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Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 12:10

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

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ElaborateCushion · 08/01/2025 16:47

Mydogisamassivetwat · 08/01/2025 14:51

We will have a new situation incoming soon, I’m sure as ds told me that he’s planing to propose to his gf at some point this year (he’s about to turn 23, she’s about to turn 24).

He spoke to me about it early as my dad died last year, and he’d told us a few years ago, before dementia set in, that he wanted ds to have his wedding ring when the time came, and for ds future wife to have my mums engagement ring, with her wedding ring going to my younger child. I’ve had another child since he expressed those wishes, and ds wanted to tell me in advance that he wants my mums engagement ring to be saved for his youngest sibling one day instead of going to his girlfriend, so they all have something of their grandparents.

I can only imagine what delights ex h will have in store when ds tells him he’s proposed!! I’ll just give the thumbs up emoji this time, I think 🤣

Ah - you absolutely MUST start a thread when the time comes that we can all follow through to the actual wedding!

I fear you are going to need lots of alcohol to get through the day itself!

Mydogisamassivetwat · 08/01/2025 17:17

Oh, can you imagine! It’s lucky that I’m not a dick, their wedding plans, especially where we sit and eat, if they even chose to do that or have guests there, will be none of my business, but I can only imagine what ex h will think about it! His parents micromanaged every second of our wedding, so I am sure he will be the same. Not my circus, not my monkeys, I just hope he doesn’t upset them.

I’ve got time anyway, ds said they have discussed marriage and won’t actually get married until they buy their own place, they both just wanted to make their relationship more official.

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secondsoutthere · 08/01/2025 18:59

Your son sounds fab Smile

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2025willbemytime · 08/01/2025 19:24

How lovely your son wants his sister to have the ring.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 08/01/2025 20:24

Well he'll certainly struggle getting her to agree to joint custody now!

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/01/2025 23:11
  1. Congratulations on raising a gentleman who considers his sister so much.
  2. Please update this thread when ex-H finds out about the engagement. 🍿
Empressme · 15/01/2025 12:55

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 12:10

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

Why are you engaging with his nonsense?

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 15/01/2025 13:21

Empressme · 15/01/2025 12:55

Why are you engaging with his nonsense?

Why don't you read the thread to find out?

Empressme · 16/01/2025 11:11

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 15/01/2025 13:21

Why don't you read the thread to find out?

I read it in full and because it doesn't make sense, that's why I asked
You're answering a question with a question
He's your ex not your husband
But as you didn't want to answer me then that's fine👍

Isanyonereallyanonymous · 16/01/2025 11:22

Pleeeeeease can this be moved to Classics?
Loving the exH batshittery and the OP’s refreshing response to it. Please keep us updated on wedding related nonsense OP

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 16/01/2025 11:46

Empressme · 16/01/2025 11:11

I read it in full and because it doesn't make sense, that's why I asked
You're answering a question with a question
He's your ex not your husband
But as you didn't want to answer me then that's fine👍

I don't have an ExH - DH is quite nice actually 😅

Empressme · 16/01/2025 11:50

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 16/01/2025 11:46

I don't have an ExH - DH is quite nice actually 😅

What is dh

Empressme · 16/01/2025 11:52

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 16/01/2025 11:46

I don't have an ExH - DH is quite nice actually 😅

Your post said ex husband on it🤔

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 16/01/2025 11:54

Empressme · 16/01/2025 11:52

Your post said ex husband on it🤔

I'm not the OP, if that's what you're thinking 🤨

beachcitygirl · 17/01/2025 03:15

You should write a book OP - golden

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