This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

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In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

Like what?

Spending money on holidays to travel and embrace the world and culture is one of the best things a person can do, along with having a family, embracing learning or building security... not everyone has to do all of these things (or all at once).

Some might prioritize travel while other prioritize education, then others prioritize family while another prioritize the property ladder/career/pension... some balance multiple while never getting the best of any.

If anything travel is the only one your likely to not be able to do later on as the others come with responsibility and travel requires freedom.

I recommend everyone travel as much as they can and suggest young people take gap years (even if circumstances mean thats only within their own country) while young.

I wouldn’t consider this excessive, and why is it your place to judge, you sound jealous?

So you mean you’re envious.

Lucky her I say!

Does her travel impact you in any way? Are you picking up the slack on something while she's away? If not, and this is your opinion without it affecting you, then YABU.

This is sad.

Your husband leaving you with the kids? Yes excessive.
Someone you care about getting in to massive debt? Yes excessive

Any other scenario? None of your business

@Derogations is that more ethical than holiday travel then? I don't. I've never had a job that involved business travel. Shouldn't I be allowed to go for fun just so businesses can do what they like?

She is 33 no kids
Up until 3 years ago we both cared for our late mum as a full time thing
So I get she probably wants to live a bit as we had no life for 10 years but like I say to me she should be saving.
She doesn't own a house,they only rent

I would mind your own business. Personally I'd save for some bigger trips but each to their own. Some of those trips are just weekends away, some people do that every month or even every other weekend. Some people love to stay at home and holiday once a year.

It absolutely doesn't suggest a deep unhappiness with where she lives! What an odd attitude! I love where I live and I've renovated a lively cottage there. I'm very happy. Don't mean I don't want to see other lovely places though!

Mind your own business.

You sound like my dad (who I am now NC with for a variety of reasons….).

They’re not even expensive destinations. What a small and sad life you must live, to be counting her trips to UK cities.

I don't think the fact that she "only rents" is anything to do with you - maybe she likes renting.

It sounds like she's enjoying her life in the way she chooses to, after some difficult years. Be pleased for her and do some things you enjoy.

Not worse. Negating any difference I could make. I don't fly often actually. I use trains for Europe a fair bit. But my flights rarely really making no difference at all.

Not everyone wants to own a house. Renting is absolutely fine if it allows you to lie life the way you want to. We all make different decisions in life.

All the more reason for her to live her life, broaden her mind and travel. Leave her alone.

Also 33 is young. So what if she doesn’t have children?

Jealousy will only turn you bitter.

Sounds great to me. As long as she is not piling up debt because of it. I find whenever I go on holiday I can't wait to start planning the next one. Sounds like she is quite young, no kids? If she has kids this will likely calm down, but right now living for the moment. She also may regret it a little in retirement if she has very little pension pot due to not saving, but that aside I don't think this behaviour is excessive.

You sound jealous

Not your life, not your budget, not your business.

Why? What difference does it make where the money comes from? I get your sentiments about some of the weird ways people seem able to make a lot of money, but what they spend it on?

I don't think it suggests any such thing. I love my home, I love travelling and my pleasure in each is enhanced by the knowledge that the other is waiting for me.

She can decide what to do with her life. It sounds great to me and you sound jealous

If we could do it most of us would be on holiday permanently.