any maintenance/repair whereas in renting a landlord is, for example.

Horses for courses- that would take me to a low place.

After this explanation it makes even more sense.

It’s still absolutely none of your business though.

You sound like my sister OP. My sister is now 44, never had a passport and told me off multiple times in my life for fecklessness - but remarkably too much travel.
I am now in a position where I’ve travelled the world, worked in numerous countries, have two language degrees and can safely happily say I shouldn’t travel anymore because it’s bad for the environment and have qualms about it. I never did tourism at all and took train everywhere I could - even to China via Russia. But it needs to stop.
My sister has been literally nowhere (including not even Wales or Scotland), is bitter about people with life experience and vents every available opportunity. Luckily we are now nc- I just have to hear her parochial moaning from others.

If her bills are paid, her work obligations are met, she’s not living on credit cards and she’s happy with the arrangement it’s frankly no one else’s business if she was away every single weekend if she wanted to be!

Your opinion is irrelevant. It's her life; her decision. Are you jealous? Would you like to travel more but can't?

Just dont think about it then it wont bother you so much.

I've had times in my life that all I did was weekends away and holidays and other times when the money wasnt there for such things. I know which times I preferred.

Sensible to have holidays, you can always remember those good times. As for it being bad for the environment, well if you take the line that nothing we will do will make a difference now, well why not live as much a good life as possible until the end of your life or end of the world, whichever comes first.

come on OP. Just let people live their lives the way they want. Not everyone wants to save and buy a house. Some people are happy with ‘only’ renting and are fulfilled by experiences like traveling and going out.

Surely you can see that your situation and that of someone who works near where they live are different? A treat for you is to stay. A treat for most of us is to go somewhere.

OP, you really need to admit this is a you problem.

Are you the older sister? Lecturing the younger one on what they should be doing with their life? Have you taken on the mother role? Are you trying to?

Just back off. Your sister is happy. She doesn't need to do any of the things you think she does. Can't you be happy for her?

You sound like my father. He also thought money spent on living was a waste - holidays, meals out were a waste. He was judgemental too, and ended up miserable and alone with a nice bank account which didn't prevent his death and subsequntly went to his children who spent it.

I think you should stoip judging your sister, mind your own business - and maybe take a few holidays? You can't take it with you, you know?