Where is my friend? getting worried now

[listsandbudgets]

Friend coming to stay and said she'd be here about 11am so we could have lunch together. Still no sign of her.

Her DP just texted me about 2.45pm and asked if she'd got here safely as she wasn't answering texts and usually drops him a quick text after long drives to let him now she's turned up. He said she left at 9.30am which is right as it's about an hour and a half. I sent her a text about 12.30 along the lines of don't worry about running late I can hold lunch see you in a bit - no reply.

I've looked at her route on google maps - no traffic holdups that I can see. Not yet replied to her DP - will have to say she's not arrived... luckily he's not the type to panic but he will be concerned obviously.

talk me down I'm imagining all sorts of awful things. I wouldn't worry about an hour or even 2 hours at a push but 4 hours late with no communication is concerning especially as I know she left on time and she's usually really reliable give or take 20 minutes

Hope she’s ok and there is a very simple explanation. Some posters on here really need a head wobble.

It’s a bit concerning she hasnt at least got a message to her DP if she broke down. Most people know their partner’s number off by heart, at least, and could ask the breakdown services to give him a ring. Does he have any missed calls from numbers he doesn’t recognise? If so, I’d recommend he rings them.

And maybe keep checking your phone too as if her phone was out of battery she may have borrowed a charger for a few minutes by now.

Can you ask her DP to screenshot the location of her car and, if it’s not too far away from you, join him there? You could box up the lunch and bring it with you with a flask of tea. If she’s been waiting for the breakdown services for 6 or 7 hours I’m sure she’ll be hungry.

I know you don’t drive but I think this sounds like a situation where a taxi may be warranted.

People have different personality types. I'm generally a very anxious person and really overreact to small things however in an actual emergency I'm usually quite calm and level headed. People are just different

No, if the phone is off or no signal it shows one tick instead of two. If messages have been delivered the phone must be on and receiving signal

I’m completely traceable without WiFi. Really depends on your settings…

anyhow, I hope OP’s friend is okay. This is incredibly worrying.

Hope you hear from her soon, it's a worry 🙏

Hope all is ok OP and it turns out she's ok, and had some unfortunate turn of events meaning she's delayed and can't get in touch. Such a worry.

@listsandbudgets how far was she travelling? Can you tell us the route?

Any news OP?

I work for Search and rescue

this is incorrect. Do not wait. Whatever you do. So not wait

call the police asap. It’s a myth that you just wait but they can’t do anything without knowing about it

i would call the police asap. Call hospitals and anyone else. The quicker we can get out the better it is.

we use a bunch of statistics to help map out where to search erc

but you need to inform the police as soon as you start to worry.

Really hope she's okay OP

Could be anything

could of lost her phone. Could have dropped it down the side of the road. Could be lost in the car

theres are lots of reasons people don’t let others know

not saying she is but despondent or suicidal people won’t often text etc.

@CurlyhairedAssassin evertone reacts different to a missing spouse etc

plus you don’t know he’s calm. You’re not there and you don’t know him

youre assuming he’s calm. That’s wrong.

No. Her phone must have signal to have a message delivered.

I hope she’s ok xx

@NeedToGetOutOfThisSomehow

again you’re assuming…you don’t know

people react different to it.
move seen family members hysterical kicking and screaming

also seem some out there offering us a chat a hug and a drink laughing away.

you never ever know till you’re in that situation….

Agreed, make contact asap

I would be very worried too, I hope she's ok.

@listsandbudgets so her partner says she left at 9.30am and the time to drive to OP is1.5 hours because she was expected there at 11am! why is her car or phone tracking to two hours ago from her house??? the number do not add up!! did she drive somewhere else?? did her hubby give any idea where the phone was last seen? town, forest, beach???

Hope she's OK

She didn't say it was 2 hours away from the house.

I’m suspicious about DV @ home, hopefully unwarranted… let the police work it out

@listsandbudgets any news? If they are registered to a breakdown service then could call them to check too?

When did you last speak to your friend on the phone, rather than via message, OP?

That's a really good idea, it's worth a try