Is there a thread for those having a crap Christmas yet? ☹️

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If not then I’ll start one.

Baby’s first Christmas, DH is an excellent dad and I couldn’t have asked more from him over the last three months. D(?)M has a few drinks and decides to criticise his parenting skills, how he rocks the baby of all things. She refuses to apologise when asked, then doubles down and mocks him verbally and with gestures. It was horrible.

DH hurt, upset and angry. He wants an apology and says she’s not welcome in this house any more. DF disgusted by her behaviour and has been considering an Uber home in the morning. I’m piggy in the middle and have spent £250 on food etc. We have a velcro baby and it has been such a tall order trying to get house ready and was so looking forward to an amazing time.

Tomorrow morning DM definitely won’t apologise, likely she won’t actually remember the half of what happened. Even if we fake having a good day it won’t be true enjoyment, and I am gutted that this is what we are all going to remember of our baby’s first Christmas. What a shit show.

Solidarity to anyone else whose Christmas has been ruined

I get it! Christmas night, hopefully, you can curl up quietly and recharge your batteries 💐

My gosh there are some seriously strong women on this thread coping in the hardest circumstances imaginable. If it's not too un-Mumsnet to say, your online community is incredibly proud of you. Sending you strength.

My OH had about 1/3 pint of baileys 2 hours before we were due to leave his families and then tried to tell me he was fine to drive…

We live overseas and my parents are here staying for 10 days. No spare room, so kids are constantly shuffling between sofa beds and mattresses, and there is crap everywhere. My parents hate each other and are constantly sniping at each other.

Its been a particularly difficult six months for us as a family, primarily because side of our teen daughter's health (under investigation from everything from chronic fatigue syndrome to depression to POTS). Managing her myriad of appointments, therapies and medications is a full time job and I've had to up my own anxiety meds because I'm so fearful about it all.

My mother, with whom I have a somewhat strained relationship at the best of times, has told me that the problem is either my daughter's cellphone use, energy drink consumption and if I "need to get her to a doctor" because she's spending so much time "drugged up." She has appointments with 4 different healthcare providers in the next 3 weeks and we are trying various meds with no success. I am on my fucking knees with it all, but she never misses an opportunity to tell me where I'm going wrong. I feel like running away.

I had a sad stressful day yesterday with my elderly immobile selfish mother. The part with the DC was ok, but they then went to their father and I was left with DM for many painful almost silent hours.

Sorry for all having a less than brilliant festive period ☹️

I had a lovely Christmas day, but my DM died in her sleep last night.

Oh @CornishGem1975 I'm so sorry to read that. It must be incredibly hard. To all of us having a tough time

@CornishGem1975 so sorry to hear that. That's really hard.

Oh so sorry @CornishGem1975
Deepest sympathies to your family.

I'm so sorry. Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

@CornishGem1975 condolences and a massive hug ❤️

Sympathy to everyone having a rubbish time. My Christmas was going well, party Xmas Eve, all good then minutes after the last person left I got a sore throat (must have finally relaxed) didn’t think too much of it, went to my mum’s and it’s got progressively worse, I’m now feeling awful and I’m worried I’ve exposed everyone to a nasty cold.

Hacking cough is super painful. Hopefully will get better today as tomorrow we have all of my dh’s family over, dbil would host on the 27th and he died suddenly in the spring so we are picking up the celebration and have his kids, grandkids and widow coming over. Really not the time to be poorly. Worst case I guess I’ll stay in bed and DH will host solo, my great niece has just come out of hospital following infection so don’t want to risk her health at all.

Thanks all. She had dementia so not a total shock but no sign that it was imminent.

Mine not great. Always a fraught time of year as my mum died right before Xmas when I was a teen.

Yesterday felt quite shit for me, but I tried to keep a smile on my face for teenage DC. DH and I have had a difficult few years and yesterday he was behaving like a grumpy, stressed out dick. I’m actually beginning to question if he loves me anymore. Not good.

Added to which, one of my dds threw a bit of a wobbly that her presents weren’t ’good’ enough - we got her everything she wanted plus some other nice things🙄. She later apologised and seemed sorry she’d been quite bratty, but it upset me.

Her older sister is off to uni next year and I’m feeling emotional about that too.

Plus I tripped outside our house taking the bin out and grazed my hand quite badly.

Cathartic to get this all down. Aware there are others on here going through much worse and so sorry for what you are going through xxx

@CornishGem1975 - so sorry to hear that ❤️

DC (not 3 yet) was an absolute star yesterday. When it mattered, DC read books, played quiet games, watched cartoons and ate hospital vending machine food in waiting areas and staff rooms, with all the associated lights, noises and smells. Listened to every instruction, did everything asked of them. I'm so proud of them.

Oh I'm so so sorry. What a shock for you all.

So sorry, @CornishGem1975 .

Well done, Scirocco’s toddler!

I am so sorry, what a terrible shock, thinking of you

I’d have called a cab for her myself. Completely unacceptable behaviour.

Just been scrolling through the latest posts on this thread and feel so much empathy for people posting about their very difficult and sometimes traumatic Christmases. Mine has not been brilliant, I was wishing and hoping for something better but we got through it and I kept things as upbeat as possible. Food was nice (I am a good cook) and I did everything so that others could have a real rest. All I am is tired, reflective and quite sad, others on here are dealing with really challenging things and they are in my thoughts. Off to bed now for a read and hopefully a sleep.

Assume this is in response to my post about the baileys?

No, in response to OP’s first post. Her mother’s behaviour was awful. You don’t accept an invitation to be fed and stay over at someone’s house then spend the day insulting them.

Christmas is an anachronism to me. Internally I treat it like any other day.