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Buttercupflying · 07/09/2024 11:49

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

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TheShellBeach · 11/09/2024 22:49

He is NOT interested in you!

Noseybookworm · 11/09/2024 23:14

You've been told by enough people here that he is just after your money and is manipulating you. If you choose to continue contact with him, you're very foolish. You don't have to tell him you're cutting contact, just block him on everything.

murasaki · 11/09/2024 23:20

I'm prepared to AI my face to male and chat nicely to you on the Internet for 40 quid a time. You won't even have to get your tits out.

I can probably get chat gpt to do it for me while I'm doing something else.

Please walk away from this situation which you are complicit in if it's not making you happy, which it isn't.

Blueuggboots · 12/09/2024 01:58

You are being encouraged to support him. He doesn't think you're special, he just wants your money.

You are being played big time.

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 12/09/2024 03:34

@Buttercupflying well done for trying to take some steps to stop talking to him. I did previously say a couple of times that if you tried this he would step up his activity with you in an attempt to reel you back in. It absolutely looks like he is doing that.
You need to block him. That is the only way.
Please used the feelings you’re currently experiencing and block him. Remember those feelings when you want to talk to him. Write the down and read them before you do anything that might initiate contact with him.
If he really cared and it was mutual he would have also done things on video. He really is taking advantage of you in so many ways.
Use this thread for support and take each day at a time - each day you don’t contact him is a step towards breaking your addiction with him - that’s what it is.
I really think you need to access some counselling if possible - you need to explore why you need this in your life and how you can channel that into something more positive

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 05:20

Idontgiveagriffindamn thank you and everyone else yes i just felt more wanted by him again when i messaged him after 2 days of doing so well. I felt terrible after I did that on video call ashamed almost because it was one sided he was just telling me wat 2 do well he sat there. I feel terrible talking about him like this because he's so lovely but at the same time i think because he new how i felt that doing that on video wouldn't help the situation at all it would make me more drawn 2 him again

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MrsDuskTilldawn · 12/09/2024 06:17

@Buttercupflying of course he’s going to be “nice” if you tell him you’re not going to be there anymore (he’s not really though, is he, if he’s making you do stuff that makes you feel bad about yourself after) .

The streamer my friend was so fond of did all the things you’re describing with several people - none of them knew about each other and when he was drunk once he called all the people paying him cash pigs.

That’s ALL you are to this dude. A cash cow and on top he’s now coerced you into doing things on video chat that you’re uncomfortable with. That alone should be enough to never ever even sneeze in his direction again, let alone pay him or talk to him.

Edited because typos. 🙄😆

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 06:33

MrsDuskTilldawn ha im same with typos and yeah i felt awful after about myself bit digraded plus i don't know if he tells his other gifters about what hes told me to do it feels like i don't ever wanna go on his stream again thinking everyone knows about it

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Zonder · 12/09/2024 06:44

I feel terrible talking about him like this because he's so lovely

He is NOT lovely. He is manipulating you for money. You are worth more than this. Block him, delete the app, walk away

TheShellBeach · 12/09/2024 07:20

How many diamonds did you buy him this time?

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 07:40

Not many his othee gifter has been giving him alot he said 2 save mine when her kinda runs out. He kind of dislikes his highest gifter he tells me on phone i wonder does he say same about me 😭

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Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 07:42

When i get the earge to message him or something or watch him in going to come on here to stop myself. Ive started watching bad girls the prison series that's i use to love years ago which im really in to at moment i mite put that on also to take my mind off it i have been enjoying watching that every night before i go to bed

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JennyBeanR · 12/09/2024 08:07

Buttercupflying · 07/09/2024 16:19

Thank you for the people being kind and supportive im 35 haven't long got out of a abusive relationship and become a single mum so started going on a few online chat sites none have cost anything other than bigo but4i think that's because its watching them live u have mkre interactions so4it becomes real but this guy it seems close with him ajd different so got confussed with does the like me and is this going somewhere or is it purely because im a gifter now to him

It's because you're gifting him. Trust your gut. You seem lovely, but very vulnerable and lonely. I think it wouldn't hurt to reach out to your GP for local talk/counselling services.

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 08:43

In going to make this the first day i have no more contact i have to do it as its making me unwell because i like him so much i feel awful and that i let myself down on that video call the other night now i feel like he obviously doesn't care about friendship either as he knows that would of caused me to feel more for him

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CucumberBagel · 12/09/2024 08:52

Are you going to listen to ANY of the people on this thread? Block him, delete the app, stop wasting money and your body on him. Fucking grim.

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 09:03

Yes going to watch series i been watching every evening which is when i get the earge the most and focus on watching films etc rather than logging in to the live

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 12/09/2024 09:06

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 08:43

In going to make this the first day i have no more contact i have to do it as its making me unwell because i like him so much i feel awful and that i let myself down on that video call the other night now i feel like he obviously doesn't care about friendship either as he knows that would of caused me to feel more for him

You say you like him. You don’t even know him, he is selling you a version of what you want to hear to get these “gifts”

please block this guy - you are vulnerable and he is taking advantage. He does NOT care for you at all.

try and get out into the real world if you can,, do you work/volunteer/have a hobby?

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 09:13

I don't work at moment but have outreach support from mind who offer alot of activitys to do Just suffer with going out to places etc which is y i get attached i think so quick due to lack of confidence in myself

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EmpressaurusDeiGatti · 12/09/2024 09:27

Is there someone at Mind who you can discuss this with?

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 09:31

Yes i have my worker from mind who phones me up and pops out every fortnight just to check im ok and how im doing but not sure if I'll sound bit stupid telling her about this as im embarrassed myself ive got myself in this situation. That's y i came on here see 2 get public advice rather than off people i know

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Pennyplant19 · 12/09/2024 09:46

MidnightPatrol · 07/09/2024 12:19

I feel like I’ve fallen into another dimension here.

What is a bigo host? What’s the gifting about?

Glad you asked. I've no idea what any of this means. Sounds like a scam tho!

TheShellBeach · 12/09/2024 09:55

He kind of dislikes his highest gifter. He tells me on the phone.

I wonder does he say the same about me

Of course he says the same about you.
He doesn't like you.
He likes the diamonds.
He likes the free sex show you give him.

Have you no self-respect?

Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 10:00

Yes i have self respect and have never done that before i thought he was interested and it was mutual but afterwards i felt i let myself down and embarrassed and thiknig is he telling his other gifters about what ive done and feel embarrassed thinking they all know about it

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Buttercupflying · 12/09/2024 10:11

Plus I've had issues privetlly with other issues and he was there 4 me etc which makes it more harder as he was so nice in what he was saying etc but it all falls down to him benifit in from it all. I hate talking of him like this as he comes across so lovely

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Nchanged89 · 12/09/2024 10:12

If your looking for something to watch, I suggest love rats on Netflix. It's all about people who have been scammed by people pretending to be in love with them. Romance fraud.
He doesn't like you, care about you, respect you or give a shit. He is interested in the money you send and the photos and phone sex is a bonus for him
How much have you given him in total?