In love with a streamer

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Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

Oh good lord! Don’t bring your child into this.

You are paying someone to pay attention to you. This is not a relationship.

And he’s not “so nice”. Stop thinking of it as “diamonds” and bring it back to what it really is - money.

If a bloke walked up to you in the street/pub and said “give me £40 and I’ll play a game with your son” what would you think of him?

I feel like I’ve fallen into another dimension here.

What is a bigo host? What’s the gifting about?

He was a gaming streamer see before he's just lovely and so nice but awkward in terms to think could there be anything there its just like friends now and im just clinging on to when we speak to see how it goes we get to know more about each other the more we speak but i don't know if it's because i gift or its genuine

Me neither. What even...

MidnightPatrol · Today live stream app

Is this real? What the fuck am I reading?
If this is real then No, he doesn’t like you. It’s his ‘job’ to make you give him money. Step away from the internet.

2000 diamonds is about £50… honestly you might as well be throwing money down the drain… stop!!!
you could spend that money on your son and other lovely things in real life not on a streaming app!

No there isn’t anything there.
No you are not even friends.
Yes it’s just because you gift pay him.
No it’s not genuine.

Getting money out of lonely women is his JOB.

What could you possibly think any future with him would involve?

It's because you gift. Sorry.

I do think is it about money deep down that's why ive asked advice but i keep thinking he doesn't interact with others only ppl who gift etc i don't know if he's just really nice and im getting the wrong idea and it is only about money

Do you have social communication difficulties in real life? I would encourage you to use the money you waste on this fraudster on therapy for yourself.

You sound very vulnerable & don't realise that you're being financially abused. Change your contact details on everything (new mobile no, emails, don't give your home address out) then block him on all the platforms.

Can you report to the police on 101 as it's financial abuse.

What is a streamer?
And what are the diamonds used for?

Surely this is like when cam girls pretend to like their viewers and create friendships with them to make the viewer feel special just to get money out of them? If you weren't gifting I'd say different but especially as he's encouraged you to gift more, come on op. You can't be this naive. Stop the gifts altogether and see how your communication is then, I bet he will stop.

It’s great that you are questioning things. And I imagine it is easy to get sucked in.

EVERYONE on this thread is advising you to stop.

I would say that the simple answer is to stop paying, and watch how his attitude changes. But I worry that if he has your contact details he will try to manipulate you back into paying.

OK but if there's mutual attraction then the highest gifter thing wouldn't be relevant.

I'm kinda curious to know who this person is haha. He sounds like he has a massive ego!

Tbh op in my experience from similar crushes...we fixate on the fantasy idea of this dashing Prince who seems to represent everything we want. We like that he's slightly unobtainable because if we always think of them as a little out of our league and never actually ask them out, we cannot be disappointed.

Because if we actually spent time with them we'd realise they weren't actually that shiny thing we thought.

It's fantasy. Often due to loneliness or having had a string of shitty men in the past.

Added on top of that that he's paying you attention and saying nice things. Who wouldn't be flattered? But you have to remember he has to be nice, it's what pays his bills.

Enjoy it for what it is if you like but... remember it's just fantasy.

Unless you actually want to ask him out. But of course you know that doing so, would likely pop the little bliss bubble you're currently in.

Put rules in place for yourself if you continue chatting. Remember every pound you give him is less money to spend on you and your child.

I've no idea what this is about, but I've grasped that the OP is paying someone online for the doubtful privilege of chatting to him.

The OP now seems to believe that this person might be in love with her.

I'm glad I'm old.

I'm also glad that I learned about punctuation at school.

Lots here on bigo scammers

https://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+spot+a+scammer+on+bigo&oq=how+to+spot+a+scammer+on+bigo&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRigATIHCAIQIRigATIHCAMQIRifBdIBCTIxNjc3ajBqN6gCDrACAQ&client=ms-android-samsung-ss&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8&chrome_dse_attribution=1

@TheShellBeach I’m old too, but I’d never be so shitty as to criticise punctuation on the thread of an OP who is essentially posting a bit of a cry for help.

What the fuck?

I have never heard of this but it sounds like you're paying a stranger to spend time with you in a chat room and now you're thinking of introducing your child into this?!

Not only that but you're scrimping and saving to pay him.

Have a word with yourself and put your child first.

No need for you to post then, was there? I'm sure OP could have done without your pointless and spiteful critique. Just stop it.

OP, how much money are you spending? I don't know about the cost of these diamonds? If it's a tiny amount of money and you're enjoying the chats then that's fine but it's not real until you meet up and chat in person.

How somebody presents themselves online/texting/messaging doesn't always translate in real life.

Oh, more pages! I've just seen the updates.

OP... stop sending any more diamonds for now whilst you re-think this.

Thank you all so much this is what i have been thinking really i am vunrable in terms of feeling low lonely etc but i do have a wise head to these things and think i just got kinda sucked in a little bit and everything seemed so real and great etc until few days ago i thought is this me he likes or because im gifting all the time it kinda hit me a bit that this isn't want i think or want it to be.

It’s because you gift…and I haven’t got a clue re gaming/streaming/diamonds etc and even I know it’s because you’re sending him money.

Well he's played you like a fiddle hasn't he.

Just to be clear, you are budgeting to fund the lifestyle of some guy who doesn't give a single shit about you. You are giving money which could go to funding things for your child to this man. He probably earns thousands more than you doing this, taking advantage of other stupid, lonely people.

I'm sorry but I think other posters are being far too gentle with you, if you were a father giving away money to some egirl instead of spending it on or putting it away for your child you'd be being absolutely ripped apart. You need to snap out of this ridiculous fantasy. It's a grift. He doesn't like you. If you died tomorrow he wouldn't care. Be a better mother and stop this.

He’s not “really nice”. He’s using a persona to scam money from vulnerable people.

Step away, op.