The midnight cuppa

[Themidnightcuppa]

Went to bed at 9.30pm and woke at midnight, just me here tonight so I can do as I please so it’s tea and toast and a scroll.

this is becoming a bit of a habit waking up for a cuppa, a scroll, and then going back to bed, am I the only one?

Thank you, I have now a cuppa and managed to only disturb the dog who I shared a small pork pie and a sausage roll with.

I’ve been mentally preparing my dejunk, I’ll start tomorrow. DH and I have not done anything for over a year other than paperwork. I’ve run out of clothes so am wearing T shirts the kids gave him for Christmas with my pj bottoms and wrapped myself up in his new cosy dressing gown I’d got him for Christmas.

can’t quite believe he’s no longer here as he was in hospital a lot so him not being here is not unusual.

That's heartbreaking,my heart goes out to you.

So sorry to hear of your loss,I hope you find some peace and manage to get some rest x

Great work @Themidnightcuppa, I bet your dog was overjoyed with the shared snacks.

I can't imagine how you're feeling. My H left suddenly a couple of years ago which was very hard for some time, but can't be compared to your situation.

The approach of taking life one day, hour, moment at a time has been a comfort over the years. It might be helpful to you too.

Sending you an unmumsnetty hug. I hope you're cosy in DH's dressing gown and manage to sleep after your cuppa.

Thank you. He’s been poorly for such a long time that life went on hold really for both of us so although I’m sad im looking forward to doing things for myself. I’ll unearth my watercolours and go to the canal and paint the narrow boats again.

I’m so so sorry for your loss op. Your plans sound perfect and I’m glad you have ideas for positive ways to spend your time. I hope sleep comes soon.

Same here. 2 sleeps.
I don't fight it. I'm single, so have a TV and a teasmade in my room. I have bedroom teabags, hot chocolate, a coffee cup with a plunger (for morning), a water filter jug, and I take an ice pack to bed, and sit a lidded pot of milk on that. I also have one of those drinking glasses with a lid and a straw and a selection of cordials/squash. Oh, and some of those instant cappuccino sachets. It's like a hotel room set up. Probably more like a budget B&B.
Oh, and I'm seriously considering replacing my bedside table with a small drinks fridge.
I'm currently watching rubbish TV with a lovely cup of tea.

Nothing wrong with nighttime tea and toast. I got up just recently to have pasta. Might have a cup of tea and viscount biscuit next.

I was really very sad to read your update@Themidnightcuppa

In an earlier post you mentioned you and your DH looking at your souvenir Christmas tree decorations and reminiscing. I do hope you managed to do that and enjoyed the time together. It's such a surreal time after you've lost someone, isn't it? It takes time and space to come to terms with it all. Take it easy and get out in the open and do your art. Look after yourself 🙂

I’m really sorry that your DH has passed away 💐. I hope that you have time, space, tea, whatever really to get through this difficult time. It’s so tough dealing with a loved one’s long-term sickness that ends with them passing away. It is lovely that despite being bereaved, you can see a positive chapter ahead. I hope that you enjoy your life as you intend and I wish you good health.

I'm a latecomer to this thread, and I'm very sorry to read about your loss. I wish you peace and comfort, and of course, tea.
I'm another two sleeps person, also retired, so I have followed my natural inclinations and become semi nocturnal.
The dogs don't get it at all and just give me filthy looks and curl up with their backs to me.

I am also a latecomer to the thread, oddly enough finding it as I make a cuppa having woken up at this hour. I too find that caffeine in tea doesn’t seem to keep me awake.
I was so sorry to read your update @Themidnightcuppa and I am thinking of you. Do look after yourself.

I’m sorry to hear about your husband. But I am so glad he made it home, even if it was for briefer time than you had hoped.
I’ll be thinking of you and your husband with my morning cuppa xx

Thank you for your good wishes. I’m still struggling with the fact I don’t feel he’s gone and have been sleeping very well.

if you’re up in the night have a cuppa for me and maybe I’ll see you later. Xxxx

Oh op I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s made me so sad.

Im often up in the night, watching the trains and traffic, drinking a cup off tea. If that’s the case tonight I shall think about you and raise A cup in your direction so you’ll know you’re not the only middle-of-the-night-tea-drinker.

Even as others face adversity it's heartning see the heartfelt posts that posters put up for eachother..

Am certainly drinking a cup to you tonight dear op. The two sleeps thing has shaped my life since menopause. Always always sleep in two blocks, was fascinated when I read about it, I’d never heard of anyone else doing it and the intractable nature of it was freaking me out a bit. After so many years have just leant into it. I usually have a midnight breakfast at 3am and read my book. Grateful that I’ve always worked part time (never mornings) and have no need for an alarm! I’m 60 and can’t see it changing now.

I've just come back to this thread and have seen your updates, @Themidnightcuppa . I am so very sorry.

DH and I used to do it, he was a good midnight (or later) tea and toast maker. Now he's gone I still do it, tea and toast in a warm cozy bed is very comforting, it makes me feel close to him. I am sorry for your loss @Themidnightcuppa, it's awful isn't it 🌹

Oh @Themidnightcuppa

im really sorry to hear about your husband.

i don’t do two sleeps but I don’t sleep well so am normally up until about 2am.

so I may be around sometimes when you get up.

if your up tonight enjoy your cuppa.

I always wake up from my first sleep around midnight/1am. I have some milk or a small bowl of cereal, scroll, then back to sleep. Never knew it was a thing!

I haven’t been to bed yet. Long long day and although I need to sleep it’s just not coming so I’m going to head downstairs in a moment and get a cuppa.
I made a reasonably healthy dinner and then scoffed a lot of DH’s Christmas chocolate so that’s probably why I’m so wired and awake.

I had forgotten I’ve got an audio book I listened to for a couple of chapters so I may try start that again as I’m bound to fall asleep if I do.

Darn it haven’t been to bed yet. Well that’s not quite true. I’ve sat in bed with 2 cups of tea now watched the traitors on catch up and mulled over a few things about DH. Then went off to search in a cupboard for things I’d forgotten about but thought I actually should find. I found all sorts of things some of which were before we were together. I also found an unwritten anniversary card which made me cry because it won’t be long before we will have been married for 22 years. Unfortunately, he hadn’t written it.

It’s been suggested we put together one of those digital photo frames on a table at the wake and our eldest has been asking us all to email her photographs we’d like on it. It’s been a bit of a nostalgia trip and rather emotional. He was a bit of a Roger Moore look alike in his younger days and I’d sort of forgotten that.

I’m sorry to hear you haven’t managed to get to sleep. Please don’t put too much pressure on yourself. I hope you have no plans tomorrow and can have a little snooze on the sofa if needed.
I can’t begin to imagine how emotional it must be to plan a funeral and wake and to go through his belongings. Having a cry is a good thing to release the tension, and please try to remember all the happy times while looking through photos.
I really hope you are fast asleep now x

From a fellow Medieval Sleeper, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your marriage sounds like a lovely one. I do hope you and your dear husband managed to look at your travel ornaments together, one last time xx