Not invited to stepdaughter's wedding

[Chewitally]

I've been with her Dad for over ten years. Her mum's partner is invited.

We don't have a good relationship for reasons irrelevant to this but I never thought she would stoop so low as to not invite me to her wedding.

Hahaha. As if you have fucking principles 😆

So, it's not a principle that you shouldn't shag your friend's ex husband, but it is a principle that you should invite someone you and your mother don't like to your wedding, when that person also doesn't like you and doesn't want to go to the wedding?

@Chewitally if you don't want to go,
Why start this thread? What were you hoping for?

This is even sillier. So if invited you would not have wanted to go anyway.
But on principle you want to stop her father from going.

Hmmmmm. Can you see how wrong your thinking on this issue is?

I think your DH her Dad, needs to put his DD first & go to the wedding alone. You should support this & just get over yourself. It’s really important you encourage this to happen otherwise he might blame you in future years for the failure of his relationship with his daughter clearly he’s not putting her first but his children should come first to him.

Oh, so you wanted to be invited so you could throw it back in her face, and now you're angry to be denied the opportunity... Some piece of work..

So she wasn’t under any obligation to invite you I expect.

No I wasn't

By the time my partner and I got together it was 2 years post divorce and the ex was already getting remarried

LOL

Sorry but it's her wedding. Why would she want you there if she doesn't get on with you? And why would YOU want to go? Weddings are expensive and there's no point having people there who you don't get on with. Everyone will have a much better day if they all get on.

For goodness sake woman, just behave and be gracious. Her father should be going to his daughter’s wedding. End of story.

Oh well

no loss no foul then. Carry on with your life

I have told my partner he can go

Thought you said it was 10 years?

Why do you WANT to go??

Weddings are boring, you don't like the main players

This thread is all such a waste of time. You purely wanted people to agree with you and say "what a horrid ungrateful, disrespectful cow".

You have no intention of building bridges, no intention of attending the wedding even if you were invited, and obviously loving the fact that her dad is saying he won't go.

Well done.

😂😂😂

No we have been together 10 years. We got together two years after they divorced.

How magnanimous. What will be his eventual punishment if he does? Looks like he's gone from one controlling relationship to another.

But the mum has a partner. Why should she be upset? I honestly can't see why, after ten years, anyone should be stressed, particularly when the the OP was not an OW and when mum has a partner herself. It sounds illogical.

Were you the ow?
Your presence would make her own mother extremely uncomfortable and upset- not what SD wants on her wedding day.
Presumably your DH wouldn't give a stuff about his ex wife's DP

The amazing comedy writer Andy Hamilton did a piece about "The Stupidity of Refusing to Back Down" in his "Andy Hamilton Sort of Remembers" R4 series.

He says "Well we see this all the time dont we? Stubborn obduracy, usually involving that most lethal of phrases 'I'm sorry, but there's a principle involved'"

Thats you. Stupid.

Exactly this