In love with a streamer

[Buttercupflying]

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

I watched it last night and totally related to them parts of falling in love and seeing the same patterns with what men do

Please will you quote people when you're replying.

Good. Are you going to block all contact with him?

Have you blocked him and deleted the app yet?

TheShellBeach yes sorry sometimes few people have replied so i try put all the answer in one messages to all questions. Ive logged out of the apps im in with him but not deleted yet

What reason have you got for not deleting the app?

Why have you not deleted yet?
You still want to believe he's interested in you?

Sorry ivr just seen the quote option now i don't know why im still trying to deal with cutting him off but ive not contacted or checked any communication at all

It seemed so different with him so kind and understanding but breaking contact is the only way i can see how i feel ij few days then ill delete everything

You’re clearly going to keep going back to him, when he messages you with more nonsense to keep reeling you in.

you're having to borrow money from your family so you can provide for your son, because you’re giving your own to a scammer, but you won’t cut the contact and delete, you’re putting a scammer above your family.

It's up to you OP. You obviously are not taking the advice given. Good luck.

It seemed so different with him, so kind and understanding

I think you've probably had a lot of abusive men in your life.

You sound very vulnerable, and unable to see that this man online is not being kind to you because he thinks well of you.

He's being kind because you're giving him money.

It's really that simple.

Does your son see his dad?

I'm asking about your son seeing his dad because I have a feeling that the dad wouldn't approve of his boy bring groomed by a streamer.

And yet, you were actually thinking of letting the streamer play video games with your son.

Please block him and delete the apps today.
He is using you and exploiting your vulnerability.
You spent all your money on a stranger instead of buying food.
Use the time you would have been talking to him to chat with your friends and family, spend time with your son and make plans for fun things to spend your money on now that you will have more of it as you're not spending it on a scammer

You're obviously going to speak to him again. What are you going to do when he cons more money out of you and you can't feed your kid? Or he blackmails you with intimate pictures you've sent him?

@Buttercupflying I’ll ask again, why have you not deleted the app and his details?

You’re asking for advice, gettting overwhelmingly the same advice from posters here and not taking it.

“It seemed so different with him so kind and understanding”

@Buttercupflying he wasn’t being kind and understanding! He was spinning you a line to keep you on the hook and giving him cash and attention.

just deleted the thing!

You have to break contact OP.

This man does not care about you.

This man does not care if you live or die.

The ONLY thing this man cares about is how much money you send him.

He does not care if you don't have enough money to feed your kids.

He does not care if you are borrowing to make ends meet.

He does not care that he is giving your false hope of a relationship

He does not care that you have mental health problems.

The ONLY thing this man cares about his how much money he can squeeze out of you

You are worth more than thisand so is your DS. Delete those apps, stop borrowing off your family to fund the loathsome scummy scammer and focus on you and your DS...

Forget him because he'll sure as hell forget you as soon as you stop giving him money...

End of ...

Yes do that, it's a very good series and it just shows how vulnerable women can be and are exploited by men.

When you've finished that one, watch 'Wentworth', it's an Australian prison drama and it's phenomenal, I think you'll enjoy it.

Never do stuff that makes you feel bad about yourself. That's a tip for life. I've cringed thinking back of some of the things that I did, they make me feel bad still sometimes. I won't do them again but the body doesn't forget. Remember that and keep it in mind so that you don't feel 'obliged' to do these things for other men, not this one or any man, ever again.

You'll get there. In the meantime, get streaming these dramas and delete this Bigo app completely. Don't tell him, just do it. Give yourself a star chart if you want for each day but I promise you, you won't need it for long.

OP even if he does truly care about you (I don’t think he does), he’s not going to give up his job, nor would you have any right to make him. How would you feel being a couple if he was constantly sex chatting or messaging other girls to make money?

I cannot believe that anyone in this day and age would believe a load of tosh from some influencer/grifter!

Sorry op, but you are far too gullible to use the internet unsupervised.

Of course he's nice to you and flirting whilst you are gifting, that's how he earns his living.

He will flirt just enough to keep you interested but won't commit and you'll end up out of pocket and very low self esteem once you wake up and realise he's using you.

Have you deleted the app yet?

FFS, just block him and delete the app!

I’m guessing you have talked to him about your son and maybe your concerns at your son gaming too much? And he has said things about helping your son? And you feel he was being kind? Again, please see that he has tapped in to your vulnerabilities so he can cash in on them. Please protect yourself against him, do not throw any more money at him. And forgive me if I’m wrong about your son.

Have you deleted the app yet, @Buttercupflying?