Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

[Mydogisamassivetwat]

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

Send him a box of tissues

She let a real prince go there!

Since you no longer have to be seen as “reasonable” I would desperately want to suggest he speaks to the GF about custody arrangements.

Understandable though that you’d rather ignore him. What a cock.

Ooh yes,I forgot the time he screamed at me in the street for going to college part time on top of my job (god knows how he found out)

How DARE I neglect his kids and do something for myself???

Do I not know I should be there 24/7,pandering to their every need and neglecting my own life!!!

I'd be hearing from his lawyer!!! (still waiting) and he tried to ring ss to have the kids taken away from me

The 'kids' where 19 and 20 at the time-and I'd finished my college course and got my qualifications 2 years earlier

He then tried to contact the college to have a go at them for accepting ds on a course that he didn't approve of

Ds had left the year before-armed with his qualifications

When that didn't work,he went to ds's workplace to scream at him for doing the college course without his permission

And he wonders why they don't want to know him...

The sense of self importance is spectacular.

Say he can go for full custody but this means he will have to pick his son up from work every day on the dot, he can't be late as your son's boss can't wait around looking after him.

Good lord, what a prize prat! 🤣

@Mydogisamassivetwat i love your stock answer. Do you hear the steam coming out of his ears from hundred of miles away? 😂😂😂

This kind of thing comes as absolutely no surprise to me.
I have a classic to entertain you all with.
X’s new wife was doing some gardening and poked him in the eye with a stick scratching his Cornelia so that he couldn’t drive.
Unfortunately, it was his weekend to have DS so rather than the grown ass woman who had actually poked him in the eye with a stick causing his disability having to suffer a moment of discomfort as a result of her actions. It was considered appropriate to call me and asked me to come back off my holiday to resolve the situation. She is nearly 60 so absolutely no younger children to consider.

I mean, on what planet do these people think that’s reasonable?

Exactly! They get so enraged when they can no longer control

Oh gosh I'm embarrassed for him.

I was thinking that if you've moved 10 hours away it probably is your responsibility to facilitate contact...and then I got to the bit where he's 22. 😂

OP's ex and these men mentioned by pp sound batshit crazy!!

Trying to see what's funny tbh

please just respond with “before you take advice on next steps please remind yourself of our sons DOB and the fact he is now an adult. I have no say over his actions.” 😂😂😂

This is incredible.

This thread makes me wish I hadn’t blocked mine now.
My son, 30 at the time,Was giving up smoking. Great you’d think everyone encouraging him.
Not ex,his complaint was he’d have nobody to borrow one from.

Why is he not a blocked contact? What a dick 😂

Has your ds got a railcard? Will keep future train travel costs down a bit

https://www.nationalrail.co.uk/railcards/

Oh and your dh is a proper twit of the highest order 😀

I am now adding let me know how it goes to my toolbox for random and tricky conversations at work, thank you!

I would reply..

Seek advice? Seek advice!?! Who from? He’s 22, you moron.

Let me know what Childline say…and Bernardos…and a maybe get back in touch with the Solicitor who dealt with custody at the time of our divorce, you know, when he was A CHILD!

This has given me a jolly good chuckle, seek advice! Ha! LOL! Meeting the girls tonight for Christmas drinks, we’ll all have a jolly good laugh at this.

Loving this thread, What a moron your ex really is.
If he rocks up on the door step demanding to see his boy I'll drop round to yours with the spade and lay you a new patio as a christmas present.
On the other hand... you'd miss his twat behaviour, what does 'the boy' say about it all when he finishes laughing?

This was my first thought. My dad used to do this when I was in my first job and low on funds. He certainly didn't expect my mother to facilitate visits.

There is always a real chance his son doesn't want to see him anyway, so why would he bother? Especially when dad comes out with such knobbish threats?

22

How dare you not facilitate contact.

I also love your stock reply and plan to use it frequently.