Please help me melt his heart ❤️

[Heybearu]

So having had a really not great time on online dating...I've finally started to speak with someone I would like to impress. Ladies he sings, he bakes bread, he reads he's the main parent. I'm in heaven.
Id like to give him a book at our first date....he likes most genres...nothing like super seedy tho as he's quite wholesome...what can I give him that will melt his heart so I get to keep him forever?
Or at last so he looks back and thinks that was cool.
Help please x

A book called 'How to avoid OTT women who buy you a book on the first date because that's weird, particularly as they don't really know you'. On the second date, buy the sequel

I’ve got a copy of that she can have after a man I went on a date with recommended it. I’ve never opened it. Completely true story,

She’ll need to send me £57 by PayPal to cover the postage though.

Sorry @Softlywoven I misread as gifting that one. 😂
I thought the book was excellent, btw, but holy jeezus, too intense for first date(s).

Ofs she doesnt know him yet.
arse

A guy I met online dating once suggested we meet in a book shop and then he hid and I had to find him based on what we’d been discussing. Didn’t fancy him when I met him but it was a cute idea.

Mean.

Personally I wouldn’t give him one I haven’t read as it wouldn’t be personal, we wouldn’t be able to talk about it etc… Unless you were to get two copies and both read?

Some I like are:
The Awakening - Kate Chopin
All the Light we Cannot See - Anthony Doer
The Passion - Jeanette Winterson
The Night Circus - Erin Morgenstern
The Wind Up Bird Chronicles - Haruki Murakami
The Princess Bride - William Goldman
Transatlanic - Colum McCann

Someone suggested Wuthering Heights which would be a nice one - I would put Frankenstein and Dracula in the great classics pile too!

A man once bought me a 50p can of Coke on a first date. Reader, I married him. And then divorced him.

Don’t buy the man a book. Not until later into dating, or possibly ever. Definitely after he’s showed his actual bread skills.

Well.. I wouldn’t give him a book on a first date, that’s a bit weird.

If you’re set on a book scenario.. you could put an old book of your own, that you love, in your bag. Then eg. When he turns up for the date you could be reading it. He’ll naturally ask you about it etc.

You are on your own here.

If you are going to go down this route - its a sweet gesture - you have to just do it from the heart. I also think you have to keep it low key spontaneous. Pop to a charity shop to browse and then if you see a book that suddenly makes you think of him you can say this reminded me of you. And you've only spent £1 if it doesn't work out 😂

Just curious...
has he asked for money at all? 🧐

He sounds too good to be true.

Making his own bread, if true, is all very well and good, but does he clean the kitchen up afterwards? I bet that he doesn't do either though.

Explain

Surely they should mutually be trying to “win” each other?

I gave a guy a creme egg on a first date. It was easter.

I imagine it got squashed in his pocket and he probably chucked it away as I bailed after an hour as he was a bit odd.

Just buy him a few bridal magazines - that'll do it

Well you're easily had 😳

Seriously you need to come across a bit less enthusiastic or you'll dampen the thrill.

Do NOT turn up on your first date with a present for him.

You're not Santa Claus.

😂😂😂 Do you think OP likes him?

That's a great book!

But OP...please don't give him a book on the first date. A few dates in, sure.

I mean she could turn up in a big white frock carrying a bunch of flowers but that might seem a bit OTT

He could read, bake bread and be an absolute arsehole to women. What about his values and his character- is he kind, loyal, dependable, trustworthy? Does he make you laugh? Can you talk and talk for hours? Being a good parent is a green flag- but is he? Plenty of men claim their children are their world but we also know a high percentage are Disney dads/bitter about their "psycho" ex. Just proceed with caution until you find out who he really is.

To me, he sounds like the majority of men with a variety of hobbies and interests.

When women only know "manly men" who are "hard" and obsessed with cars, that's because those women never initiate conversations with men. When women wait for men to initiate conversations, well, only scrotes and scumbags do that.

This plus I think OP is trying too hard. You haven't even met and you are planning on melting his heart?????????

I don’t think you can buy a book for somebody you don’t know quite well. It’s so subjective. (also agree it’s a bit full on for a first date.)