Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

[Mydogisamassivetwat]

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

😂😂😂 that's exactly the sort of thing my ex partner would have done. Our nickname for him was 'See You In Court' and 'The SS' as in, "orders shall be obeyed at all times!" 😂

He once wrote me a two page A4 letter complaining that ds didn't like football and was only interested in history and I was to get him off interests like that as it wasn't right, and he didn't have anything in common with him 😂

I doubt he has been speaking to a solicitor, but I kind of hope he has as I’m sure the staff at the solicitors’ firm could do with a good laugh every now and then.

This is making a late bid for thread of the year!

You really should reply to this one just to remind him that you share custody with son's gf. Since she has him more than 50% he really needs to negotiate maintenance payments to her when he seeks his advice.

I think we all deserve ringside seats to that little court drama, OP.

What a bellend!

My ex does this from time to time

He hasn't bothered with his kids since dd1 was 2 and a half-her brother was about 18 months old

He gets wind of something and the threats start up

The last one was 'how dare you let dd go abroad-ive not given permission!stop her from going!take her passport away!'

He was going to take 'legal action' against me apparently (never heard a thing)

She was 27 at the time

Oh my god, he did the same over ds GCSE choices! 4 typed A4 pages of absolute bashittery that he also sent to the head of year. He even went into the ins and outs of our divorce in it. Ds form tutor called me and said did we need any support with ex as it was so out of the realms of normality.

Like the time when he said he had contacted a solicitor as he wanted receipts for every penny of maintenance money spent so that I would have to prove it was all spent on ds.

Dear God, were you also married to my ex?! Have also had this exact conversation in the past. Along with a request for me to have a prenup when I remarried as he was demanding that 'the house he bought me' (the one I bought with the help of my divorce settlement) be left to our daughter when I die.

It's making me sorry I blocked him now as I could do with a good laugh.

Tell him ds can't come because he is grounded... Say he left the toilet seat up /top off the toothpaste /fill in something as equally stupid... My exh is dead. 2 years on and still celebrating... But he had a solicitor write and demand I remove my new blinds as he could no longer see into my house..
Oddy no judge agreed with him.

That really did make me laugh, hilarious! Also the updates, insanity!
I imagine something similar might have happened between my parents growing up and I too don't exactly enjoy finding time to go a visit my dear father over the festive period.

I'm hoping the same! Cheer everyone right up before Christmas.

Oh God, there is more than one of him!

Ds and his girlfriend lived with us for a year, as we are fortunate to have a little annexe/studio type thing, until they moved into their own place a few months ago. That was the last time he waded in. He didn’t think it was appropriate that ds was sharing a room with his girlfriend (both 21 years old), and that he would be contacting social services as ds has two younger siblings in the house. I told him to let me know how it goes….

@Mydogisamassivetwat Tell him sorry but you have had a look around the shops and cannot find a car safety seat big enough for your 22 year old dear child!!!

The going for full custody due to DS not wanting to go to university sounds familiar - so if you didn’t post at the time he’s not the only one out there !

Are you me? I have got one of these, including writing to school with verbose details of our divorce. In fact I gather he has emailed me + DCs (both over 18) this week about my shortfalls and the fact that his kids have absolutely nothing to do with him.

Both of my DC made their own decisions as soon as they were old enough. No encouragement from me, but support for them 'you might not always feel this way but whatever you feel right now is valid' type thing.

Anyway, I don't receive his emails, he has been blocked for at least 8 years. Occasionally I receive something by recorded delivery. What a twat.

Not the purpose of the thread, but for future reference, train journeys are cheaper if you avoid peak times especially going through London.

Also, he could buy a 16-25 railcard which will save him 1/3 off train journeys. After 25 there’s a 26-30 railcard.

Thanks for this, it made me laugh out loud! There do seem to be a load of these idiot exes around.

Quietly chuckling to myself on the train platform here, thanks OP! 🤣

So DS has his own dwelling, but where DS has chosen to live is somehow your fault?

😂😂😁

Thanks for sharing this, I needed a laugh today.

I know he must be quite a drain OP but this is hilarious and I cannot wait for an update!

Also not the point of this thread but you’d think if he wanted to see his son so much he’d offer to pay the train fare for him, recognising that his son is young and probably doesn’t have a lot of money.

I bloody love your let me know how it goes reply OP. Well done for staying cool and holding firm. Congulations on getting through it!

His GF has custody now, so she should be facilitating contact 😂

Ex once messaged me to tell me to give mine a light lunch and then give them nothing else for the rest of the day as they were going to dinner later that day for his mum’s birthday and he didn’t want me to spoil their appetite.

They were 16/17 at the time and at that age when they could easily polish off a roast dinner then empty the fridge ‘for snacks’.

His first Xmas day, he also messaged on Xmas eve to ask me what he should feed them. (Secondary school age).

Merry Christmas @Mydogisamassivetwat this is brilliant! Thanks for sharing.

Just having a few mins of Mumsnet before I start again on my big list of chores... which I will never finish if I stay up all night Xxx

And don't forget the pampers and baby wipes -for your ex 😂