This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

[itssnowinginhere]

In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

Clearly jealous. What better way to use your money when you’re young with no ties, than to see as much of the world as you want to?
I love travelling. There’s so much more to life than being sensible all the time 🙃 try it sometime.

So she missed out on her 20s and you think she should spend her 30s staying at home? You sound bitter and jealous, OP.

Truth be told if youre travelling economy or coach as they say those flights are going anyway it would have to take a big drive from everyone to travel less or for the flight companies to make less flights available for the environment to see change. We can't pin this on ops sister.

Lack of charity is one of my concerns about this way of enjoying life. There's advice in the Bible to recent Christians who don't work: get a job - not so you can support yourself, but so you can help people in need. Yes, enjoy your life, but don't forget those worse off than you.

I think to a lot of people, charity is loose change or the odd tenner or even not thought about at all, but given most people in the world have no possibility of a lifestyle close to this, it's a good thing to also spend a serious amount of cash on lifting up people in poverty and healing the environment.

How do you (or the OP) know she’s not paying into a good pension and saving as well? None of those destinations are expensive.

How much does she earn?
What is her monthly outgoings?
How much does she have in a savings account?
How much £ does she put into her pension?

I'm guessing you have no idea so how do you know she's not "being sensible". Is it because she "only rents" and you have a problem with that?

We travel a lot but we can afford it and we enjoy it. Who is anyone else to say it is too much? As long as you can afford it then why not?

No, that doesn’t sound like a lot. A lot of it is domestic and none of it is long haul. You don’t say how many nights per destination but it may just be a few, really does not seem like too much. You would think our nights away / vacations were outrageously excessive!

I would have thought I had already made that fairly clear. If I thought that someone had actually earnt their money in a way that also benefited the rest of our society, I would be much less bothered what they then chose to spend it on.

I’m basing my response on the fact that OP says she’s renting. Going on fewer breaks away would make a significant difference to the amount that she could be saving, yet she’d still be getting to go away and enjoy holidays too.

@CharlotteCollinsneeLucas

OP’s sister has spent years caring for their ill mother. Now she wants to enjoy herself. Women are not put on this earth solely to serve others, ffs

Braggy letters are completely different from judging someone because they take holidays. I’m also always a bit suspicious of people who think anyone telling people about the (often quite ordinary) things they’ve done are ‘bragging’. It’s often not, and those thinking it is feel it as a criticism of their own lives because they feel they aren’t doing enough 🤷‍♀️
Though from what else you say about this family it may not be true in this case.

Owning your own house isn't the be all and end all. Imagine having no life just saving for a house and putting all your money into this. And it's none of your business she's just your sister!! She's also 33. I totally understand if you mention the benefits of saving as well to her once in awhile but that's the limit of your involvement. Putting this out here on mumsnet is like your desperate for validation that your correct... over your sister of all ppl.

@2Hot2Handle

not everyone’s life goal is property ownership you know

Can they afford it?
Do they enjoy it?
Do they have enough leave from work?

If the answers are yes - then no, it's not too much.

People are free to enjoy their leisure time, and their disposable income, anyway they like,

I'd be away on holidays and breaks every other week if work and finances allowed! I love getting out and about and seeing other places.

If I had spare money and no kids, I would literally be off travelling any chance I got.

Memories and experiences for me, are much better things to spend your money on than material things.

You probably waste all of your money on material things, which she thinks is silly.

Good on her for living her life to the full.
She works hard and is using her money on things she likes.

I understand why you’d be a bit jealous if you have kids and can’t do this but that’s the life you chose and this is the life that she’s choosing.

Doesn't seem that excessive to me as long as she's not going into debt. I was away more than that

A couple of domestic flights make fuck all difference. See what I’ve already said about Musk’s private jets. And who said she flew anyway? European destinations can be reached fairly easily by train.

What's 'sensible' to you?

Maybe she just wants to prioritise time away having fun for a while. It's allowed.

Why are you being salty

Well not having had a life from age 20-30 explains a lot really doesn't it. It may not be the best use of her money in terms of long term security but she has a lot of what should have been her carefree 20s to make up for. Keep your comments and thoughts to yourself (and let's hope your sister and her friends aren't on MN), it won't change things and could damage your relationship

I'm assuming nights out/weekend break, rather than a holiday.

We've had weekend breaks in Newcastle. I have family living there - sometimes we stay with them, sometimes we stay in a hotel. Sometimes it's a meal and drinks out, sometimes it a walk on the beach and drinks in.

I was commenting on a family of Christians mentioned in a different post. And on many PP who say I can afford it so I do it, as though the only consideration is themselves.

I agree that this woman has spent a lot of time for the benefit of others already, and in any case I did say there should be a balance: enjoy your life and help others.

Sounds great to be honest. She’s only 33, there’s lots of time to buy a house. I’m a touch younger than her and if I didn’t have kids I’d never be in the country when I have annual leave.

You sound jealous. Why don’t you book a holiday?

Sounds great.
You sound really jealous OP.
What she does with her money is up to her and if I had no children/more disposable income it would be exactly what I'd be doing despite "only renting"

You can't take it with you.