In love with a streamer

[Buttercupflying]

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

Thanks for updating, it was good you posted and an example of why MN can be useful.

Be very wary of ever giving gifts of any sort, it’s nice to be generous but kind people often get taken advantage of.

To people not believing it, this type of stuff is very true.

Why haven't you blocked him and stopped engaging at all?

Interesting that you've resurrected this thread after several months, he's obviously still strongly on your mind.

As CleanShirt says, why haven't you stopped engaging with this grifter completely? He has cost you money you can ill afford, encouraged you to behave in a way that you felt ashamed of and is leveraging your son to try and get more money from you.

Vicious yes i stopped gifting and seen that the meet ajd greets never happen its to get more gifts thinking it will be a meet. Also to other people reponse i don't gift anymore just join them live so no money being spent from me

Why are you still hoping for something from this con artist? You are nothing to him. One of god knows how many mugs who've been chucked table scraps by waving their wallets at him. And you're still hoping that he'll pay you a bit of attention even though you're not giving him cash.

The only reason he will is if he thinks that by doing so, you will start paying for his attention again.

Why do you insist on putting yourself through all this?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · Today 11:35 i just watch streams now and pop by his now n then i Dont spend anything on gifts just chat that's all

But why haven't you blocked him after everything that's happened? Why are you still looking at his stream? Bizarre.

Not only his i browse others I'm not connected to watching him souly anymore, but now from a outsider looking in i can see it more as what everyone was saying on here now ive taken myself out of the situation

Well you've not really by continuing to engage with him but ok.

Pound to a penny he'll suck you back in. Best to block the stream.

I do appreciate that this is easier said than done and it is truly meant kindly - but you need to engage with the real world, not with streamers. You are still watching this bloke, you have brought this thread back up after several dormant months - he'll throw you a crumb and you'll be sucked back in.

I agree with @WinWhenTheyreSinging, @murasaki and @CleanShirt, @Buttercupflying - you are not free of this person or of the world of streamers.

It is good that you have stopped sending them gifts, but it still sounds to me as if you are too attached to this person and to other streamers - and I can understand why - you feel you are getting a personal connection with them - but I am very sure that they don't ever feel the same way about the people who they 'chat' to. It may seem so on the surface, but the bottom line is they want to make money out of this - it is a job, an income stream.

The person you have been sending gifts to has noticed you aren't sending them any more, but still sees you on their stream, chatting to them - so they think there is a good chance they can reel you back in, and get more from you.

I honestly think you need to go cold turkey from the whole thing - see if you can go a week or a month without looking at ANY of the streams you watch, and without chatting to any of them. I honestly think this is like an addiction, and you are not going to get free from it unless you give it up altogether.

You have not taken yourself out of the situation.
You still watch him
You still think about him
You still post about him

That's definitely in rather than out.

Don't you think you deserve better than a half life watching someone who just wants people money?

Because you do.

A fool and their money are soon parted.
You are being scammed.
It's not as if this is new, so why are people still giving money to chancers and liars?

I just watch streams in the evenings for something 2 do I've stopped gifting now and just interact in the evenings for hour. Im not on there all the time i was just saying that i see now what it's all about and was blinded before. As this one has planned a meet etc just to get diamonds then the meet won't happen like last time.

But I suspect you still like this guy and will get sucked back in. Assuming you can't go out in the evenings, and want human interaction, you need to find a way of doing it where you won't be suckered into giving money. So, for example are there any TV shows you watch that have a watch along thread in the TV forum on here? I enjoy joining in with the MAFS, I'm a Celeb, Strictly ones etc, there are loads and they're funny and welcoming. Or maybe an online exercise class. Or just whatsapping with a friend. I'm.sure others will have other ideas. Its tough if you feel alone in the evening, but there are solutions that don't involve paying a streamer for crumbs of attention, you're worth more than that

At some point you will be ready to admit to yourself that you could find plenty of other things to do. It's not a choice of watching him or staring at a wall.

When you can admit that to yourself, you might be ready to give him up and move on with your life.

I’m officially past it.
Thought OP had spotted a lovely party streamer.
So I read on because I’m hosting a party soon.
After the first few posts I thought it was about bingo.
I perked up when I discovered you could buy thousands of diamonds for forty quid, then realised they are fake.
So before I change my User name to Confused.com I’ll toddle off for a cup of tea, a ginger biscuit and a nap.

Please value you and your money more than you are. You are addicted and being taken advantage of. These people know how to keep you addicted. Wise up, and disengage altogether. Then you can find more positive ways to engage with other people online. There's so many ways to do this, for example, I used to do an online choir. Not for everyone, but you get the idea.

Yes i like watching series on Netflix i also watch towie repeats from years ago on itvX i do watch TV in the background im not as obsessed with watching streams now than i was definitely not ss neive anymore

There are some brilliant boxsets on streaming if you're looking for a distraction. I've just finished 'TriggerPoint', it's incredible.

This man that you're watching, he may well have a partner who is monitoring his stream, telling him who he should be paying attention to (because of gifts). Nobody has any idea of the depths this person/grifter will plummet to but you will never be able to move on if you don't block him - preferably also the site - and focus on things that give something back to you.

I'm really sorry to read that you're still obsessing over him but you can do this - just try. Really try - block and remove the website - and give other things that don't take from you, a chance.

Me too and I was going to post a light hearted reply about my love for a bauble but then I read on...
Not a clue what you are on about...oh dear

Stop watching him. He only flirted with you because you were giving him money. You have a child. Spend your money on your dc and their future; stop giving it to randos on the internet.

What on earth.

You need to step away from the Internet and come back to real life.

Please don't involve your DC in this weird online scam.

I think you need to step away from streamers completely. Interact on here instead!