Is there a thread for those having a crap Christmas yet? ☹️

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If not then I’ll start one.

Baby’s first Christmas, DH is an excellent dad and I couldn’t have asked more from him over the last three months. D(?)M has a few drinks and decides to criticise his parenting skills, how he rocks the baby of all things. She refuses to apologise when asked, then doubles down and mocks him verbally and with gestures. It was horrible.

DH hurt, upset and angry. He wants an apology and says she’s not welcome in this house any more. DF disgusted by her behaviour and has been considering an Uber home in the morning. I’m piggy in the middle and have spent £250 on food etc. We have a velcro baby and it has been such a tall order trying to get house ready and was so looking forward to an amazing time.

Tomorrow morning DM definitely won’t apologise, likely she won’t actually remember the half of what happened. Even if we fake having a good day it won’t be true enjoyment, and I am gutted that this is what we are all going to remember of our baby’s first Christmas. What a shit show.

Solidarity to anyone else whose Christmas has been ruined

I have ruined Christmas. The kids are fine though they are none the wiser. DH took out a loan and booked a holiday for all the family, a holiday of a lifetime without discussing it with me. Can we afford it? He says we can. I say we can't. We have no savings. I'm tired of being in debt. So now he's in a bad mood and slamming doors and unhappy that I'm not over the moon. He doesn't get it at all. I am tired of worrying about money. He doesn't seem to see it's my money too and I should have a say in how it's spent.

Completely agree. Put it back on her OP

It's all fake love, better have something not perfect that's real - hopefully you will laugh about it one day xx

Today is my birthday and I’ve been vomiting since 6am plus my children are at their fathers until this afternoon so no excited faces for me 😔 just cancel it all

I could have made the same post myself last year. My thoughts are with you.

I am away from my large family this year - for good reasons, but it’s hard not spending it with them all. I’ve spent the last week thinking to myself about how lovely it’ll be for me to host them all next year though and what an effort I’ll make to make it be special….except me being away seems to have also pushed me out of the minds of them all except my sibling. They and a grandparent were the only ones who sent me a gift to bring with me, my own parents have been largely radio silent and despite a significant time difference I had no messages from family at all when I woke up. To put it in context, we are usually close and message regularly so I’m not sure what’s happened really. But I know they’re having a nice time all together and enjoying thoughtful gifts from me, I think it just means I’ll head into the new year with a different lens on my expectations of them and how much I give of myself going forwards.

You are doing really well! ❤️
I'm an adult (presumably) with Asperger's and your son's dinner sounds alright to me, even the separation of the foods.
For a long time I wondered why I prefer doing something similar.
Your husband will come to his senses.

Expecting a baby in 3 weeks and make sure getting the house ready was the priority. MiL drops by and shits all over us for not dancing around and having decorations everywhere and appreciating being with her. If she gets in a car crash on her way out I might start believing in Santa again

I just wanted to say I'm sorry - I lost my mum in 2014 and this is probably the first Christmas I haven't completely broken down at least once (although there's still time...). I miss her every day. You're not alone xxx

Sorry for all of you going through a bad time, particularly those who have lost family members and pets recently 😢

My mum died in October, so we weren't planning much for today, aside from cooking a nice meal. However, I've got a horrendous migraine and can't contemplate eating anything, and the cat has just thrown up all over our duvet, so cooking is cancelled and we've ended up doing washing instead 🙄

Merry Christmas everyone 🎄

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Sympathies to everyone who's having a really shitty time.
So much for "magic", eh? Cannot stand that word.

Very low key Christmas here, just my husband (75), who is still in bed, and myself.
I'm not well at all ( very troublesome period) 🙄,
so food will be smoked salmon sandwiches etc.
I would have liked to prepare that roast on steroids for husband, but he doesn't mind.
🤢 Maybe tomorrow.
Thinking about you all, realise my problems are not really problems, just a minor inconvenience, as another person put it!

Thank you.

I'm sorry about your mum. It leaves behind such a gap. I hope there are some nice Christmas memories you have of her

When my mum was well Christmas was a big thing. She was a fantastic cook, and I remember her teaching me how to make roast potatoes, so I will be thinking of her later when I do ours for dinner.

Just me and my two young adult DDs today as DH died in the summer aged 59. It was just a few weeks after our dog died. So, we're feeling sad but we're not having the horrendous time some of you are experiencing.

Sending hugs to those of you who have suffered loss, who are alone, who are ill, who are unappreciated, or who are having a horrid time for one reason or another. I'll raise a glass to all of you when we have our quiet little Christmas lunch, and hope that 2025 brings you all better health, peace, happiness and warmer relationships.

This is terrible, so sorry

I'm at home with one of my teens because we were involved in a car crash on the way up to the family Christmas at the beginning of the week, less than an hour from home. Luckily, everyone involved in the incident was fine, but between being shaken up and the time it took to sort and feel able to drive again, we decided to turn around and go home rather than drive for another 6+ hours at that point. So the two of us are home while everyone else is in Scotland. We've made the best of it here, including festive shopping the sales, a Chinese feast of a take out last night, and a planned walk for today, my teen has been beyond lovely about it. He's an absolute star, really. But everyone else is in Scotland and we didn't plan on being here. Is what it is. My DH and other two teens are coming home tomorrow now, a day early, because they want to be home with us. But it's definitely not what we planned this year!

Another one missing my mum today. This is my third Christmas without her and it's no easier. DH has the flu. And DD has gone back to her violent partner.

Wish it was all over.
Strength to you all.

@chubbychihauhau ❤ That’s so awful. I really, really feel for you. My husband’s MH has been terrible too. Monday was one of the worst days of my life because of it. Be good to yourself, and enjoy your chocolate xx

My little grandchild went into hospital last night and is very ill. We are all terribly worried. Those of us at home are just going through the motions for the younger members of the family and sneaking off to cry.

The selfish devil!

This is unforgivable what a greedy bastard.

Oh gosh, thinking of you all 💐💐💐

I’ve had zero from my dad or my daughter, sent my brother and sister something, I’m the one he doesn’t like. My daughters at my mums as I have Covid, I’ve thought sod it and gone back to bed. Merry sodding Christmas

Thank you all. I'm sorry that some of you are also having terrible times. Sending love

I'm so sorry

I'm missing my lovely family. Only got my DF and my DSs. My 'DH' is being an utter prick. Just putting a brave face on for the day.