In love with a streamer

[Buttercupflying]

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

Thank you, but I’m still none the wiser!

Same here! I had to read it very carefully as I negotiated the language and rules of a world I know little about . Then I thought human behaviour is the same as it ever was, the need for love and attention and the way some ruthless chancers exploit this need. All that has changed is the technology that allows the vulnerable and the potential exploiter to make contact remotely and 24/7 with the added bonus of being able to have a totally fake identity

This is the most bizarre thread I've ever read .

Just why ? Why are you sending imaginary diamonds to this man ? Why would anyone do this ?

You need to get out of your own head and meet more real people

This x 1000

If nothing else, i learnt a new word today too!

It's the modern-day equivalent of escorting/prostitution.

Your escort will say nice things because you are literally paying him to do so. There is no romantic relationship. It's entirely transactional.

If you are happy that you are paying money for someone to say nice things but who cannot and will not ever give you any real affection, it comes down to whether you can afford it.

Do you want an escort? Is that enough for you? Or do you want a genuine connection with a real person who might actually love you back?

If you want something real, stop this. Stop gifting, stop streaming, delete this person from your Instagram. You don't have enough headspace for this fantasy and to consider meeting an actual real person.

loads of people dono to steamers, obviously it becomes a problem when they become too obsessed though or think something else is happening other than just a thanks for streaming or think that they some how have a connection to the person just because they watch them like the op.

You're paying an escort.

Just digitally.

How old are you @Buttercupflying ?

Blimey, it's like being sucked in by a Nigerian Prince

I have no idea what this is all about either, I assumed Bigo was a typo for Bingo, but you've lost me the diamonds and what not.

However, despite not understanding the details I will add my voice to the chorus of people telling you that this man is NOT interested in you as a person, he is interested in you as a paying customer. It is his job to get as much money out of you as possible. Step away OP, and please please please don't let him, or any other internet stranger, anywhere near your son.

Good luck, I'm sure it'll be hard to break out of this fantasy that you've built for yourself, but you really have to. Then, maybe get out in the real world if you're interested in meeting new friends or a partner.

Well done with the action you have taken so far. Now you’ve stopped giving him money he will stop contacting you.

Imagine a friend came to you and said there was a man in her local coffee shop or pub who was chatting to her a lot, but only if she gave him £50 every week. You would tell her to stop. This is the same thing, but this man doesn’t even have to go to the effort of going to a pub. He can have you and countless other women doing then exact same thing.

Wouldn’t you rather have a nice day out with your son, or buy him something nice than give money to this random man?

Thank you for the people being kind and supportive im 35 haven't long got out of a abusive relationship and become a single mum so started going on a few online chat sites none have cost anything other than bigo but4i think that's because its watching them live u have mkre interactions so4it becomes real but this guy it seems close with him ajd different so got confussed with does the like me and is this going somewhere or is it purely because im a gifter now to him

A poster earlier on in the thread, recommended the freedom programme, you should really do this, you're in a vulnerable position and its easy to get sucked into streamers and have a parasocial relationship with them. Take some time to work on you and ditch the streaming/chat sites for a while x

Great advice.
Sounds like you've had a hard time lately OP, and are a bit vulnerable at the moment.
I'd second everything Ago says - take some time to focus on yourself and your DS. I'd stay away from the online streamer altogether. Just completely ignore it, it really does sound like a scam.
Look after yourself x

Is it steamers or streamers? Just when I thought I understood the wording changed!

Thank you the wheeler and the ago ❤️

streamers, i just mistyped.

This is how lonely women get suckered in to parting with their spare cash.

Don't be a cliche OP, Netflix is showing "The Tinder Swindler" about how romance scans work and the kind of people who get entangled in those. Go and do some homework and keep your fantasies for internal use only.

You're a gifter, he's a grifter.

As others said this is escorting by another name, you pay for company.

Are you sure its not just an AI interaction in these calls?

Please stop, for your own wellbeing.

Few people said is it a al but ivr seen him on cam on ig also he's pretty much real sadly wish he wasn't tbh

They want your money. To get to your money they have to get you wanting to engage with them.

You give money.
They chat and tell you what you want to here.
You go back.
Repeat this over and over. They are doing this with other people on different sites under different names.

• HEAR not here...

Gonna have to hide this thread. First time I saw it I read it as steamer and now Ive read it as Starmer.

Oh I'm sure he exists and is taking your money. But the call could be AI. Please stop.