Not invited to stepdaughter's wedding

[Chewitally]

I've been with her Dad for over ten years. Her mum's partner is invited.

We don't have a good relationship for reasons irrelevant to this but I never thought she would stoop so low as to not invite me to her wedding.

Perfect!

The problem is you've pissed on your own doorstep. You were friends with her mum and then crossed a line with getting involved with her husband. I wouldn't invite you either and if your "partner" chooses to miss his daughter's wedding because you're sulking then he gets all he deserves. She doesn't like you, she doesn't respect you and you are not welcome. Suck it up.

Being her Dad's girlfriend (or even wife if you were married), gives you no special status in and of itself whatsoever. She owes you absolutely nothing.

His loss then! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Not sure why you’ve started this thread though….

Are YOUR kids invited to the wedding?

My dd is

I'm really sorry to hear this and can only imagine how hurt and humiliated you must be feeling. But please try and insist your husband goes - it's his daughter. It's awful and I think it's unfair and a bit cruel/ shortsighted you're not going, but this will be such a huge blow and fallout for the entire family will be huge.

If you don't get on with your SD that sucks, but not a huge lot of love lost in not going, but he is her father and for him to not go would be too much. Maybe he goes to the wedding but not the reception - or leaves soon after dinner and prior to the wedding, expresses that intention making it clear he is upset his wife isn't invited.. But to not go is a huge step and one you can't come back from

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in a nutshell

you sound absolutely awful and entitled. You have never mentioned wanting to go because you care to see her on her special day. It’s all about you have this need to be recognised as her father partner even though you have a very clearly low opinion and shitty feelings for her . It’s v clear you dislike her and going is only a status and marking your territory thing rather than through genuine care or interest. It’s fairly obvious why she doesn’t like you and she is entitled to invite who she wants . Why the heck should she invite someone who dislikes her so much and who she probably doesn’t like either just so your feelings aren’t hurt? If you actually have a shit you would do the right thing and make sure her father attends.

So it's just you , she's not keen on?
Maybe your dd could video the good bits for you?!

Christ you sound like a real nasty piece of work OP from all your responses. And the fact you swooped in on a former friends ex-husband but don’t see it as “a big deal”. Yeah sure you don’t.

Maybe time to look in the mirror and reflect on how you might be taken by others rather than focused on the etiquette that you “should” be invited rather than having earned that privilege 🙄

He was her EX HUSBAND. Christ's sake they were not together

All I had done for the past year or two since their divorce was listen to SD mother complain about him

I mean girl code…..

you broke it

I’m late to the party, but it’s obvious that her stepfather is invited because he has a good relationship with the bride, and you are not invited because you don’t have a good relationship with the bride. Naturally, the individuals getting married don’t want any drama or animosity on their wedding day.

It’s that simple.

Trust me I’m hugely sympathetic to the plight of the stepmother, but I can’t comprehend why you thought you would be invited, never mind you actually wanting to go.

Her father should of course attend and you should be gracious enough to allow him.

There is no point in allocating blame, the situation is what it is, and a wedding isn’t going to change that.

LOL

What rather than under your control? The gf of her father who hates her

@PyongyangKipperbang Nailed it as ever.

wouodnt bother me. Y husbands been to a wedding without me. No big deal

I hate my step mum. She is a controlling bitch. She wasn’t the other woman but she has made my relationship with my dad very hard. I wish I’d had the balls to not invite her to my wedding and if my dad hadn’t gone because of that there would have been no way back.
He was her dad before he was your DP.
She doesn’t like you. This appears to not be a surprise. She presumably likes her stepdad, hence his invite. You don’t get to go just because you’re his wife.
Let him go, with your blessing. He’ll regret it if he doesn’t.

Amazing. What are your children's issues with your relationship OP? Interesting that your DD is invited to the wedding.

Send a nice gift and a lovely card and wish her all the best and do something nice for yourself that day. Best to rise above it.

You genuinely don't see why the person she thought was a shoulder to cry on shacking up with her ex husband was a massive betrayal?

Not ten years after the fact when she is remarried no

You don't like each other. Why should you be invited? I wouldn't expect to be invited and I wouldn't expect my partner to miss his daughter's wedding.

I'd count it as a win.