Am I being suspicious unnecessarily?

[Anoniam]

I have an Amazon account. I have Prime, so partner uses my account occasionally.
I've just been through my search history looking for something I bought a while ago and decided to delete a few items from my browsing history. There were items on there obviously my partner had been searching...
Any idea why he'd be searching for these? The women's fancy dress has made me suspicious.

Also searched for a penguin cuddly toy with Arsenal on it and a baby's dressing gown with arsenal on it. We don't know any babies and he doesn't support Arsenal.

It's not ridiculous to think those searches are odd and to ask him about it.

Given his history and what you've said about how he treats you, I'd be making plans to leave no matter what his answer.

I probably wouldn't see anything suspicious in those searches, like some other posters I'd think he could have clicked on a link in Facebook/been looking at something whilst chatting with a mate etc

However, regardless to that, he's been a knob in the past and makes you feel like shit. You are worth so much more!

He’s shagging the bird that cuts his hair at the barbers, their barber pole is broken or they don’t have one and he thought it would be a terrific surprise to buy them one.

He’s not going to a fancy dress party. A woman woild choose her own outfit for that. He’s buying it as a surprise for some role play sex they have discussed.

He needs a new cam to take photos of them and not have them in his phone or going into his iCloud and can be on a small storage sim type thing instead.

Those would be my worse senario guesses.

aside from any of that, the man sounds horrible, He cheated, admitted it (because you had evidence) now asserts none of it ever happened you imagined all of it and you are a controlling person if you dare ask or mention it.

He’s probably a serial cheat but getting caught has meant he’s sharpened up his subterfuge so you won’t catch him again.

He's pond life and he is messing up your head, badly.

What I wanted to know is whether or not it looked suspicious and am I justified in asking him about it.

Yes it does look suspicious and yes you are justified in asking him about it. But everyone is pointing out that this seems to be the least of your concerns.

Part of me thinks I should just ask to see his phone, explain why and say if I'm wrong then I apologise. I'm pretty much certain there will be lots of there I wouldn't like to see.

So you know he has cheated on you before, he hides his phone from you, he gets angry when you ask him anything and lies to you. You say you know that there is stuff on his phone you don't want to see? Yet you are happy to stay in a relationship like this?

Wow. He must have some really impressive, positive traits if you refuse to leave him.

You see these are all the sorts of things that go through my mind. Which is why I ask because I worry I've completely lost it. I don't trust my own judgement anymore. I need to ask him but feel sick and I'm shaking.

She doesn't need evidence of anything. She knows he's a cheat.

If she chooses to stay despite knowing this then I don't think there's anything any of us can say to help.

Given his past,he should be jumping through hoops to prove he's not cheating again and reassuring you. Talk to him today about the Amazon thing. If he gets angry or tries to gaslight you again,this will say all you need to know.

So, this man has clearly given you lots of reasons to leave him. You have not done so.

If it turns out that he’s cheating again, and the sexy outfit is for another woman, will you leave him then? If not, what’s the point of all this sleuthing? If you’re just going to sit there and take it, surely it makes more sense to choose ignorance?

You really need to leave him for the sake of your own self esteem.
You know he's cheated but he's gaslighting you whenever you mention anything.
You are worth so much more.

I know I should leave but at the moment I won't.
I'm going to ask him later and record it, so if he starts shouting/swearing I have evidence. I know this will escalate.

I mean, there's loads of shit on my "browsed" history, that I've clicked on that has been linked here, that my sister has sent me as it's funny and then I've clicked on a related item, that has come up as "recommended" and I've clicked on purely to see HOW they think it's related to my normal browsing/purchasing history?!

Having said that, I've never cheated and neither has my husband. You don't trust him, the Amazon thing is just another distraction.

@LazyArsedMagician does it work the same with Amazon though? I've never had Amazon adverts randomly pop up. Definitely not for something completely unrelated. Also, he's looked at 2 different outfits, so not just an accidental click. Everything in the Amazon browsing list are items I have actually searched for and clicked on.

Also if I search for something on Google and it comes up with an Amazon item; I click on it and it just takes me to the Amazon website that isn't signed in (not my app) and doesn't come up in my browsing history.

Why bother saying anything OP ? What do you want to achieve ?
You have already said you’re not going to leave, he gaslights you, appears to have a temper, has had affairs and I’m sure a lot more shit stuff.
Keep burying your head in the sand sure, it will all go away and your Prince Charming will materialise in polyester fancy dress 🙄

Those are such random items I would assume it's ads he's clicked on, or he's using amazon like google. It doesn't scream cheating. But you clearly don't trust him so get rid. You can't live your life over analysing everything he ever does.
He's obviously not had a love child with an arsenal supporting ancient Greek hairdresser has he?

Evidence for what, exactly?

Again, if you’re not going to leave, what are you confronting him for?

Well I worked out who the baby items were for.
Every other item (apart from fancy dress and the barber pole) makes sense and are very much items he'd search for (he's big into tech).

I'm not leaving at the moment. I want to know so I can decide what to do. I can't say nothing, i literally want to be sick. I've not slept.

Have you never searched for stuff for the sake of it? For curiosity?
You should leave him, but not because of random amazon searches.

This. No matter the truth of the searches, he is a skank.

See this as a revelatory moment that has you deciding for change. What's the point of challenging him? It will make him more careful and yet more secretive. It's a busted flush and you are in denial.

Leave it and work on your inner strength and then, when you feel able, find out more and plan to leave at that point. Challenging him when you know he will lie is only going to harm you.

You already know that he cheats on you. You have said he lies. He shouts and swears. Things ‘escalate’. But you need further ‘evidence’ to decide what to do?

I’m sorry, but I’m not getting it. You are either willing to leave him - in which case, please do it. Or you’re not - in which case, drop this. Either way, there is nothing to be gained from this conversation apart from you getting screamed at and abused.

Yes but why would he search for women's Greek fancy dress items on Amazon?

You don't even know that he did search for it.... There's any number of reasons he might have looked at those things.
Do yourself a favour and leave before you drive yourself mad.

The only person who can decide how to approach this is you, @Anoniam

Fwiw I think it's dodgy but it's you having to live with him. Do yourself a massive favour and get rid of him.

But items only come up in the browsing history if you've searched for them and clicked on them.