Not invited to stepdaughter's wedding

[Chewitally]

I've been with her Dad for over ten years. Her mum's partner is invited.

We don't have a good relationship for reasons irrelevant to this but I never thought she would stoop so low as to not invite me to her wedding.

They already have kids and her mum does all that, my dp barely gets to see his grandkids

It's not 'a wedding', it's his daughter's wedding. If he puts you first here then I hope he understands that that will be the end of his relationship with her.

Once again I am amazed at how different from the real world MN is. Whether or not OP and her SD get along when you invite someone to your wedding it is customary to also invite them to bring a partner and as SD's father is OP's partner she very much should be invited. Honestly, I very much doubt OP is going to start a raging fight at the wedding.

So many selfish people in the world these days! I'm sure there weren't all these bridezillas around when I was young.

For the love of God, do not ruin her wedding day & potentially her relationship with her father for life.

You hurt/betrayed her Mother, & SD wants her Mother to enjoy the day.
She doesn't have to like you.

Wish her happiness & suck it up, like an adult.

Wow. Sounds like you might be a bit controlling and that could be why she doesn’t like you. He should not be choosing you over his daughter’s wedding.

Because it is his daughter who is getting married. He should go, or does he not get on with her either?

Perhaps he should make an effort.

Not going to her wedding is hardly likely to make the relationship better.

If my sd's mum had done the same maybe they would not have divorced

😂

We're not allowed to troll hunt?

Reverse??

Even so, you should encourage your husband to go to the wedding. Relationships will just become worse if he doesn't go.

This op sounds truly horrible.

Have you actually read the whole thread, or are you just an incredibly different sort of human to the rest of us?

So this is all about status to you? You think being in a relationship with this woman’s father means you should have a spot at the table at her marriage celebration. I disagree as it’s her day with the people she loves and would like to invite to celebrate with her. That doesn’t include you because you don’t like each other. She doesn’t have to get over anything it’s up to her, you can’t force her to get on with you.

What you seem to want to do is now continue to force this imagined status onto her and her dad by deciding he would not want to go without you (sure he came to that decision all by himself). That’s controlling, egoic and makes you look like a petty insecure bitch frankly. It’s this woman’s wedding it’s not about you and should not be.

And if you encourage this man to do anything other than attend and be there to celebrate his daughters day then you have shown your character - and people will notice and judge you accordingly. So do you want to be a petty small little bitchy insecure woman or do you want to put your pout away accept she doesn’t want you there and leave the boyfriend in peace to attend his daughters big day?

Pretty sure you’ll choose being a spoilt petty little child but at least his daughter will have the people who really care for her around her.

or you could choose to grow the fuck up.

Imagine a wedding where one of the guests hates the bride, is hated by the bride, and is hated by the bride mother.

At best it would be horribly awkward, at worst it would end up like an episode of EastEnders. But whatever happened it would ruin the wedding for the couple.

Any father who refuses to attend his daughter's wedding because his partner (who doesn't like his daughter) isn't invited, isn't fit to be called a father.

So surely he’ll see them at the wedding then won’t he? That’s if you allow him to go alone, and he’s man enough to go without you.

Does she get on well with her stepdad?

Your husband has to go to his daughters wedding.
I get you are disappointed to not be invited but you need to encourage him to go without you.
it is his daughters wedding. Missing it (except due to serious illness) is unforgivable and will cause irreparable damage to his relationship with his daughter.

The mother is NOT the issue! Your partner daughter clearly has better morals than you, who shagged her friends ex husband!

This is really bad form to keep your husband from his daughter’s wedding out of spite. Be the bigger person.

My father had a second wife with your attitude, I didn't bother inviting either to the wedding, and he never met my dc.

His loss.

Nah, if you read all OP's comments it's clear she betrayed a woman she called a friend - not as the OW, but by shagging the exH of that friend who'd confided in her about her marital problems. That alone is crossing a line, and she's now essentially calling the friend she betrayed a controlling liar. It's also very obvious OP dislikes the daughter whose wedding she's demanding to attend.

"my partner not my right tit" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 after a rotten day this has made me laugh so much!! My new mantra!!!

Whether or not OP and her SD get along when you invite someone to your wedding it is customary to also invite them to bring a partner and as SD's father is OP's partner she very much should be invited. Honestly, I very much doubt OP is going to start a raging fight at the wedding

Going by OP 's posts here, I suspect it's highly likely that she will start arguments.

Diddums.

Seems the daughter doesn’t want his sort (or your sort) influencing her children. She sounds a far better parent than he is.