Not invited to stepdaughter's wedding

[Chewitally]

I've been with her Dad for over ten years. Her mum's partner is invited.

We don't have a good relationship for reasons irrelevant to this but I never thought she would stoop so low as to not invite me to her wedding.

OP you're the stepmother, you're not winning this one on MN.

You should’ve been nicer to her over the years.

It’s his DAUGHTER! For goodness sake, let him go without you. Their relationship is much more important than your feelings in this. You don’t like her, you don’t get on, why would she invite you?
Inviting her mum’s partner is neither here nor there. Presumably they get on and actually like each other.
Why do your feelings Trump everything?

Exactly. It's her day. She doesn't want it spoiled by bad memories.

She doesn’t like you!!!!!

Agreed. I'd say that the OP should suck it up and tell her husband to go without her, unpleasant though it is.

(I'm a second wife. Not the OW - the ex had an affair with a bloke at work, but that's not what she told the kids.)

Sometimes, you tolerate things for the sake of your husband.

Being "step mother " isn't why she's not "winning this one."🙄

Let it goooooo

In all honesty, I'd find it hard to respect you or her dad in this situation. And this is a very much the sort of thing my dad would do.

I understand your situation perfectly. You shat on your friend to have a relationship with her ex-husband. It’s not an ex boyfriend from years ago, it’s her EX-HUSBAND with whom she has at least one child with. You were a terrible back stabbing friend and I’d not invite you to the wedding either.

The girl is loyal to her mums feelings, she is a fabulous daughter.
She doesn’t like you.

I don’t see why you would want to go anyway.

Can we have a thread of daily quotes from you nan? She sounds wickedly funny!

I mean, you sound pretty childish yourself.

Of course you should encourage your partner to go to his daughter's wedding. He is going to regret not going.

I am not surprised she is not inviting you. Your updates don't make you sound great. It's not really shocking she doesn't like you.

Be a grown up, let your partner go to her wedding. His relationship with his daughter is important.

You betrayed your friend and her. Now you want him to betray his daughter.

You need to try and see this as a lucky escape from an awkward day. Spend the day doing stuff that will make you happy and relaxed rather than being reminded how much they don’t like you.

It would reprehensibly wrong for you to stop her father going to her wedding just because you arnt invited. What a nasty idea.

Sounds like you are the demanding and controlling one....or he's gone out of the frying pan into the fire...

You are controlling and demanding.

@EatingHealthy - the OP has confirmed in one of her posts that she WAS a confidante to the Mother of the Bride about the Bride's Father when they were together............

It's very clear that she and the Bride's Mother fell out badly after the OP took up with the Bride's Father.

So you will upset her mother. Fair enough. Imagine your friend getting with your husband....

Nope i wouldn't invite you either...
Wow some friend you were to her mum

I'm sorry OP but this makes you sound pathetic. It's an incredibly important day to the bride and you are not thinking of her in the slightest! I'm happy for her that she hasn't been pressured into inviting you!

She literally said she was a confidante but shagged her mates ex anyway.

She wasn’t the mistress.

Perhaps she sees it as a betrayal? I appreciate you were not the OW, but there are plenty of women who wouldn't be happy about their mate dating their ex.

Are you serious that your SD's father won't attend her wedding unless you go? That's appalling!!! He should go because she's his daughter, he loves her and wants to support her on what is still considered to be a massive life event. It's absolutely nothing to do with you. I don't see why you're surprised that a bride wouldn't want someone she doesn't get on with at her own wedding.

Some friend! Says it all. I take it that her Mum's new partner wasn't her Dad's best pal.

Because you don't have a good relationship. I wouldn't invite someone if I didn't have good relationship, family or not. Makes no difference if you're her dad's partner, if you don't get along then there's your answer.