Is there a thread for those having a crap Christmas yet? ☹️

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If not then I’ll start one.

Baby’s first Christmas, DH is an excellent dad and I couldn’t have asked more from him over the last three months. D(?)M has a few drinks and decides to criticise his parenting skills, how he rocks the baby of all things. She refuses to apologise when asked, then doubles down and mocks him verbally and with gestures. It was horrible.

DH hurt, upset and angry. He wants an apology and says she’s not welcome in this house any more. DF disgusted by her behaviour and has been considering an Uber home in the morning. I’m piggy in the middle and have spent £250 on food etc. We have a velcro baby and it has been such a tall order trying to get house ready and was so looking forward to an amazing time.

Tomorrow morning DM definitely won’t apologise, likely she won’t actually remember the half of what happened. Even if we fake having a good day it won’t be true enjoyment, and I am gutted that this is what we are all going to remember of our baby’s first Christmas. What a shit show.

Solidarity to anyone else whose Christmas has been ruined

Sorry you're having a crappy Christmas! Sounds like you need to boot your mum out (if you haven't already!).

I would be having a crap Christmas as my partner got pissed last night and has spent the morning throwing up, groaning, moaning and snoozing on the sofa whilst me and our DD aged 3 do presents. It would have been shit but I'm planning on leaving in January due to his alcoholism and it means I'm not letting what he's done get to me because I'm off. The only sad thing is when DD has tried interacting with him about her presents and all she gets in reply is "urrrrggh".

Nearly missed flight to see “D”Ps due to cancelled trains, traffic and extra security check of my bag, had proper meltdown panic at airport. Not like me usually but it’s been a very shit year. DH emotional affair, depression, beloved doggo died, work hellish. Arrived to find mum in severe pain with infected abscess which she didn’t tell me about & DF didn’t take her to docs for, spent yesterday in foreign casualty sorting that out. We were supposed to have lunch out today which would have been much more relaxing but oh no, DM insisted on cooking at home while hobbling around playing the martyr. I have gone back to hotel. DF useless. DH, who to be fair has been great with DPs is out for a walk. Future of our marriage is very uncertain. I have no siblings, and no kids (not by choice). Last Christmas was shite too. Not doing this again.

I got told my baby had no heart beat (MMC) a few days ago and my mother has gone to my sisters (golden child) for Christmas after she declined to come to mine as it was too much hassle / driving.

Aww love, l'm sorry. It might all be OK when he gets back. He shouldn't have left you on your own though.

I'm so sorry. Sending good thoughts.

I'm so sorry

@Windcatcger I’m so sorry.

@AnnaDelvorkina be sure to repay that one when you can afford it. Incredibly selfish.

@Happyinheels go and put your feet up.

@Windcatcger 🫂🌷

At my mum’s - she’s got VERY strict ideas about when presents are opened, when we get to eat… I feel like I need to respect it because it’s her house. She’s also in a foul mood and I can’t put a foot right.

meanwhile my three year old is losing her mind because there’s a stack of present of presents and chocolate she can’t touch without my mum having a go…

I just want to cry - it took multiple rounds of ivf to be pregnant - and last Christmas I’d just found out another transfer had failed so spent the day hiding and crying. I just thought I’d be wobbling around with a happy Christmas child and instead I’m walking on eggshells with a sad child.

My DM got taken to hospital at 7 am. I’ve been awake since 3.
Have to go out later to the expensive restaurant meal she paid for as a present for all of us :(
Oh that's hard , we were in a similar situation one year and it was just surreal.

Not 100% crap, but found some nasty black mould in my relatives flat (I provide quite a lot of support to them) and it’s another thing that needs fixing. Trying not to google local damp experts today and leave it til tomorrow.

Not that I would want anyone to have a crap time but this thread is making me feel better.

I've felt this morning like everyone is having a better Christmas than me because of messages from friends and social media posts. There is an expectation for it to be a certain way and I feel really low today because mine just isn't that way. It's very quiet and dynamics with my parents are strained.

In reality, we're all just doing our best. Merry Christmas x

Your mother sounds like someone who shouldn't have a drink at Christmas. Or maybe not ever!

I hope you can either have a stern conversation with your mother or let her know you won't be spending Christmas with her again.

Thanks @DepartingRadish

I'm so sorry.

Alcohol can be such a curse, it’s the reason I’m not terribly close to my dm. We’ve had a tricky year, cancer scare and broken bones, animals and my Dh. He’s off over Christmas for the first time in years and I was planning on doing bugger all, but dm was rushed into hospital 2 nights ago with very low oxygen and flu. She’s 5 hours away and if I don’t go, the family will think I’m an actual devil, so I’m going up on Friday. 😢 Pointless going if she’s still in hospital, but she’s not sounding great today.

Got back from work (hospital - in overnight) to an unwell DH, so we'll be heading back up to my work shortly, just in a different capacity.

Today is also my birthday and neither of my siblings have wished me either a merry Christmas or happy birthday. Due to a slip-up 1 of them made on Fb I know they have chatted amongst themselves today but did not include me for some reason.
DD is spending the afternoon/evening with her DP's parents after work as they only live a 20 minute drive away and I'm 3 hours drive from her and I'm jealous that they get to see her today but I won't (we haven't spent Christmas day together since 2018, due to work schedules and distance).
To top it all off DP, who was being an absolute star this morning and spoiling me has had a seizure (he's epileptic). The 1st one in 5 years so is now sleeping it off feeling very guilty that I will now have to drive him everywhere for the whole of 2025.
I just feel so deflated and alone right now I could cry.

edit for spelling.

I'm sorry you're having a bad time.
May I invite you to put your feet up and try the Christmas Puzzle
Let me know how you get on.

I'm so sorry. That's awful news and despicable behaviour from your mum.

I'm avoiding social media for that reason.

I hope you have a good day x

Can you go home? Seriously. Can you pack up your things and just go?

And tell her why. She's actually ruining your Christmas and your child's Christmas with her controlling behaviour. It's not just about her, it's about all of you, and she's ruining it.

Heck, I'd film some of that so you can show it to him in January if he needs reminders when / why you're leaving.

My alcoholic sibling stuck his head round the door on his way to the pub at 11. Opened the present and card I’d got him, didn’t say thanks, didn’t give me anything and left me here alone with no Xmas lunch. Charming.