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In love with a streamer

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Buttercupflying · 07/09/2024 11:49

Hi everyone im Falling for a bigo host ive been gifting and chatting 2 this person offline not just bigo and we chat 4 long hours on insta but im Starting to catch feelings we have a bit of flirt time also but nothing to deep the flirt bit happeend once out of no where. Does he like me or because i gift? Also watched a movie via because i was higher gifter but he hinted for me to get higher to win. He started the flirt bit not me we chat for ages on call one on one please am i being silly here

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DisabledDemon · 09/09/2024 02:58

Oh God, honestly! Do you really need to be told to run in the opposite direction? The fact that you're even asking this question indicates that you have doubts - and so you should.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 09/09/2024 07:14

OP. I’m going to be harsh but fair.

You sound very immature - it sounds like this post was written by a 15 year old, not a 35 yo woman. You have a child.

You’re not wealthy so any spare money you have should go towards either - things that make you feel good (this doesn’t), your child, or your future.

Block him and all these stupid sites. Get some counselling to build your self esteem. Don’t give him another thought and move on.

MibsXX · 09/09/2024 07:53

Buttercupflying · 07/09/2024 12:15

No im not wealthy i budget to buy diamonds for him just 2 support him on the app

He sure is getting wealthy though, trust everyone here it's most definately a scam just to part you with your money

Icebreaker911 · 09/09/2024 08:04

Can't believe you fall for this rubbish rubbish - stop it ! NOW !!

MrsDuskTilldawn · 09/09/2024 08:45

Buttercupflying · 08/09/2024 10:39

I don't understand why he chats about his life and past etc deeply privetlly on the phone etc part of me well a big part of me is on the side of its just for money 40%% thinks is he genuine i don't have his phone number but his agency and other hosts have it there in WhatsApp groups with him

I’ll bet a year’s salary the things he says about his past and life etc are embellished at best and lies at worst. He’s a narcissist most likely. Many of the ones who stream hardcore for money are: Lovebombing for attention and money, when that runs dry they have a new supply of people ready. They have a sob story at the ready so you empathise with them. And many of them, there is lots online you can read about this, will be in touch one on one with people and get even more than money from them if you get what I mean. And it’s always vulnerable people, never super confident ones, because they would tell them where to stick their requests for money and pictures.

My friend was entangled with one of them. Lost around £2k and her self confidence when he asked everyone for nudes but her.
She wouldn’t listen to me at the time, I was there to pick up the pieces when it finally clicked.

He’s an act. A persona. He is not who he has you believe he is. Block, block, block and stay away from him and his ilk.

You can do it. You don’t need him. Concentrate on YOU and your son. 💛

toxic44 · 09/09/2024 08:54

He's a gigolo. You pay him for his attention. He's good at making you feel special but that's what you're paying for. Stop paying and see how he responds.

Lovefromjuliaxo · 10/09/2024 19:10

Buttercupflying · 08/09/2024 10:52

Yes like the highest gifter gets a day out with him etc he's started doing but i think if it was genuine you wouldn't need to win anything to gain a day out etc. There's nothin in it with me and him anyway really just that one night he got bit flirty and we exchanged pics but i just need to get him out my head now

I say this as someone with autism, but have you got special needs/learning disabilities or autism OP? How old are you?

TheGander · 10/09/2024 22:17

I was thinking autism as well. My brother is on the spectrum and is very vulnerable to romance scamming, he takes people at face value and I have had to intervene several times.

TequilaNights · 11/09/2024 00:39

Hope your doing okay @Buttercupflying

SEAHORSESROCK2 · 11/09/2024 07:04

Anoisagusaris · 07/09/2024 12:16

Fuck me I must be getting old. My first thought when I read the subject title was that this was going to be about a party streamer/banner type thingy 🙈 And then I didn’t understand most of the post .

Ha ha me too. Then I thought it might be a typo and be streaker...

Growsomeballswoman · 11/09/2024 11:49

I initially thought is was a steamer for ironing

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Buttercupflying · 11/09/2024 21:57

Hi all sorry not been on. No don't have autism but do suffer with vunrableilty and nieve a bit. This is how much he charmed me as it all felt 2 real. I told him however i felt afterwards and he said he was glad excited and also worried about where id been. He said the feeling i feel mite be due to how he's been there 4 me etc and he eas understanding. I also said i was going 2 break away from the app and just go my own way he said i hope u don't block me as we get on etc and he was ringing regular then last night i did somethin stupid again because he was so understanding i was excited to chat 2 him and it lead to another episode of the sexual talk again but this time on video call i felt bit uncomfortable as im not confident but i did it 2 make him happy and felt like it was way he was interested again

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EmpressaurusDeiGatti · 11/09/2024 22:01

And next he’ll be getting money from you again. Or getting you to do sexy poses and then putting the pictures and videos on porn sites.

OP, his being nice and understanding is part of the act. He wouldn’t be good at his job otherwise.

Please listen to all the women on here who are telling you you need to block this man before things go any further.

murasaki · 11/09/2024 22:04

OP, kindly, please stop this. It isn't a relationship, he is taking advantage of you and luring you back into paying for his attention.

dapsnotplimsolls · 11/09/2024 22:13

Stop it. You need to go cold turkey and block him/stop watching him.

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Buttercupflying · 11/09/2024 22:14

I found it odd that i told him ive started having feelings ee resolved that and he was understanding then asks me to do that i fort ot was bit odd considering I said i have been down due to getting feelings or is he interested

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murasaki · 11/09/2024 22:23

He is not interested in anything other than your money and will do whatever it takes to get it, for example talking to you and getting you to get your tits out so you feel that you are in a relationship. You are not. He is in a relationship with your money. You will never meet him in person.

Please step away.

DisabledDemon · 11/09/2024 22:23

I’m beginning to find this somewhat unbelievable.

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Buttercupflying · 11/09/2024 22:26

I wish ot wasn't real demon tbh. Everytime i try walk away ill tell him that ill have to step away from contact he says not 2 it gives me like confussed signals. I feel confussed like if he was a understanding mate he'd be supportive for me to walk away

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murasaki · 11/09/2024 22:27

Don't tell him, just block your account and stop. He's yanking your strings like a puppet.

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 11/09/2024 22:34

Please, please just block him on everything, block/delete the whole app, get offline and do anything else.
Buy a face mask or do your nails, read a book or bake a cake - whatever it is that makes you feel good.

Walk away, run away, this is red flag city and you are nothing to him but an open wallet.
He'll say anything to get you to pay, but none of it is real.

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Buttercupflying · 11/09/2024 22:36

Its effected me he's all i think about and where he's so nice it makes me feel like he cares 4 me 2 but i just know it isn't real but can't except it even tho im 80% he's just using me

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murasaki · 11/09/2024 22:38

There has been more concern for your well being expressed on here than he has ever given you.

He's a faker, just after your cash. And some smutty pics as a bonus.

You are worth more than this, please believe it.

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Buttercupflying · 11/09/2024 22:46

I felt so crap after i did that on video call he showed nothing but obviously just his face i feel degraded in myself and probably messed up any kind of thing with him anyway as im not confident with my body anyway i felt so ashamed of myself but at the time felt like it was for him to make him happy but ended up feeling ashamed and not good about myself

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TheShellBeach · 11/09/2024 22:48

You're paying him to get wank fodder for himself.
SMH.