In love with a streamer

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Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

WTF are you doing with your money?? Do people actually do this?

Jesus Christ, stop paying this dude to talk to you, which is essentially what's happening. It's embarrassing for you both.

How much have you given him, OP?

I read it as in love with a strimmer, then thought it was about chatting to an online bingo host 😂

Op, he's not being kind offering to play with your son. It was specifically for money. All this is for money, sorry to say.

From your replies you appear reluctant to step away and go cold turkey, but this is exactly what you need to do. Block him. Put the money you were 'gifting' him into a nice real life experience for you and your son.

I really do wish you well.

This. How many posters here have gone to see a clairvoyant? And keep going back to them. It is not free is it? Anybody, in theory could be taken for a ride at a particular point in their lives, if the right circumstances present itself.

Sounds like a cocklodger without the living together, well done on seeing the light and cutting him off

2k diamonds is roughly £60 quid, how often are you donating the 2k ? £60 could be spent so much better, use it to do fun things with your son or treat yourself to something tangible and real, this is just throwing your money away.

Well done for stopping gifting him OP. Let us know how it goes with the Instagram only messaging. If he asks you for more gifts?

This. The more time I spend on mumsnet the more I realise the problem these days with kids is 100% down to their parents theirs some really shitty and thick parents in this country it's actually unbelievable

Me too... what is Bigo?

What might you win if you subsidise him even more (go higher)

Honestly OP from what I understand of your post the only thing he loves about you is the diamonds you gift him.

I would

a) Not gift him anything for at least 3 weeks- if you've got cash to spare buy yourself some nice things
b) See what happens when you implement A - he'll most likely ghost you or try to get you to start again
c) Call him out tell him to stop love bombing you and others
d) block him

In the unlikely event that he suggests meeting up make sure that he has to travel to you - not you to him and leave your choose a cheap place for a drink and a sandwich... DO NOT go somewhere expensive because he's bound to forget his wallet. DO NOT agree to give him any more money EVER.. it all sounds like a scam ... if hes really interested in your though he'll carry on money or no money

Edited to add - make sure you know someone knows exactly where you're going and what time you expect to be home

I agree. It’s heartbreaking.

There are some truly rotten people out there.

When I read stuff like this, I’m glad I’m old and don’t have a lot of time left on the planet.

OP, well done indeed for posting and listen to your gut in future..

Anyone else getting the feeling that offering the OP advice is a sisyphean act?

Jesus Christ, what is wrong with you. This person is a total stranger who's job it is to get money from gullible people online.

Do not under any circumstances bring your child into this.

You need to cop yourself on, get off the internet and get some hobbies and friends.

One Google Later...

Yes.

These scammers are utter shitbags, preying on the lonely and gullible who are just desperate for someone to love them. It's disgusting. I know realistically it's impossible to police because people are free to make even the stupidest decisions as long as they've got capacity but surely to god at some point these romance scammers have to be breaking some sort of law somewhere. I just feel so sorry for their victims. Fleeced to death for what? Just wanting some sort of love or connection. It's horrendous.

I am not sure of what that word means, I will look it up. This thread could help other people, either way.

Glad to read your update OP. There is a high chance he will try hard to get you gifting again. You are far better off stepping away all together. Please do. Step away from men, concentrate on your son and yourself. Are there any local services for women, that run courses aimed at raising confidence/building self esteem? Please keep your son safe.

I wouldn't recommend you pursue this even if he were actually interested in you outside the gifting relationship, because the way he earns his money is by chatting to women and persuading them to gift him - so if you were dating he'd presumably still be doing that, and it would drive you mad with insecurity.

In the nicest possible way, any ‘relationship’ carried out via screens is not a relationship. Try cold turkey for a few days. If he is that into you and concerned he will phone/contact you and also arrange to meet up and take the relationship forward which is a natural progression.
if not, then I suggest you seek out why you need to find this sort of affirmation online and give yourself a shake and move on.

Does the OP mean ‘bingo’? If not, can someone please tell me WTF ‘bigo’ is?

No, bigo is a steaming app.

You're not alone 😬

Ffs sake op, I'm sorry but put your phone down stop speaking to guys online who only want you for money and do something for yourself and your child. I know you're unhappy, you must be to be living in this fantasy but it'll end in you being taken for a ride.

OP, I know two streamers IRL. One is a gaming streamer and the other is a quite an online star. One is married and the other streamer has a very long term girlfriend, but you would never know if you chatted to them online.

You need to get out of your own head and meet more real people. This guy is putting on a persona to woo you out of money. He probably likes you, but only in the way as anyone likes the person who's paying for their new kitchen or sofa. They don't always speak well privately of the people who buy them diamonds, you know.

Hello OP. This sounds so much like grooming/ romance scam and I have no doubt he is in it for the money, and has learnt to create a false feeling of emotional connection to reel people in and get more money. If 2000 diamonds is worth £40, be grateful that’s all you spent on him, some people are so taken in by romance scams they lose their life savings, their home and even ask relatives for money to give to their online “ partners”. Now this might be controversial, but have you considered you might just be neurodiverse- and I’m only saying that because of the way you express yourself, and also you take what this guy has been saying at face value. As a neurodiverse woman it could make you more vulnerable to misinterpreting peoples motives and being scammed- something to consider maybe.