Am I being suspicious unnecessarily?

[Anoniam]

I have an Amazon account. I have Prime, so partner uses my account occasionally.
I've just been through my search history looking for something I bought a while ago and decided to delete a few items from my browsing history. There were items on there obviously my partner had been searching...
Any idea why he'd be searching for these? The women's fancy dress has made me suspicious.

Also searched for a penguin cuddly toy with Arsenal on it and a baby's dressing gown with arsenal on it. We don't know any babies and he doesn't support Arsenal.

Has he met a woman who cuts his hair ?

Why are you still with him? What do you get out of this relationship?

You should be able to trust your partner. If you can't, you have no relationship.

Maybe the outfits are for himself?

Whats the medication in the search history?

If you can't ask a perfectly reasonable question then you have no relationship.

Now I've read the rest this is a terrible relationship but as you don't want to leave there's no helping you.

This is so sad. You're living in fear of his anger, your words, and he's clearly cheating - again. You should plot a quiet and rapid escape, wish you well.

Maybe he was literally just looking for a mate while down the pub or something? Unfortunately he does sound like an absolute abusive twat though and you deserve better.

Don’t you ever search for random items on Amazon ? Or you have thought of buying something for a joke or because of a conversation .

Could be suspicious- but tbh it almost sounds like an unhinged bloke shopping list for a stag do. Quite a few my husband has been on have involved similar outfits for the groom. Pics have been on Facebook before anyone thinks me or any of my friends have been gullable. Bit of a long shot I know but it could be some random lads night out thing.

@Anoniam
What happened OP? Are you ok?

From what you have said about him, the Amazon search seems to be paling into insignificance. He's a bad man and definitely not partner material. What does he bring to the relationship and why are you worried about losing him?

I share my husband's account so therefore can see things.
For my shopping extras it suggested a whole load of things neither of us have ever bought or would.
It did give us a tena induced laugh, I really would take it with a pinch of salt.
Ps, a Mr tumble outfit really wasn't on our list and never will be...

Then I think you've a bigger problem than browsing history. He's cheated, you don't trust him and can't rely on honesty if you talk to him.

Even if its innocent you need either couples counselling or to ask if this is worth it.

The barbers pole signifies a brothel in some countries

Sorry to say it would ring alarm bells for me too. The first thing I thought when I saw your post was he’s into webcam sites (adult ones) lots of guys will ask girls for personal custom videos making (guy then sends extra money for particular outfits), also most likely the camera is a gift one of them are wanting (or the money for it).

Oh and the barbers pole - most likely some decor for a cam girls cam room that she’s wanting.

I’d come straight out and ask him. It may be something innocent.

That last paragraph is quite disturbing and it sounds like you’re scared of him. He is gaslighting you and being very controlling. You need to leave him regardless of whether or not he is cheating.

Op you already know the answer . You don't need our justification .
This man has cheated , gaslights you and shows no remorse and you deserve better.

You don't need to know what he's up to.
You already know this:
"He distorts my reality. He will get angry as soon as I ask and make out I've lost the plot. So I need to know if it's ridiculous to ask about it?"

GET OUT NOW.

I speak as sometime who rarely if ever thinks Mumsnet advice to leave is the way forward.

PLEASE LOOK AT THIS:
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

op please let us know u are ok after the discussion?

I think if he has a history of cheating on you and gaslighting you, and you are getting this wound up over the possibility of it happening again, as well as saying that you have to walk on eggshells around him, then regardless of why these unusual items have been searched/purchaced, you should be putting an exit plan into place for your own health/sanity.

How are you doing, OP? Did you ask him?

Hopefully she's seen sense and chucked him out.

Same, I’m logged into my own Amazon account on the app and my husbands on the browser, if I click a link on Instagram or Facebook it takes me to the browser version and then that item would show on the search history on his account.
Often I click on the adverts to see what the thing is as I can’t always tell! So lots of random things in my husband’s Amazon search history. He’s never noticed or asked why I was looking for such mad things 😆 recent items include a case for an ergonomic mouse 🙈

Edited to add - the search history is likely irrelevant as his other behaviour strikes me as the most important part of this. Doesn’t much sound like you’re enjoying your relationship OP. Don’t stay in it for the sake of it.