Is there a thread for those having a crap Christmas yet? ☹️

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If not then I’ll start one.

Baby’s first Christmas, DH is an excellent dad and I couldn’t have asked more from him over the last three months. D(?)M has a few drinks and decides to criticise his parenting skills, how he rocks the baby of all things. She refuses to apologise when asked, then doubles down and mocks him verbally and with gestures. It was horrible.

DH hurt, upset and angry. He wants an apology and says she’s not welcome in this house any more. DF disgusted by her behaviour and has been considering an Uber home in the morning. I’m piggy in the middle and have spent £250 on food etc. We have a velcro baby and it has been such a tall order trying to get house ready and was so looking forward to an amazing time.

Tomorrow morning DM definitely won’t apologise, likely she won’t actually remember the half of what happened. Even if we fake having a good day it won’t be true enjoyment, and I am gutted that this is what we are all going to remember of our baby’s first Christmas. What a shit show.

Solidarity to anyone else whose Christmas has been ruined

Sorry to everyone having an awful time. Love and strength to you all.

Trying not to whine ... Dropped something heavy and I think I have a broken toe. Going to try and ignore it until at least Friday.

My mum has bought me presents that would literally kill me due to allergies, my husband has lost the presents from his family and shouted at me about it. He doesn't like his Christmas present from me, need I go on I've already locked myself in the bathroom once to cry before 9am

I am so, so sorry. That is terrible.

Hope your day has some good bits. And really sorry about your mum :( Please stay away from social media if you’re feeling a bit fragile. Or even if you’re not! I could make my own Christmas look like something from a movie if I wanted but the reality is mixed like everything in real life. SM doesn’t show this

My DH stormed out last night due to him shouting about where the tote bags were. He drove to his mother's (1.5 hours drive) but came back late last night. Me and the adult children can't be doing with him and it is going to be a very shit Christmas and wish he had stayed with his mother. I put so much effort into Christmas and I love it, not this year

Very tense here as DM favours one grandchild while continually criticising the other (both under 4) so upsetting DD, the non golden child's mum. And does the 'woe is me, I'm old, I'm SURE I didn't mean to cause offence' when called out on it. Bitches about everyone. She didn't used to be this bad and I think her faculties are going..her filter certainly has.
Meanwhile I have severe dental pain am drugged up to the eyeballs and am catering to a lot of family who don't tidy up after themselves.
Roll on Friday when they all go, and I can spend time with my lovely little grandchild.
My own adult kids are being fab and very supportive and a bit shocked at Granny.
I'm so sorry for those of have just lost someone, human or animal xx

@Happyinheels Don’t clear up the breakfast, try to make the most of the you time, put on music or a film or TV series or read a book or whatever with your favourite drink (and snack if the breakfast has digested already!) Or go out for a walk or cycle if you want to. Sorry about your DP. Is there any reason why he would be so tired?

@DrivingThePlot Very VERY low-key Xmas here. We have two autistic DS here, the eldest who's been off school for a term with a perfect storm of viruses, vitamin D deficiency and MH issues.

My elderly DM, while worried about her grandson being burned out, tripped over a bin, injured her hip and broke her shoulder a couple of weeks ago.

My DH is working all Xmas to meet a deadline. Yesterday afternoon, he found an unfixable problem with a massive project that he's worried he would have noticed a month ago if he hadn't been worried about our older DS.

So... we have no decorations. No unusual foods and no relatives (beyond my DM). On the upside, it's relatively stress free. Both DS are happily building Lego. One-armed DM is helping my youngest with his build.

If life brings lemons...

Your MIL isn't the centre of attention and she's probably jealous that her son is giving more attention to the baby than to her.

tedious and exhausting, but I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of spoiling your first Christmas with your child. Deliberately be upbeat and positive and get your DH to be the same - don't let her try to drag you down,

It's her own mum.

Oh my god I am so sorry x

Hope you and DH can enjoy your day OP despite her behaviour.

@AnnaDelvorkina thank you so much for your reply and suggestions.
This is just how it is. He suffers with his mental health quite badly and I try to be as supportive as I can and try not to put upon him. But I'm drained and in a protective mode I think.

Oh no!

This is heart breaking.

I hope they are running around over the rainbow bridge with massive turkey each.

He sounds like my DH (who is also still sleeping, so we missed Mass).

I am so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss and I hope that everyone who is on this thread manages to find some peace or joy at some point over the holidays . My husband and I have started the day having a cry about our lovely dog who died in November , he loved Christmas so it’s particularly difficult . We are out to dinner later and will see my Siamese cat grandchildren so no doubt I will cheer up a bit .

Us too!

We came back from
the pub last night and the alarm was going off. We had pizza in the garden while we waited for the gas man to come and cap off the gas.

We also think ours is a faulty sensor as the gas man’s was fine and we also went and got my parents and it was fine too. Once an alarm goes off they have no choice but to cap. Trying to get it turned back on this side of the New Year looks like it will be a challenge!

Fucking hell, I am sorry! What an appalling thing. Cyber-hugs for you, and for everyone else having a crappy Christmas.

I'm not having a great Christmas either. DP having a bad mental health crisis so he's too erratic to be here so he's at his parents who won't have me in the house in case it sets him off. My Dd spent last night with her dad and he was meant to bring her back at 1 to spend the rest of today with me but she's having such fun with her half sister I just said keep her there a bit longer as she's enjoying herself.
So I'm just here on my own looking a mess and not had a single present yet. My DP gave all my presents away to someone who deserved them more than me. A random stranger in the park.
My dogs are cuddling me, they love their new toys.
I'm going to have a nice bath, sort my bed hair out, put some makeup on and see how I feel after. Once dd home then will do her presents and eat chocolate.
Whatever your day brings I hope everyone gets some pleasure out of it.
So it feels odd to say happy Christmas or merry Christmas when some of us are not feeling that so I guess seasons greetings to you all x

Yes also having a crap Christmas. DH and I not speaking. But that’s another story. Suffice it to say, I’m feeling like I’ve gotta advise anyone with a lovely DH to back him all the way and hang on to him. I’m an older lady so excuse the directness - get that selfish cow of a woman outta there. Now!!! Fake an illness, stage an accident, paint a rash, bloody anything. Life’s too short. Christmas is too special. It’s all about you him and the bubba now. Get her gone!!! Then sit all together and laugh heartily at her expense- the mean old baggage. Have a lovely, loving Christmas you three xx

The pressure on Christmas is insane. It’s a roast dinner at the end of the day 😂

My DM got taken to hospital at 7 am. I’ve been awake since 3.

Have to go out later to the expensive restaurant meal she paid for as a present for all of us :(

I just find it so difficult. I am not from a happy family and have not been able to create a happy family in my adult life and have had some hellish Christmases and although things are better these days as I look after myself with good boundaries and trying to focus on the bits I enjoy, I do struggle with some horrible memories of awful rows, conflict and stress. I am tired too, am hosting for the day (not many people and all is organised) but after the shopping, planning, cooking, present wrapping and what feels like endless cleaning I just want to go back to bed with a good book. So it's not a crap Christmas but I could really do without it.