Am I being suspicious unnecessarily?

[Anoniam]

I have an Amazon account. I have Prime, so partner uses my account occasionally.
I've just been through my search history looking for something I bought a while ago and decided to delete a few items from my browsing history. There were items on there obviously my partner had been searching...
Any idea why he'd be searching for these? The women's fancy dress has made me suspicious.

Also searched for a penguin cuddly toy with Arsenal on it and a baby's dressing gown with arsenal on it. We don't know any babies and he doesn't support Arsenal.

There may be a number of reasons he may have looked at them but I can't think of one (non dodgy) reason.

He's nearly done in the bath, I'm going to ask him shortly

He gets angry so you walk on eggshells and are scared of him.
He does it deliberately.

Apart from the browsing history he sounds like he’s having a horrible effect on you.
I’d consider my options.

I know, it's definitely a pattern. If I address anything imhe deflects and ends up shouting. He won't be happy because he's not going to have a reasonable explanation, so he'll lie.

Could he honestly not just have found it funny and clicked in? There’s a chance he’ll say it to you- would you dress up as x for the laugh! I’d definitely talk to him although worrying that your first thought is cheating. Hope all works out for you op x

So what’s the point of the confrontation?

I did wonder if he'll say this but I don't believe it at all. He's never suggested I dress up for him.

Yeah this. Not really too sure what OP wants help with? She's already said she's not going to leave him and that he's going to lie and get angry so why bother even mentioning it?

I suppose I want a chance to believe his shit because I can't cope with the thought he's cheating. I literally feel faint at the thought of this discussion.

He's cheated, he gaslights you, he calls you a psycho and insecure.....you're with him why?
This is not a healthy relationship. This is an absolute head fuck. You don't want to leave but I promise you, if you do, in a years time you'll look back and thank yourself for walking away.
You deserve peace and happiness and this sure as hell isn't it.

Anoniam

I don’t mean a sex thing- in the same way if he saw a cartoon character or a where’s Wally costume- but for a laugh, not with any intention of either of you buying it!

But, you know he’ll lie. You do g believe any explanation other than cheating. He’s a disrespectful abusive arse who shouts at you and has you walking on eggshells.

But, you’re going to confront him so that he will inevitably lie to you and scream at you, because you can’t cope with the thought of him cheating (even though you already know he’s cheated)? A confrontation that makes you feel faint when you think of it? And you aren’t willing to leave, whatever happens?

OP, I think this might be above MN’s paygrade. Do you have friends and family IRL, who you can talk to? Is professional support available? Would you be willing to ring Women’s Aid?

OP, the Amazon search history is not the issue here.

You don't need to confront him about it. You don't need evidence. You just need to leave him because he's clearly abusing you and has a history of cheating. You're frightened of him and he treats you like shit and calls you crazy and you have to get regular STI tests because of his history of cheating? That's the problem here, not the fact that he searched for a fucking fancy dress outfit.

I’ve had loads of Amazon adverts recently, mainly on Instagram. And what they were proposing(usually a very long list) are often not related to what I’d buy at all.
If I click on it on my iPad, it goes onto the webpage, logged in because that’s how I shop with Amazon - from the webpage rather than the app. It stays logged in all the time.

I have to say, I agree there too.

The fact he is glued to his phone and get angry so much so you are walking in eggshell is not good.

It doesn’t mean you have to leave him just right now.
It means you need counselling to find your inner strength and understand how you got there.

🫂🫂 Its a really hard position to be in.

You need to ask him. How are we meant to know if you,his partner doesn't?

They are such random items, only way you can know is to ask

I hope you find the strength you need to leave him 💐

This x10000

Sometimes scrolling amazon a pic comes up and I can't fathom what it is so click on the link for the description. The barbers pole looks like something I'd do that with.

i was thinking this Im the finder in worker and friend groups (actually every group come to think of it) but i love finding things people are looking for

I really, really hope you leave him, OP.

The amazon stuff ia completely irrelevant. You already know this man is a nasty piece of work who doesn't respect or value you in the slightest.

If you're scared of him, which I think you are, you can contact Women's Aid here. Best of luck.

How do you find search history on Amazon? I've looked and can't see where it is. Did you ask him OP? If there's no trust ask yourself what you're staying for x

Saves me writing it. @Anoniam you need to decide how much more torture you're going to do to yourself.