How quickly after meeting did you marry or have a child?

[Belladavis]

And if it was really quickly are you still together? We were engaged, married and had a child born within the first year 😮 didn’t seem crazy at the time but definitely would in today’s world.

Same all good. Neither of us like hanging about or faffing around. When you know you know!

Engaged after 2 weeks, found out expecting DS1 after 2 months and married within 2 years.

Still together 22 years later.

Engaged after 2 years (1999). Married after 3.5 (2001). Baby after 6 (2004). Been together 28 years. Baby will be 21 in 2 weeks.

I was 22 when we met, we started dating a month after we met, got married 20 months after that, and had a baby five years later.

We've been together nine years.

Hi when we got married as I've said I was 19 he was 21 . So obviously very young .
I matured much more than him , and it often felt as if I had an extra child . We also grew apart intellectually with me having a thirst for learning and more drive.
We divorced , more because I instigated it .
He wasn't a bad man , or a bad husband , just not right for me .

yes I think when it’s that young you either grow ‘together’ or unfortunately grow seperately
at least you acknowledged that and I hope now you are happier and you quenched the thirst for learning!

Met him at 17 (nearly 18), had DC1 at 20 (only a week away from being 21), married six months later at 21. DC2 at 23, DC3 at 25.

Still together (an now 38), still very happy, a successful couple by society's standards.

I think it's more predictive of life stage than anything. If you meet in your 20s it's seen as a bit odd to settle down and have a baby "too soon".

On paper it's "because it would be irresponsible to move too quickly", but there's an underlying theme of "because settling down early is what poor people who don't have anything better to do, do" which is an undeniable influence.

Assuming you're say 20+, a year is long enough to get to know someone - there isn't a significant amount of additional data you get after that that would make you change your mind.

Breaking up a 5 year live in relationship is almost as emotionally damaging as breaking up a 5 year marriage but people are happy to slide into the former without thinking about it - I'd argue that bringing forward the marriage discussion to the 1 year mark and either moving forward with conscious commitment or splitting would lead to less heartbreak.

We were together for about 18 months before getting married, still happily married 10 years later but no children due to infertility.

When I was younger I would think I needed to be with someone at least 5 years before marriage/kids. Which is just as well because I made some questionable relationship choices in my 20s.

Now in my mid-30s, if I meet someone kind, calm and laid back who lives in the present and who inspires me to be my best self, then I'll be at the registry office in no time and he can put a baby inside me straight away if that's what we both want.

The trouble is finding him... 🫠

Yes I think the quality of the dating pool now must be a bit rubbish. Or maybe the world is just so different now. Usually you’d meet someone at work, from school, local pub etc and that was it. Now there’s millions of potential suitors and I think people are so scared of ‘settling’ etc. social media also drives the idea of a ‘perfect’ relationship when in reality that’s not how life is

Married 9 years after getting together. Child after 15 years together.

Married after 15 years, baby just before 19 years

Met 2000 baby born late 2001. Still together somehow lol, had a very long engagement though only recently married!

Engaged at 6 months. Started trying for a baby from that point. Married at 3 years, after 4 years of infertility had our Baby boy, still happily married now 5 years later ❤️

Married after 3 years, married for 10 years. No babies except a still birth. No plans to try again. We have our dogs and each other, we have been accepted to foster though

Pregnant within the first six months, married a year later, still happily together 17 years later.

Agree with this completely, you either grow apart or you grow together. We are both v different people now to when we met but luckily those people also like each other.

Engaged at 12 years
Married at 13 years
DS born at 18 years
Together 25 years this year

We don’t rush things

Met, after two years got engaged, six months later got married, a year after the wedding had DC1, 15 months later DC2. Been together over 17 years.

Engaged after 6 weeks, married 15 months after meeting, ds born when we had been together 2.5 years, divorced after 7.5 years of marriage.

Met
Engaged 13 months later
Then married 8 months later
Then moved in together 6 months later
Then pregnant 9 months later
Then baby 9 months later

Under 4 years from hi to parents. Been together 14 years this year. When you know you know but I don't think we were silly fast. Probably getting hitched without having lived together is weird nowadays but other than that it's pretty much normal I think.

Dated 3 years
Lived together 9 years
So together 12 years before TTC, married same year (probably wouldn't have bothered with marriage if we didn't want dc)

A lot longer than was necessary, but long enough to know we were a team with compatible attitudes to everything - relationships, finances, careers, housework, parenting etc. long enough to be financially stable and in a home suitable to raise dc in.

it astounds me the number of people who go ahead with having a child with someone they barely know.

Been together just shy of 3 years we are married and second baby in the way

Engaged after 2.5 years; married five months later. Had first child nearly seven years later.