Children: ‘No Christmas, Please!’ YAY!

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So, my teenagers confirmed last night they don’t want to do Christmas! They just want to spend the day with family, relaxing, eating good food, playing with the dog and watching old films - no roast, no presents, no forced interactions with family they don’t like.

Not sure whether to laugh, because honestly just eating nibbles, fruit and salads all day whilst we watch Star Wars and DH loses so badly at scrabble he tosses the tiles across the table again sounds amazing, or to cry tears of joy because they actually agreed on something together (honestly, it’s the first time I can remember them ever agreeing)

Not even anything to really comment on here. I just wanted to post and say how happy I am that we all get a day off and can actually just relax without any pressure! Obviously did not say this to them, just nodded and said ‘oh that sounds lovely’ but I am so pleased!

Oh to be a person who finds eating fruit and salad all day fun!

I thought you were mean not giving your DC presents, but now I know you adopted them as teens I can’t help but think that is even more mean. They’ve surely not been with you that long if you are only 31. Why would you not want to spoilt them and make Christmas special (I get not going to the big party, that’s fine, but let them have their presents and something to eat that’s more special than usual!!)

I agree.

Perhaps the rest of the story is what OP convinces herself of, so she doesn’t have to face the reality of how sad her life is.

Loneliness, and engagement. She probably has no friends and no one to talk to in real life, so a ‘conversation’ on MN is the next best thing.

Surely you've got the message from the teens that they just don't want to go to the party of 40 people? I wouldn't want that either. They've probably agreed to all the rest just to get out of that bit - but I'm pretty sure they'd like their presents really. And if you're going to give them on their birthday then why not give them at Christmas?

No more MN for me today, this has absolutely won it 😂

If this post were true (which I think we all agree it’s not) then I can't help but wonder what sort of 31 year old has two adopted teens from a foreign country that she doesn't want to spoil at Christmas.

We only get 18 Christmases when our children are children. OP will have already missed out on a number of these.

Give the kids some bloody presents, fgs.

I bloody love sitting around eating bowls of fruit and salad. Love it.

Ah OP you sound lonely, lots of people are, it’s unfortunately not that unusual , you don’t have to make up stories. Try posting authentically as yourself 💐

I don’t think your icon is relevant, think its a Shloer household,
obviously it isn’t US who are the fun sponges
lovely chilled days happen anytime,
besides which given the ironic use of your first word
your comprehension skill needs addressing

I haven't done xmas in years op best ting i ever gave up.
My son is 21 and he said the same as your kids when he was about 13 we spend the day like any other day.
No decs no gifts no faffing no fakeness no slaving in the kitchen he now works all over Xmas.
Xmas dinner is just a sunday roast really that neither of us like.
I have a deep cleaning day on xmas eve and binge on youtube.

I would like an AMA so I could ask the perp what kind of depraved mind could dream up a story about enjoying salad five times a week.

Some rabbits people simply have NO limits.

My 14 year old doesn't like opening presents, the dinner or being with family all day.

Tough shite!!

So you’re 31, and your mum in her late 80’s (so she had you in her 50’s?) has been coming to you for 20+ years (so since you were 10?).

It would have been really easy to do this thread and only generate positive engagement, though. New username to avoid inconsistencies, “is anyone looking forward to a simple Christmas at home?” type thing without the weird no presents business, google an elaborate recipe and pretend that’s what you’re making etc. Or even just spend enough time thinking about it to get the age details right so you don’t get caught up, it wouldn’t have been complex. Actually am now wondering how many of the cosy banal threads I enjoy are completely made up by people who are really about to endure shit Christmasses 🥲

Does part of that ‘no presents’ mean donating those already purchased? Otherwise it is just ‘we’ll have the Christmas presents a little later, but pretend we didn’t do Christmas presents’.

Your lovely, non-grabby teens are blowing posters' minds, OP!

Your family sounds lovely OP. Havd a happy Christmas 🤶

So is the mother who apparently birthed her at 55.

Good for you, OP!
I just decided not to bother with a Christmas tree, since it's just husband and me.
👍
He'll still have the roast, though.
😊

Sounds great! They sound a good bunch!

So lucky.
Are you extremely thin and healthy?
What do you do for a treat?

(I'm not into roasts myself, but a special day would be full of chocolate!)

I don’t understand the no presents. I’d be gutted if someone said that to me, especially week before Christmas when I’ve already bought and wrapped most things!

You can still do Christmas without seeing people and getting dressed up.

Edited to add - fuck the salad!!

YABU purely for the desire to spend Christmas Day eating salads 🤪

Enjoying the idea of the sneaky ISC planting festive salad stories!