Just turned around and walked out of friends house. May have over reacted!

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Me (5'0 female) has a good friend (6'2 male). Every few weeks I go to his house for a few drinks and a catch up. This has been going on since 2019. We bubbled together during lockdown as we are both in single households.

Every summer I walk down to his. Its across the otherside of town about a 25 min walk. Part of the way is through a bit of a badly lit seedy area. When it starts to get dark I get an uber. Have for 5 years.
EVERY single bloody year when I start getting ubers I get 'lazy' jokes and teasing. I have patiently explained why I'm not comfortable walking in the dark. I have explained it in the context of Sarah Everard. I have made light of it. I have got annoyed. I've snapped. I've even had the uber drop me off a street away so he doesn't see.

Got to his tonight and get the 'haha, I saw the uber, feeling lazy today are we'?
I put my coat back on and walked out.
I'm now sitting in the pub at the end of his road wondering whether
A) go back and explain again for the 50th time why I don't walk in dodgy areas in the dark
B) order an uber and go back home.

I'm a little bit thinking I've overreacted but it's been the same joke for 5 sodding years with obviously no attempt to understand.

He's lazier if you're the only one putting the effort in to do the visits...... Dunno why you didn't just tell him that.

He doesn't actually sound like much of a friend to me.

He sounds an absolute bore if he says the same thing every time he sees you. He's also a bit thick or uncaring if he ignores the concerns you have. Dump him and get better friends.

Certainly not. I would be pissed off too. You are being perfectly rational. In the wake of SE you can't be careful enough. Frankly it's disappointing that he doesn't walk you (or maybe drive) you home. Just maybe your response will nake him see sense and understand. Good luck

I agree

Probably not, guess he'd say she was overreacting to his joke, Or ...he'd be thick and say something like"whats the matter with her? time of the month? -don't know why she went" Surely for his own piece of mind he'd be rather you got home safely. See if he contacts you, I wouldn't message him.

...for all that, he could easily drive her home and then go back to his place. But it does not even occur to him that women may not be safe, alone, at twilight.

That's not a good friend. A good friend wouldn't laugh at you ensuring your own safety. Plus couldn't be arsed to take you home.

Oh grow up. You know exactly what I'm talking about. Don't look for issues where there aren't any.

You need to quote or tag who you are answering.