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In love with a streamer

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Buttercupflying · 07/09/2024 11:49

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

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Buttercupflying · 14/09/2024 17:51

Hi all did really well yesterday and last night i watched him quick this afternoon but not on my name he was saying 2 ppl that he's known a while on there he's gonna do a meet up etc and mentioned his gifters 2 of them didn't mention me he said keep it quiet as I've had some odd people and they've gifted me probably in about me ha but he's been awful about a gifter that he mentioned he invited to the meet so maybe he just chats awful about wll of us. I did know he was planning a meet he told me privetllyy on a call last week but i wasn't mentioned out of his gifters today. I not heard of him since Thursday night when he said am i ok which i ignored

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Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 14/09/2024 17:56

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CalicoPusscat · 14/09/2024 18:00

Is there anyone around you who can get you to block him?

He is after money, control and cheap thrills

MonsteraMama · 14/09/2024 18:03

I can tell you what he thinks and chats about you all. He thinks you're all sad gullible losers who are funding his life and taking food out of your children's mouth to do so. He is preying very effectively on the lonely and the desperate.

You might benefit from reading Keanu Reeves is not in Love With You - it's about people who fall for romance scams, which is very much the same ballpark as what you've fallen for here.

listsandbudgets · 14/09/2024 18:08

@Buttercupflying Come on read back your own post..

  • He's awful to you about other gifters... what do you think he says to them about you? He's playing you all off against each other OP.
  • He's made barely any effort to contact you since you stopped gifting
  • Despite all the gifts you've given him he's not invited you along to meet him.

If this was another poster asking for advice please think what you'd tell them....

He's using you for money. He does not care about your feelings. As far as he is concerned your worth is measured in virtual diamonds.... is that REALLY how you want to be valued?

Step away for your son's sake if not your own - as long as you keep watching there's a chance you'll get sucked back in. Delete the apps... please

Luta · 14/09/2024 18:11

As well as the freedom program, you should look into following some kind of online addiction program. You need to stop watching him and you don't seem to be able to do that now because of the thrill of ooh will he speak about me, ooh well i will watch and not speak etc. you're giving money, time, and headspace over this scammer.

This thread has given you so much good advice, but if you're not willing to take the steps of blocking him and stopping watching him, you're just going to end up back donating or in another scam with a different streamer, quit cold turkey, concentrate on your son, your mental health.

Nchanged89 · 14/09/2024 18:13

Quite simply OP you need to fucking stop this.

Sidebeforeself · 14/09/2024 18:21

I hope to god this isn’t real

TheShellBeach · 14/09/2024 18:22

Is this prince among men the only streamer you watch, out of interest?

TheShellBeach · 14/09/2024 18:25

You still haven't deleted the app, have you?

You're watching him to find out if he mentions you.

Only you can delete this app and stop watching him.

How many more pages of this thread are you going to need before you take the action which everyone has told you to?

You're getting the same advice from everyone.

TheGander · 14/09/2024 18:39

He does not care about you.
He just pretends to for the money.
When the money stops he might act nice to reel you back in.
He has no intention of having a relationship with you.
Is there anyone you trust in real life ( friend/ parent/ brother or sister) that you can talk to about this? If not please do reach out to Mind, or as others have mentioned consider the Freedom program that is there to help women mov eon mentally from abusive relationships. This is an abusive situation, your vulnerability and need for admiration/ affection/ love is being abused by a scammer.
No one on here is going to tell you any different.

seven201 · 14/09/2024 19:12

It's his scam job to get gifts from people. He is pretending to be interested in you to get money/his scam wage. Please find your self respect and delete these apps. You are wasting your limited family money on someone who is scamming you by occasionally flirting and hinting at meet ups that will never happen. You could use that money to go on a family trip to the cinema or something else for your son. Just stop. Find the willpower.

TheShellBeach · 15/09/2024 14:22

So, have you deleted Bigo yet?

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Buttercupflying · 18/09/2024 00:09

On day 4 and no contact or watched him im doing well and yes he was the only one i watched

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DisabledDemon · 18/09/2024 00:51

Sidebeforeself · 14/09/2024 18:21

I hope to god this isn’t real

I don’t believe it is. I think the OP is having a high old time stringing everyone along for attention and giggles. And if it is true, she’s a complete idiot who obviously doesn’t intend to take any of the well-meaning advice she’s been offered. Either way, best left alone, I think.

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 18/09/2024 06:27

Buttercupflying · 18/09/2024 00:09

On day 4 and no contact or watched him im doing well and yes he was the only one i watched

Brilliant - well done!!

Beezknees · 18/09/2024 06:46

DisabledDemon · 18/09/2024 00:51

I don’t believe it is. I think the OP is having a high old time stringing everyone along for attention and giggles. And if it is true, she’s a complete idiot who obviously doesn’t intend to take any of the well-meaning advice she’s been offered. Either way, best left alone, I think.

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Why would you think it wasn't real? Plenty of women fall for these "romance scams" there are literally documentaries about it! OP sounds like a very vulnerable and lonely person, some people are easily manipulated.

thereiscustardinthejamtart · 18/09/2024 11:09

Buttercupflying · 18/09/2024 00:09

On day 4 and no contact or watched him im doing well and yes he was the only one i watched

Massive, massive WELL DONE @Buttercupflying

You should feel very proud. That’s a huge step and must have been hard. You are probably over the hardest part now, so keep it up 🙂

So proud of you!!!

TheGander · 18/09/2024 21:15

Keep it up OP, and think of the money you’re saving 😉

Spuck · 18/09/2024 21:17

I have absolutely no idea what this thread is about, I clicked onto it because I thought it said ‘I fell in love with a steamer’ and thought you were going to recommend a good steamer 😂

Nchanged89 · 19/09/2024 07:46

Good for you OP, hope you stick to it.
How much money have you saved in those few days, use that to spur you on!

Boomer55 · 19/09/2024 07:54

Sounds like a financial scam to he. Stop gifting, and see if he still wants to talk to you.

Attraction doesn’t need money to prop it up.🤷‍♀️

MsB2024 · 21/09/2024 00:37

Treelichen · 07/09/2024 11:52

It’s all about the money, money, money…….

He needs the money, money, money 🎵

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Buttercupflying · 08/01/2025 08:20

I stopped gifting now he planned a meet with others but didnt invite me said it to far. But i think he plans meets with ppl just for gifts i don't think they intention of a meet is there

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Buttercupflying · 08/01/2025 08:21

But yes ive stopped making myself financially broke so im not getting in to any money problems now. One of his high gifters stopped gifting due to him not meeting her

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