All the autumn "talk" is making me miserable.

[overgrowntoddler]

I get it . It's supposed to be cool to have autumn as your favourite season.

But all the talk of autumn is making me feel stressed (weird I know).

Opened up a next link and it jumpers, boots shades of browns and autumn leaves. Instagram is pumpkins and decorating for autumn (who know that was a thing). Then something else and another and an another.

I'm happiest in summer and fell really sad that it's ending.

Anyone else feel the same?

Oh they are on every thread!
Why, just why do they have to decry other people's pleasure?
You want to buy something nice, and you are obviously brain dead and ruled by social media! (Not to mention destroying the planet, even if it's a natural product)
God forbid you should make your house comfortable, and discuss - it's 'tedious and irrelevant', you don't talk about it, come on, you know you don't, and you certainly don't invite people round to admire your new curtains and as for baking - claptrap, absolute claptrap! You don't bake! I don't believe you.
Eating fruit? Talking about it? Twee little morons!
You know, I get that for a lot of people I have a privileged life. I have a small house and garden, I live in a friendly area, where we pass fruit and veg over the fence, and I have a little left over to enjoy a few treats, and I know that many people do not have this - I want everything that is good for those less fortunately circumstanced, but this constant 'intelligent' decrying of people's purchasing and lifestyle choices is wearing. It says far more about the poster than it does about the people they rubbish.

@gardenmusic I see all the time on MN now posters on both sides of every argument, no matter how trivial, being insanely intransigent and rude to anyone who doesn’t agree with them. It’s getting a bit out of hand.

Also, I agree with those saying that the summer wasn’t that bad. Quite average, really. I get the impression it was a lot worse in the far NW, but I’m in Manchester, and although May and June were awful, July and August were ok. Plenty of outdoor time.

@frozendaisy

Instagram and the rest has turned the human race into fake, look at me, look at what I buy and how I arrange it, I go on walks in boots and jumpers, shallow boring nonsense. And everyone else joins in trying to out cushion each other.

Trying to 'out cushion' each other!

@Anotherunpredictableday

I love autumn and like summer too, I like all the seasons really…but..I don’t like not being able to just be present in them! I don’t want to see Halloween things yet…there’s two months to go, let us enjoy the late summer and last part, before shoving us hastily on.

I saw mince pies in my local English shop the other day, completely ridiculous!

I agree with your post and I am also sick of things being shoved on us MONTHS in advance. Some of the shops started to put Christmas stuff on the shelves 2 weeks ago - while it was still August FGS! And yeah fair enough Autumn does have a certain cosiness about it. It's just cold and damp and dark too. So I do prefer Summer (and Spring!) But you're right, each season does have something going for it.

As for the mince pies though. Batshit! I mean I know some people like to buy 3-4 months in advance for Christmas, but you can't buy mince pies 3-4 months in advance, because the mother-chuffing things only have 3-4 weeks shelf life on them! I saw some in Morrisons yesterday (in the Christmas aisle with the Cadburys Roses and Quality Street and Selection Boxes, and Chocolate Santas, and Lynx Box sets etc.) Sell by date: 3rd October 2024.

For whoever said people don't get SAD in Summer:

https://www.smarttms.co.uk/reverse-seasonal-affective-disorder-what-is-it-and-what-to-do/#:~:text=What%20is%20Reverse%20SAD%3F,associated%20with%20renewal%20and%20happiness.

@HeySummerWhereAreYou if I go anywhere near "layers", "nice winter coats", boots, scarves or woolly hats the effect is more child of Compo and Vera Stanhope than model crunching through leaves 🤣 I hate how winter clothes make me look and feel.

Im the same...I like dressing in summer clothes...I just wear dresses and sandals. So comfy and easy to look nice. I hate feeling bundled up with layers. I think it's much harder to look nice in winter.

I try to enjoy all the seasons for their benefits. It’s not proper autumn yet imo. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Crunching through leaves is shoes or if necessary hiking bookts either a coat or a fleece and no scarves or hats involved.

I do own a hat but didn't use it unless I am outside for a day in freezing conditions, that doesn't happen in SE London.

Scarves - I hate them, I have a warm coat I can pull the zip up to the chin and don't need it.

You make it sound as though before Instagram everyone was depressed in autumn

Surely she's closer to saying the opposite?

I like autumn, until the clocks go back in the last week of October. If I ran the country they would not.

They’re not dying though, are they? The food that’s been made by the leaves during spring and summer, goes back into the tree, to fuel future growth, plus the next spring’s leaves and flowers/berries/nuts/fruit.

And the dead leaves go to enrich the soil.

I am obliterating autumn by prolonging Summer and going to Cyprus at half term.

Back just in time for the good bits leading up to Christmas.

Then Thailand in February.

@Vitriolinsanity this sounds like a very good plan.

I do agree that it's increasingly hard to enjoy the seasons as they happen. We've already got one eye on Christmas.
I didn't mind when Autumn was "back to school", Harvest Festival, Halloween and Bonfire Night before they all merged into one big supermarket shopping fest . Back to school starts as soon as the kids break up for summer, harvest festival is a PSHE lesson and bonfire night seems to have disappeared as anything other than an organised firework event.

I still don't feel like I've "dried out" like even summer was rain and more rain
Now it's going to be slightly colder and rainy
Followed by winter. Rain and cold
Joy

Autumn/winter is coming whether we like it or not. I think the autumn hype over the last few years is to try and make it a joyful thing, rather than a depressing thing with summer ending.

I try and embrace it - I do like Halloween, bonfire night, autumn fashion and drinks/foods. But last year i really suffered as the days turned shorter and darker, and the thought of 6 months of crap until spring arrives. I had to go back on antidepressants to get through it and I'll be sticking with them this year too.

It doesn't help that summer was almost non-existent this year and was over before it began.

It's true that seasons appear to be more similar to each other than they seemed to be, years ago.

But on the frost front, where I am in the NW there was a cold snap lasting a week or two in Dec 22, with a low of -7 degrees one evening, and the following January another hard frost saw our outdoor water pipe burst due to the frost, and it happened again this January too. So those kind of hard frosts are still happening here. I'm suburban too, not rural.

I love autumn but I get really depressed from the end of October. January and February are so long, dark and miserable that I could actually sit and cry every day until the light comes back. I’m wondering how I get in on the hibernation gig the bears have!

I agree.

I am actually looking forward to DD starting uni and us being able to go away in January or February.

The weather doesn't help. I'm glad it's reasonably mild in the winter actually. We forget just how difficult hard winters are . But.... the endless meh, gets to me. It's wet and miserable but equally plants are blooming all the way through the season. I had blossom on my cherry tree in December. It's not right.

In my world August would be boiling with a few dramatic thunderstorms through to a dry warm Indian summer until October. It would get colder until Christmas week where we would the have a solid week of snow. Then January would be cool and bright. February can be dark and rainy to fill up the reservoirs ( it's a short month) ready for a brighter less rainy March. April and May/ June would be sunny but rain every night for the garden. July would have no rain at all.

I’m an autumn/cold weather person but when I saw the leaves start falling today I actually felt a bit bad that we haven’t had much of a summer. You’re definitely right. Hopefully we get a bit more balance next year for the sun lovers.

@Everyoneesleistheproblem I would love a proper winter again. We were in Berlin last December, it was freezing, snow and ice on the ground but a lot better than the constant drizzle and temperatures of 10 degrees here in SE London.

Officially into my comfort zone now we’re in September. I’ve never felt comfortable in summer, can’t explain it and the thought of it approaching once we’re into spring makes me extremely anxious. The pressure to enjoy summer is OTT and you’re looked at as though you’re something from outer space when you say you don’t enjoy it.

@violetsunrise thats actually so interesting. The bit about summer for me is that the pressure is off, everything is so much easier.
Its easier in the light, its cheaper, less clothes, food is lighter and it's all less expensive as it's in season.. No school run cars blocking the roads and I don't need the car because I can walk. No football training hogging the park every weekend ...endlessly nicer

What is easier about autumn?

We have a holiday house in SW Florida. Honestly, if your seasons are hot and dry or hot and wet (with hurricanes), you really appreciate the UK seasons. I really love them all. But especially autumn and winter as I prefer the clothes.