Is there a thread for those having a crap Christmas yet? ☹️

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If not then I’ll start one.

Baby’s first Christmas, DH is an excellent dad and I couldn’t have asked more from him over the last three months. D(?)M has a few drinks and decides to criticise his parenting skills, how he rocks the baby of all things. She refuses to apologise when asked, then doubles down and mocks him verbally and with gestures. It was horrible.

DH hurt, upset and angry. He wants an apology and says she’s not welcome in this house any more. DF disgusted by her behaviour and has been considering an Uber home in the morning. I’m piggy in the middle and have spent £250 on food etc. We have a velcro baby and it has been such a tall order trying to get house ready and was so looking forward to an amazing time.

Tomorrow morning DM definitely won’t apologise, likely she won’t actually remember the half of what happened. Even if we fake having a good day it won’t be true enjoyment, and I am gutted that this is what we are all going to remember of our baby’s first Christmas. What a shit show.

Solidarity to anyone else whose Christmas has been ruined

Norovirus is this household! Yay! Xmas is cancelled completely 🥲

I'm so sorry for all those having a crap time.

OP I agree you tell your mum to shape up and apologise or ship out. Glad your DF is standing up for you and lovely DH.

Hope all those unwell feel better.

I've been suffering cluster headaches for 6 months now. And for anyone who hadn't heard of them (I hadn't!) they are the most painful thing I've ever experienced. I had one at 3am so I've had a rubbish nights sleep and have a residual headache this morning and my eye is slightly sore. I swear that was the most painful one that lasted longest (even after almotriptan) just to make sure I well and truly remembered Christmas this year!

But we has Christmas last night at my dads and had some lovely gifts and a wonderful dinner my dad cooked so at least my Christmas was over before the crap started iyswim?!

Had darling dog pts at 1am after dash to emergency vet's. Gutted.

I was feeling a bit sorry for myself but this thread has really made me count my blessings.
So sorry for all who have lost loved ones, two or four legged.
And noro virus suffers. Worse than chemo sickness in my experience.
Wonder how OP's father is feeling with a wife like that.

Agree with this

I'm so sorry. We lost our darling dog last Christmas. I know how you are feeling. 💐

So sorry to hear @itsgettingweird .cluster headaches are awful. Glad to hear you had a good time last night. Merry Christmas 🎄

We usually have MIL over for Christmas as no other family up here (mine are 4 hours away!)
Instead this afternoon we're visiting her at the hospice as she's dying from cancer.

Crap christmasses all round I guess!

If my mother spoke to dh like that drunk or otherwise she would be told to leave. You are ignoring all posts that suggest similar. When she gets up you should be reiterating this and if she doubles down then she has to go. It's his first Christmas with the baby too. He shouldn't be made to feel like shit in his own home. Freeze the extra food or give it to your dad to take with him.

Aw, that's horrible OP.

It's a shame you didn't record her. Nothing as humbling as seeing or hearing yourself rattling on whilst drunk (and I'm just talking completely innocuous, drunken bullshit, let alone anything this nasty). Horrible sitstion for your dad too.

I hope she apologises to everyone, especially your DH. Some people are really nasty drunks, but they still need to take accountability.

Can I join? I hit the online button to finalise my divorce last night after a day of 1000 little micro hurts. I felt so sad. Two kids and plan to still live together but I can't live a lie anymore. Didn't do a financial order which I understand wasn't wise but my sanity is more important.

Sorry to all those having a crap one so far I hope things turn out ok. I forgot to defrost the vegan turkey type crown we are meant to be eating….

DH just woke up with a temperate of 40. Fuck. Poor him, and now poor me having to drive 2.5 hours twice today to head to very elderly MILs and wrangle DC on my own (2 and 6). Luckily DC are still asleep, albeit in our bed (they didn't go to sleep last night until 11).

Also everything was already a bit shit because FIL died suddenly last Christmas Eve.

I'm so sorry 😞

I'm so 😔

@PheasantPluckers excellent idea about recording .

@PachinkoFreeFood I'm so so sorry. Bad enough but at Christmas time it's worse.

I’m so sorry. That is an awful experience for you at any time. 💔

@Pickled21 the OP is allowed to share her experience on here without being obligated to follow various posters views about what she should do.
Just because she's not responded and said
"right she's in a taxi" doesn't mean she's ignoring posts.
She doesn't need your disapproval for "ignoring posts" on top of everything .

Now I wish the new MN reactions had "sad" or "caring" options, too.
I am so sorry, @Time40. Glad your DP is with you to support you.

We had houseguests one year who totally ruined our Christmas. Luckily they decided to leave early themselves and after that we had a wonderful time so I would call a taxi/Uber for your parents tomorrow with no discussion (other than “sorry you have had to deal with the fallout” to your DF) and make the most of the holiday period.

My dc are going to their dads mid afternoon which makes me sad. But, reading these, just wanted to send love and hugs to all of you who are truly having a horrid time ❤️🌲

Your mum sounds like her envy came out

you safeguard your lovely set up

This. My husband has not supported me when his mother has behaved badly. He has no idea how significantly it has impacted on our marriage.

I just wanted to say that you’re an absolute rock star, and you deserve to feel so proud of yourself for holding it all together. I don’t know if I could do the same in your situation. Hope you’ve got something to unwrap that you actually really wanted. 🌷