If someone said they'd arrive between 9:00 and 9:30 - what time would you expect them?

[cuupe]

What time?

Anytime between, but 9.30 at the latest.

9-9.30 no later

Any time between 9.00 & 9.30.

No earlier, no later. I'd personally aim for between 9 & 5 past so allowing for unexpected delays. If I was delayed beyond 9.30 I'd let you know.
That's just basic good manners. Anything else is rude & disrespectful.
No excuses.

Around 9.10-9.20am, although I'd be ready if they arrived a few mins before 9am. However, if it was my SIL, I wouldn't be surprised to get a call at 10.30am to say they were just leaving!

You shouldn't get too wound up.

Depends on the distance travelled & whether to expect to be stuck in rush hour traffic.

Greater the distance, the greater the variance.

Rush hour traffic makes things unpredictable at the best of times.

Let's say they plan to arrive at 9:30am, but expect heavy traffic & delays, so set off early to compensate.
However when they travel they don't encounter normal delays & arrive a lot earlier than expected.

Or any other of a dozen reasons.

Between 850 and 940 unless said person arriving was my husband. If he says 9-930 he means 10.

Sometime after 9.30 probably closer to 10.

Something tells me the OP's original question was prompted by a tendency of some people's belief that 'time' isn't a commodity shared by everyone, but it's a personal resource for them to do with as they please and everyone else had better get used to how they perceive it.

I've seen a few replies here of extremely tolerant people who put up with those who come out with 'Oh I'm an hour late! You know me! ha ha ha ha'. Yeah. real thigh-slapper, that.

I'm not talking about emergencies, or traffic that held people up or other unforseen contingencies. I mean the incorrigably, chronically unpunctual gits who expect everyone else to make light of their tardiness.

My values are:

• dinner / party at host's home - ten mins after the appointed time to give them some breathing space just in case
• film at cinema / concert / public event /seminar / anything with a set starting time on an agenda - ten mins early
• meeting friend - on the dot or five mins early
• flight - two hours before take off

How hard can it be?

9.30 unless it was my daughter. Then I'd say about noon 😂

Anytime from 9am to 9.30am!

I would expect them to arrive any time between 9:00 and 9:30, as they said. However it wouldn't faze me if they arrived before 9:00, in fact I would expect that from my late DF.

Anyone who gives a window such as 9-9:30 is going to be late - they are trying to give their excuse pre-emptivly.

I'd arrive at 9.20
My colleague would arrive at 8.55 at the latest.
My very good friend would ring at 10 and say she's running late
My brother would turn up 2 days later.

9:15-9:30

What time would I personally arrive? 9:30-9:40

What time would Dh arrive? 8:55 because he is so socially anxious and a people pleaser that we must arrive at everyone’s 15 minutes early while they are still in their pyjamas and totally not ready for us. 🙄

Surely at any time between 9 and 9:30?? So I would be expecting them and ready, organised, etc from 9 onwards. If I knew the person I might have an idea of when they would likely turn up. I.e Jenny is always late so it will probably be 9:30 or a bit after. Or Pete is coming straight from a class that finishes at 8:45 so he will be here just after 9.

9.45.

Anytime between 9 amd 9.30 ...

I am not that bad that I am hours late, it's normally minutes, I have learnt to manage it but I am on waiting list for ADHD assessment

Yes, I am late for work sometimes, I try, I have things in place

Never missed a plane but always have in my head be there 3 hours before flight, not 2

My mother was the same, but a lot worse, i'm talking always, 20-40 mins late to pick me up, and my son is too

So is the consensus now that it was the OP who was late rather than her guests?

Most people would tolerate someone being 5-10 mins late (unless they phoned to say there were exceptional circumstances.)

Being very late and blaming getting children ready isn't a good enough reason because that should be factored into the time it takes to get out of the house.

It's clearly @cuupe who was late, hence her reluctance to give any details.
If this was about your guests OP you'd be fuming and giving details.

FWIW, 5-15 mins late is just acceptable (15 is pushing it) unless totally unavoidable last minute issues with children, unexpected traffic issues, but not simply being disorganised and not allowing enough time for children to be ready to go out of the house.

Somewhere between 9 and 9.30 🤔