Not invited to stepdaughter's wedding

[Chewitally]

I've been with her Dad for over ten years. Her mum's partner is invited.

We don't have a good relationship for reasons irrelevant to this but I never thought she would stoop so low as to not invite me to her wedding.

As said my dd is friends with SD and her mother

@Chewitally Yeah you said. You sat and listened to her complaints and pretended to be her friend and then went after him. Grim.

By the sounds of it, she did have a lot to complain about, he sounds useless. Did he cheat on her by any chance?

You then abandoned your friend and stabbed her in the back. It's all very Soap operaish.

It's clear her mother feels betrayed by you. Why would they want you at their special day?

So your children have an issue with your relationship too? Hmm

This is your issue!
"Why would he WANT to go without me! I am his partner. We put each other first"

That's shit As a parent, my kids ALWAYS come first

Do not stop him attending his daughter's wedding. The damage could be irreparable.

Stop making it about you.
His relationship with her is totally separate from hers with you

So OP's daughter is still friends with the bride and is invited ... there's a common denominator in all this, isn't there? OP is the one people have a problem with.

That's not how life works out though, is it? My late husband's best pal could - supposedly - have chosen "one of the billions of other people in the world", but he didn't: he and my husband's ex chose one another.

You can get to a stage in life where there are only certain people in your social circle. It's not that unusual, particularly when people are no longer in the first flush of youth.

As I've said in a previous comment, the pal did actually phone my husband and ask for his "permission". DH was somewhat surprised - he didn't see the need for it.

The people who did object were the pal's children and grandchildren. I still can't get my head round the fact that a grandson wrote a letter to the pal (who had been widowed) and told him that he was disowned.

One of the pal's two daughters quickly came round to the idea. The other didn't until a few years later, when her sister informed her that their father had terminal cancer.

If her dad doesnt go-hes a knob.if you support/in any way DEMAND tht.youre both knobs.
Its her wedding.
the end. her mothers prtner\sd is not compartive. she doesnt like you-pretty much you reciprocate this.
HER DAD.is not choice, your dd can go with him.no harm done.
be big girl.tough.

Same. Ad a good stepmother you should be encouraging your partner to go. Without you!!!

cos he’ll regret not going.

It’s very telling that ALL the children involved here have issues with the relationship not just his daughter. Are you going to blame his ex wife for your children not like him too? You did say they were all at school together so it seems this has been a longstanding issue of discomfort and ill ease for all around you …..you haven’t got much option but to put each other first given you’ve alienated everyone else who should have come first?

So..... your kids hate that you are with him, his kids hate that he is with you. Why?

Seems there is more to this than one (possibly) toxic ex and a pissed off DD.

So, you understand that it was a betrayal but think that time's up on her being upset about the betrayal? LOL - you're deluded.

What?

OK. Well it clearly was a betrayal from her point of view, and her daughter's.

Everyone else on this thread can understand why.

@Chewitally But you haven't elaborated as to what your children's issues are with your relationship.

Actually laughing out loud at this. You obviously have no intention of self-reflecting and realising that your own actions are the reason that nobody likes you and although you might not see an issue with what you did, it’s totally normal that other people do. But I guess you could ignore all that and continue to have a strained relationship with your family if that seems like a better life than just admitting that your actions have consequences.

😂😂😂. And there’s th3 problem….narcissistic personality

Because they are friends with SD and her mother

So they buy their version of events

Which are untrue

Oh op, just stop posting now 🤣 you are deeply, deeply unlikeable. You have no morals as a human and you’re about as narcissistic and selfish as they come.
You sleep with your friends ex, after she confides in you about their divorce.
You alienate your boyfriend from his daughter, so much so that he refuses to attend her wedding not to mention won’t be walking her down the aisle.
Then you come on to the internet, and try to get a forum full of women to hate this poor girl that hasn’t actually done anything wrong other than dislike the immoral girlfriend of her dad.

I’ll tell you in simple terms why he should go, and why her stepdad and his kids are going…

1. he is her stepdad. Her actual stepdad. And she clearly loves him, and also has a relationship with her step siblings (not simply “his kids”
2. you are just her dads girlfriend. You are not her stepmum. You are her mums ex friend that then started sleeping with your “friends” ex husband.
3. she doesn’t like you!
4. and her dad should, because…. HE IS HER DAD!!!! He should be walking her down the aisle! And if you were anything even remotely resembling a semi decent human being, would be telling him he should be there for his daughter on the biggest day of her life. But no, you want it to be all about you don’t you, and how little you matter. Get over yourself. You’re not part of the family. After 10 years you’re still just the girlfriend. What does that tell you

Oh. So at least someone from your family can go and represent you both

thats really lovely ❤️

Why do you think your own children "buy their version of events" rather than yours?

@Chewitally Your own children take the side of your stepdaughter and her DM? Why would they do that?

Because they have been fed a pack of lies about my partner

And to all those saying oh he should be walking her down the aisle well she hasn't even asked him to!!!!!

OW or not, getting into a relationship with a friend’s ex husband is something lots of people would consider crossed a line, your step daughter and her mother obviously do.

Your being there would make your step daughter’s mother uncomfortable. it’s her day and she’s chosen to consider her own mother’s feelings over yours. Her choice and not unreasonable.