My dad is ill and I don’t know what to do

[SadGirlAutumn]

I live in Scotland for work and my parents live in Cornwall.

Two weeks ago my dad had a bit of an upset stomach. My mum brushed it off as nothing serious and bought him some Immodium. After 3 or 4 days, I called her to check how he was, he was still poorly so I asked if she'd rung the doctors. She said no.

About a week in, I said again, she should ring the doctors. Immodium was doing nothing. She said no, again, that it would work itself out.

After 10 days, she called the doctors who said he should have flat coke, some Immodium and it'll go away. He has done some tests at the doctors and they've basically shrugged, said it's not E-Coli. and to keep doing what he's doing. They said if it's anything, it's gastroenteritis but that makes 0 sense as my mum hasn't caught it.

It didn't so I came home last night to try and help out.

My dad hasn't eaten in 2 weeks. He's lost 40 pounds. Water makes him sick. He is going to the toilet at least 10 times an hour. The doctors don't want anything to do with him. He's being sick, nothing is coming up anymore because his system is totally empty. He can barely keep his eyes open. 111 has sent a doctor but it's "low priority" and they don't know what time they'll be here. He won't get in the car to go to hospital and between me and my mum we can't get him down, 111 said not to call 999 as he's already in the system.

I'm only 25. I'm so scared. I don’t know what I can do. He can't keep anything down and nobody wants to help us.

How dare they say you’re wasting their time 😡
If you think he needs you to, just do it! Please…

Thank goodness you got him to hospital! Well done OP, you’re very young and it’s a lot to deal with. My dad would totally minimise too and I can imagine panicking with my mum 💔. Hoping for good updates soon xx

So? My dad’s dying too. I’m not attacking the OP.

I’m not surprised she’s worried.

Apparently he has the whole department laughing as he has demanded an eye mask (fashioned out of face masks!) and he is now snoring the place down 😅he's probably on to be admitted and scanned tomorrow

Good luck OP and let us know how he is x

Hope you get some answers soon OP and that its something treatable whilst he's in. Let us know how he gets on x

Keep ringing and ringing 999 and record all that is going on. If he dies, make a lot of fuss and complaint

Fair enough, I meant no offence and I understand the system is flawed but thats no excuse for not doing your job.
There are countries in the world where doctors and hospitals are under way more pressure so people in countries like ours should be mindful that they're not in that situation.
Also the NHS weren't the only front line workers risking their health, lorry drivers, supermarket staff, pharmacists all the shops and places etc that were deemed essential and necessary to stay open, I didn't see anyone clapping or thanking them.
You have taken the response i gave to the op's post and picked the context that you didn't like to turn the chat into something else.
As for saying remind me you also took it in the literal sense rather than how it was actually meant.🙄

Good luck OP, well done for pushing. You shouldn't have needed to.

He's in hospital.

Exactly, I don't get why people do that.

I'm sorry, I know it's inappropriate given the topic of the thread but your name has made me giggle

Well I'm glad my name has given you a little bit of much-needed light relief. 😊

I chose that name because I am an extremely silly person.

There are so many things it can be, that are completely treatable. Nobody has said or hinted that he is dying. Please try and calm yourself down and just wait until your hear what they say tomorrow.

Sometimes a really bad stomach bug/infection can do this. It's rare, but possible. He's in the best place now, he will be tested, and you'll soon have answers.

Please take care x

I forced a friend to hospital against the advice of 111 who told us it was fine. They had also already been seen at home by a 111 GP. They were immediately admitted to intensive care.
I told them I’d never speak to them again if they didn’t get in the car with me. They were dying and still livid with me. We now laugh about the worst fight we’ve ever had which turned out to be saving their life!
Get that man to A&E.

Yes the government are to blame for the state of the NHS.
But plenty of NHS staff are to blame for lack of care and consideration for their patients, don't choose a career like that if you don't have kindness in you to care for people and if your not happy in your work go get another job instead on having a rant because you didn't like what I said.

Negligent? Based on what exactly?

Because they were dismissive about his condition, when clearly something was very wrong. The OP should not have had to battle to get her very sick father to hospital.

Clearly? Were you there too?

And i took it personal because its wrong to say he is dying if they dont even know whats wrong with him! Wth. Wish to be saying my dad is dying while he actually probably isnt but oh well… people are actually dying and to put it in a title so more people click on it while he is not dying is just disgusting.

i hope your dad will be alright.

i am moving out of this thread.

From the OP’s description, yes it was clear that something is very wrong!

I was convinced (and still am not totally sure I was wrong) that he was dying. He's still very very unwell. I am sorry if I upset you

Everyone is such a medical expert, its a wonder you all need to bother with the NHS at all.

His consultant has said he should've been admitted at the start of the week for more comprehensive and faster tests, and fluids etc. based on his symptoms, but the GP refused this

And the 111 call handler?