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Please help me melt his heart ❤️

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Heybearu · 16/09/2024 20:24

So having had a really not great time on online dating...I've finally started to speak with someone I would like to impress. Ladies he sings, he bakes bread, he reads he's the main parent. I'm in heaven.
Id like to give him a book at our first date....he likes most genres...nothing like super seedy tho as he's quite wholesome...what can I give him that will melt his heart so I get to keep him forever?
Or at last so he looks back and thinks that was cool.
Help please x

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poppyzbrite4 · 16/09/2024 20:25

The Notebook

FerryorTunnel · 16/09/2024 20:26

Misery?

The Shining!

Just joking.

The Alchemist is good.

ShowOfHands · 16/09/2024 20:26

Give him a book you have enjoyed so that you can talk about it afterwards. Dating is about sharing and getting to know somebody. It isn't an audition or a job interview that you pass or fail.

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Cosycore · 16/09/2024 20:26

I haven’t read it myself but

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig was described to be as being life altering.

you might get some better suggestions in a bit though

IceStationZebra · 16/09/2024 20:27

The Catcher in the Rye

MsCrawford · 16/09/2024 20:30

Do you have a favourite book?

RosesAndHellebores · 16/09/2024 20:30

We need to know a little more about him please? Age, what are his passions? What did he read at uni? Science or Arts?

isthereaway · 16/09/2024 20:31

The Book Theif Marcus Zuzak
The Goldfinch (can't remember author!)
Perfume (to suss out if he's crazy)

Notamum12345577 · 16/09/2024 20:32

Lord of the Rings

RosesAndHellebores · 16/09/2024 20:33

The book thief crossed my mind, as did Midnight's Children. Or something more reminiscent of earlier years: Cider with Rosie or The Wind in the Willows?

RockyRogue1001 · 16/09/2024 20:35

The Rosie Project

Pyjamatimenow · 16/09/2024 20:39

Are you hoping to adopt him? You’re not his mother. Literally sounds like you’re trying out your own version of ‘How to lose a guy in ten days’? This kind of behaviour is probably why you’re struggling with OLD. Stop investing in men you don’t know.

MounjaroUser · 16/09/2024 20:41

I have mixed feelings about this. I read a lot but I really hate thinking I've got to read a book. If I were him I'd prefer it if we met and got on and talked about what we were reading and then if I liked the sound of your book I'd buy myself a copy.

I hope it all goes well with him though - he does sound really nice!

MounjaroUser · 16/09/2024 20:42

You don't know what he hasn't read or what he tried and didn't like. If someone gave me a copy of Wuthering Heights I'd cry all night.

MounjaroUser · 16/09/2024 20:43

(At the thought of having to read it, that is.)

FaiIureToLunch · 16/09/2024 20:43

Christ no OP.…he’s got to try and win YOU, not the other way around.

mynameiscalypso · 16/09/2024 20:44

I think it would be better to have a book that you've read recently and to ask if he's read it or bring a spare copy of it for him because you really enjoyed it and you'd like to talk about it with him. Turning up with a random copy of War and Peace would be a bit odd I think.

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/09/2024 20:45

First date? Don't.

Subsequent date, at a second hand book shop. Buy one for each other.

shellyleppard · 16/09/2024 20:45

All the light we cannot see. Birdsong by Sebastian faulks also depends on his interests

Candyfloss99 · 16/09/2024 20:46

Oh please don't bring him a gift on the first date.

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MorrisZapp · 16/09/2024 20:46

Do not do this. Buying books for other people puts huge pressure on them to read the damn thing. By all means buy books for people you know well and have shared tastes with but not on a first date.

Plus, what are you going to do for a second and third date? Keep that powder dry.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 16/09/2024 20:48

Cosycore · 16/09/2024 20:26

I haven’t read it myself but

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig was described to be as being life altering.

you might get some better suggestions in a bit though

It's absolute crap

tinymoon · 16/09/2024 20:48

I don’t think you should give him a book on the first date either I’m afraid

Bayern · 16/09/2024 20:49

Get to know while dating, find out what books he enjoys and hasn't already read. Turning up with a book when you have never met him before would be weird. And you have know way of knowing if any of the stuff he has said to hook you is true.