This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

[itssnowinginhere]

In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

I know the Victorians used to have fainting couches. Maybe dying couches will be the 21st century equivalent 😄

You are sick with jealousy the end.

With the greatest respect, it isn’t your call. She’s 33, the economy is on the brink of collapse and house prices have already started to correct.

If you both looked after your late mother, you both need to live a little. Go on, book yourself something nice: wine appreciation, cooking, painting, etc, in France or Italy. Sailing in the Greek Islands. All things you can do as a singleton.

If you are the older sister, please don’t take on the role of mother.

I am wondering if you perhaps don’t have a partner and if your concern is as much as losing your sister as your companion as it is about the holidays?

Keep your snout out!

I have a cousin like this. They send the stereotypical braggy family letter around every Christmas, listing all their many achievements and multiple holidays.

We just roll our eyes and make fun of them! They also claim to be VERY Christian, but have never shown an ounce of charity in their lives.

I had a friend that was similar. Travelling is her main hobby. She loves it and goes all over the world for weeks at a time. I stopped being friends not because I was jealous but because she would go on about how tedious work was ( she really didn't - travel money was from inheritance), how annoying where she lived was ( really nice village, 3 bed house) and other pointless complaints. This is why we " broke up" .Not the travel itself but it was hard to talk about anything in the end.

I spend any money I have on getting away too but it is really expensive even if the holidays are good value in themselves. Theres nothing you can do Op but I do understand why their choices might be frustrating to you.

It's none of your business, why are you keeping check!!

You have however made me look at how often I was away last year, and it's similar.

Sounds good to me!

Personally I wouldn't bother with the UK breaks, and I'd probably have to add 3-4 international work trips to the list. But when I can afford it, I go on about 4 leisure trips a year. Typically 1 city trip, 2 beach trips, 1 mountain trip, or something along those lines. The new experiences getting each trip provide a massive mental boost and make me happy 😁

You sound a bit bitter tbh, if they’ve had nice holidays and done lovely things during the year why not share it in a positive way?

Not sure what this has to do with their religion at all.

Me too, I’d actually not counted it up but this has made me think!

How someone spends their own money should be their own business.

But how someone impacts the environment should be everybody's business.

Because ultimately we and future generations suffer from people's actions today.

I go away about every six weeks. Sometimes 3/4 nights sometimes a week. I’m retired and single. If you have no ties when you’re young and you have the money do it , go everywhere you can. Enjoy life, have lots of experiences. None of us know when that will end.

I'd say that's standard for someone with no/minimum responsibilities. I did very similar at that age, renting without children. And most my friends did too. Absolutely not excessive. I averaged a holiday per month, usually a long weekend somewhere.

You concentrate on spending/saving your own money and leave your adult sister to confer herself with her own finances.

The jealously is literally pouring from your post Op. focus on your own life and let her do whatever she wants!!!!

Why do you care? Is she asking you to
fund it? Let her be, you’re a long time dead and quite frankly with no kids I don’t blame her. It wouldn’t do for us all to be the same and you just sound jealous.

We've had years like that as we love travel. In the 12 months leading up to the pandemic we went to Dubai , Cyprus , Corfu and Malaga plus a UK seaside camping trip. On top of that my husband did a solo trip to Peru and we sent our son off on a school ski trip while DD and I went to Barbados. We also had a family trip to Thailand that we had to cancel two weeks prior to the departure date because of the lockdown

DH got made redundant and received a huge pay out and three months gardening leave before stating his new job so for the first time in our lives we had both money and time.

Don't regret any of it - this year it's a week at a cottage in Cornwall and that's it due to us having other priorities financially and the kids being older teenagers now and not wanting to commit to a big family holiday when they may have friends they want to travel with instead.

Before we had the kids we were constantly travelling and I'm so pleased we did.

Why should she be saving?

That could amount to only 6 weeks, each abroad trip say a week and the UK ones 2 days , hardly excessive.
My DD is always on the go, young couple no kids, they average about 10 trips per year, good on them

Your thread is actually really very sad. Rather than being happy for your sister that she’s happy and living her life, you’re finding fault? How sad. How bitter.

I’ve only read your posts, op, and I say good for her. You should try and do the same.

You sound jealous.

I know plenty of couples whose children are teens+ who easily travel this much annually now. Many long weekends away.

@itssnowinginhere

sounds like she’s doing all she can to enjoy life OP! You might wanna take a leaf out of her book…

I think it is wonderful that your DS, having helped care for your DM throughout her 20s, is now enjoying her time in her 30s with holidays. She has no DC’s and no responsibilities now, so why not enjoy herself?

What do you think she should be spending her money on - getting a mortgage? Perhaps she will look to do that if the relationship continues to go well, but for now it sounds like she wants to enjoy herself, quite rightly.

@zingally

you don’t sound too Christian yourself, making fun of a family member just for living the life they want