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If someone said they'd arrive between 9:00 and 9:30 - what time would you expect them?

271 replies

cuupe · 01/11/2024 11:00

What time?

OP posts:
CheekySwan · 01/11/2024 13:55

Funnywonder · 01/11/2024 13:47

Maybe not time blindness per se, but some people do struggle with time. DP has ADHD and late is his default because he thinks he has more time than he has. In fact, even if he allows tons of time to leave the house, he’s still late. He gets distracted by a full bin/dirty dishes/the recycling. All of which were there staring him in the face BEFORE he started getting ready. But once he sets himself in motion, he wants to do everything. And there isn’t time😆

Time blindness is a cognitive condition that causes difficulties in perceiving and managing time, often leading to challenges in punctuality and planning.

Shufflebumnessie · 01/11/2024 13:57

I'd probably aim for 9.10-9.15. If I was going to be any later than 9.30, I'd message as soon as I realised I was running late.

MillyVannily · 01/11/2024 14:03

If it's a tradesman around 9 the next day. 😅😂

Cranarc · 01/11/2024 14:04

Between 9:00 and 9:30. At 10:00 I would be messaging to say I assume they are not coming.

Chimbos · 01/11/2024 14:05

If I hadn’t specified an exact time I’m sure there would be factors outside of my control that would determine the time I arrive (e.g traffic or how promptly DD is let out of school) so it really could be any time within that half hour period. I would have also apologised for not being able to give a precise time!

anya31 · 01/11/2024 14:08

I'd expect them at 9.40.

Someone who specifies a half-hour window isn't confident in their timekeeping skills, so I definitely wouldn't expect them at 9!

Cascais · 01/11/2024 14:10

Between 9 and 9.30

EdithBond · 01/11/2024 14:13

Depends on the person and occasion. If they were taking me to the airport, or to look after my kids so I could get to work, hopefully just after 09:00. If they were popping round my place for a chat when I’m free all morning, then most of my mates and family would run a bit late: 09:00-09:30 would be an aspiration!

YellowphantGrey · 01/11/2024 14:15

OP are you waiting for Sky to be fitted? Is that why it's in telly addicts?

NotTerfNorCis · 01/11/2024 14:17

I'd guess they were aiming for nine, but giving themselves contingency.

Borninabarn32 · 01/11/2024 14:19

Depends on the person. Most people I know who have kids, 9.45. My brother, 10.45. My in laws, 9.05.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/11/2024 14:20

I would expect them to arrive at some point between 9 and 930. I wish people stuck to the times they gave.

Or even said I can't give a time (because kids/baby/buses/whatever) but it'll be at some point this morning.

Just don't give a time then not bloody stick to it.

HecatesBees · 01/11/2024 14:21

SilverChampagne · 01/11/2024 13:36

Time blindness is not a thing.
Some things are just simply not important enough to you to prioritise.
Do you rock up to work at 11am and giggle about your time blindness?

Exactly

Why is your time more important than my time?

Do you get to work on time?
Do you get places you want to go on time?

Time is not a new concept, I have no room for arrogant arseholes who think their time is more important than mine, it's not

LittleGreenDragons · 01/11/2024 14:22

I would be aiming for 9.15 but would give myself the half hour window if I wasn't sure of what the traffic would be like. If I knew roughly what it was like around that time I would happily state 9.15 by itself.

There is only one person who I allow to be a little bit late if we are going on elsewhere (such as cinema) as she has an idiot dog, anyone else gets my wrath and surpringly enough they are never late for me again but continue to be late for other people, so it really is a choice they make.

merryandbrightdelight · 01/11/2024 14:22

If it was my dparents, anytime from 11:30am 🙈😂

Oblomov24 · 01/11/2024 14:23

Between 9 and 9.30

Justploddingonandon · 01/11/2024 14:23

9.15-9.30 if local, somewhere between 9 and 10 if not, unless it's my DM who always underestimates the traffic so I wouldn't expect before 10.

sprigatito · 01/11/2024 14:24

I would arrive at 9.20. I spent my entire youth in a miserable state of disorganisation with everyone constantly angry with me (undiagnosed ND) so now I am very anal about being punctual. I get very upset if I get it wrong.

LBFseBrom · 01/11/2024 14:25

Any time within that half hour slot unless they are held up somewhere, traffic or whatever, in which case they'd phone you and say they are running late.

Spondoolies · 01/11/2024 14:26

I would think they planned the journey to arrive at 9 but allowing for extra traffic would expect to be with you be 9.30 at the latest

reesewithoutaspoon · 01/11/2024 14:30

I would expect them anytime after 9 but no later than 9:30

GoldMoon · 01/11/2024 14:30

20 minutes either way , anything else is early / late .

lollypopsforme · 01/11/2024 14:43

if i say ill be there 9.00 -9-30 it means ill see you at 10.30 11-00.
Tbh i dont role out of bed till 9.30 and thats early for me.

mumda · 01/11/2024 14:44

Are they driving, walking or using public transport? Is it a long way they're coming or not? Are they bringing with them someone who spends a lot of time picking what coat to wear? Are they generally punctual?

I'd say between 8.45 and 10am but then I am not one for getting too excited about people being late if they have traffic to contend with.

CheekySwan · 01/11/2024 14:48

HecatesBees · 01/11/2024 14:21

Exactly

Why is your time more important than my time?

Do you get to work on time?
Do you get places you want to go on time?

Time is not a new concept, I have no room for arrogant arseholes who think their time is more important than mine, it's not

Time blindness is a cognitive condition that causes difficulties in perceiving and managing time, often leading to challenges in punctuality and planning.

Glad you have your shit together though 👌